{"id":31982,"date":"2019-01-30T08:16:58","date_gmt":"2019-01-30T08:16:58","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=31982"},"modified":"2022-02-20T22:42:41","modified_gmt":"2022-02-20T22:42:41","slug":"4-segni-che-nelle-vostre-relazioni-fate-sempre-la-parte-del-soccorritore","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/4-segni-che-nelle-vostre-relazioni-fate-sempre-la-parte-del-soccorritore\/","title":{"rendered":"4 segni che nelle vostre relazioni fate sempre la parte del soccorritore"},"content":{"rendered":"

Vi \u00e8 mai capitato di vivere una relazione in cui avete spesso sentito il bisogno di aggiustare il vostro partner?<\/em><\/p>\n

Do you often find yourself falling for a person in need of rescue, offering to be their \u2018\u2019knight in shining armor\u2019\u2019 and help change their bad ways?<\/em><\/p>\n

If so\u2026 did you ever stop and wonder what it does to you, and how much it drains you unnecessarily?<\/p>\n

There is absolutely nothing wrong in feeling compassion towards a person you\u2019ve come to care about and wanting to help and rescue them but never to the extent of harming yourself in any way.<\/p>\n

When you\u2019re always focused on helping others and putting that burden on yourself, you risk putting your welfare in danger and neglect making sure that YOU are okay.<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

It\u2019s one thing to essere presenti<\/span><\/a> for your partner when he needs you, but it\u2019s a whole other story when you\u2019re in the business of saving their ass on a daily basis and taking that responsibility upon yourself day after day.<\/p>\n

Fermatevi un attimo e chiedetevi perch\u00e9 continuate a trovare persone che hanno bisogno di essere salvate e come questo vi impedisca di condurre una vita pi\u00f9 spensierata.<\/p>\n

If you exhibit these 4 signs that prove you are the constant rescuer in your relationships, it\u2019s time to reevaluate your amore vita<\/span><\/a> e apportare le modifiche necessarie per il vostro bene.<\/p>\n

1. Your self-worth is contingent upon your ability to \u2018\u2019fix\u2019\u2019 your partner<\/h2>\n

Siete orgogliosi della vostra capacit\u00e0 di aggiustare e aiutare il vostro partner, che \u00e8 una componente chiave del vostro carattere relazionale.<\/p>\n

Invece di trovare un partner che sia emotivamente stabile<\/a> e appagato, cercate coloro che hanno bisogno di essere salvati per soddisfare il vostro bisogno impellente di essere il loro salvatore.<\/p>\n

Siete attratti da chi ha un pesante fardello emotivo, il che vi rende difficile concentrarvi sul vostro benessere e sulla vostra guarigione.<\/p>\n

2. Avete problemi di abbandono irrisolti che ora proiettate sul vostro partner.<\/h2>\n

Lei proviene da una famiglia in cui ha dovuto assumersi troppe responsabilit\u00e0 in un'et\u00e0 troppo giovane.<\/p>\n

You took on a parental role because one (or both) of your parents struggled with addiction or a similar issue, so now you\u2019ve projected their needs onto your partner. Since no one came to rescue your parents, you now feel it\u2019s your obligation to rescue others.<\/p>\n

This signifies a slightly unhealthy obsession with other people\u2019s problems that gives you a sense of fulfillment, and it could end up harming you in the long run.<\/p>\n

3. Idealizzate coloro che appaiono bisognosi e in difficolt\u00e0<\/h2>\n

In questo modo li si infantilizza, facendoli apparire delicati e incapaci di badare a se stessi.<\/p>\n

Cos\u00ec facendo, incoraggiate i vostri partner a fare costantemente affidamento su di voi per i pi\u00f9 piccoli problemi, rendendovi responsabili della loro felicit\u00e0.<\/p>\n

Vi appesantite con comportamenti distruttivi che inevitabilmente vi svuotano di energia e di mente sana, finch\u00e9 non vi rendete conto che ogni individuo \u00e8 responsabile della propria felicit\u00e0. Metterla interamente nelle vostre mani \u00e8 malsano, ingiusto e, francamente, troppo da gestire.<\/p>\n

4. You end up controlling your partner\u2019s life under the pretenses of helping them<\/h2>\n

Siete troppo concentrati su ci\u00f2 che il vostro partner dovrebbe o non dovrebbe fare e finite per controllare il suo stile di vita.<\/p>\n

What this shows is the lack of control you have of your own life which you compensate for by trying to \u2018help\u2019 your partner, even when they don\u2019t ask for help.<\/p>\n

Vi illudete di salvarli e di migliorare la qualit\u00e0 della loro vita, il che vi permette di sfuggire alle vostre difficolt\u00e0 e ai problemi che non siete pronti ad affrontare.<\/p>\n

If you feel like any of these signs relate to you, it\u2019s important that you evaluate your relationship, yourself as an individual, and any issues that may stem from earlier stages of your life.<\/em><\/p>\n

Rendetevi conto che state proiettando le vostre insicurezze\/problemi\/ferite irrisolte sul vostro partner e che, cos\u00ec facendo, non fate altro che prolungare i vostri problemi interiori che devono essere portati in superficie e affrontati.<\/p>\n

Stop trying to save people, regardless of them asking it from you or not. It is not your job to be anybody\u2019s rescuer. That is on them.<\/p>\n

While you\u2019re so busy trying to save everybody else, you easily forget the one person who needs to be saved the most \u2013 YOU.<\/p>\n

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Have you ever been in a relationship where you often felt you needed to fix your partner? Do you often find yourself falling for a person in need of rescue, offering to be their \u2018\u2019knight in shining armor\u2019\u2019 and help change their bad ways? If so\u2026 did you ever stop and wonder what it does…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":25,"featured_media":31983,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29622],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-31982","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-relationship-advice"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29622,"label":"relationship advice"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/01\/priscilla.jpg",800,533,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Amy Nicholson","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/author\/amy\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29622,"name":"relationship advice","slug":"relationship-advice","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29622,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Making all aspects of your relationship work is one of the biggest challenges. Here, you can find advice for most of the issues you might encounter. ","parent":29620,"count":544,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29622,"category_count":544,"category_description":"Making all aspects of your relationship work is one of the biggest challenges. Here, you can find advice for most of the issues you might encounter. ","cat_name":"relationship advice","category_nicename":"relationship-advice","category_parent":29620}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/31982","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/25"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=31982"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/31982\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/31983"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=31982"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=31982"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=31982"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}