{"id":31986,"date":"2020-01-23T08:30:10","date_gmt":"2020-01-23T08:30:10","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=31986"},"modified":"2022-02-27T14:07:02","modified_gmt":"2022-02-27T14:07:02","slug":"6-cose-che-sono-successe-quando-ho-lasciato-la-mia-quasi-relazione","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/6-cose-che-sono-successe-quando-ho-lasciato-la-mia-quasi-relazione\/","title":{"rendered":"6 cose che sono successe quando ho lasciato la mia quasi relazione"},"content":{"rendered":"

Quando ci si trova in una quasi relazione, non si fanno le cose a met\u00e0. Si vuole trattenere, ma si investe completamente.<\/p>\n

Condividete tutti i vostri pensieri e sogni. Ridete a tutto volume. Vi baciate pi\u00f9 forte che potete, perch\u00e9 non sapete mai quale di quei baci sar\u00e0 l'ultimo.<\/p>\n

You don\u2019t half love, even though you maybe would if you could. You are veramente, follemente, profondamente innamorati<\/a> nella vostra quasi persona, e non potete fare nulla per fermarvi.<\/p>\n

At least I couldn\u2019t. No matter how many times I said to myself that what I had with him was going nowhere, that I shouldn\u2019t let him in, and that he was just going to hurt me, I allowed things to evolve.<\/p>\n

Per un breve ma lungo momento ho sentito di essere la persona pi\u00f9 speciale per lui. Sentivo di essere importante e che non c'era nessuno al mondo che potesse farmi sentire come lui.<\/p>\n

I didn’t imagine things. I didn\u2019t misinterpret the signs. They were all there.<\/p>\n

He really liked me. He was really drawn to me. He really cared, but sadly, he didn\u2019t care as much as I did.<\/p>\n

He never cared enough to bridge the distance from \u2018almost\u2019 to \u2018real\u2019.<\/p>\n

So I used to live my life in the grey area of \u2018maybe\u2019. Maybe he will be ready for a relationship someday.<\/p>\n

Forse mi presenter\u00e0 ai suoi amici e alla sua famiglia. Forse mi tratter\u00e0 come se fossi importante per lui. Forse diventer\u00e0 l'uomo che merito. Forse non ci sar\u00e0 spazio per i forse.<\/p>\n

L'elenco dei \"forse\" continuava ad accumularsi, ma non era mai abbastanza per colmare il vuoto dentro di me che si allargava sempre di pi\u00f9 con l'insoddisfazione per l'intera situazione.<\/p>\n

I don\u2019t know at which point my patience ceased to exist. I don\u2019t know what was the last drop that filled the cup and made me see that enough was enough, but I just knew I had to end it because with him, I would never have it all. I would never be truly happy.<\/p>\n

Si \u00e8 rivelata la decisione migliore che abbia mai preso, e questo \u00e8 ci\u00f2 che \u00e8 accaduto quando Ho lasciato<\/a> la mia quasi relazione:<\/p>\n

1. Lasciarlo mi ha spezzato il cuore, ma andava fatto.<\/h2>\n

Probabilmente \u00e8 stata una delle cose pi\u00f9 difficili che abbia mai fatto. Ero ancora presa da lui.<\/p>\n

I still loved him. I still cared. But I couldn\u2019t take it anymore.<\/p>\n

Era tempo di riprendere il controllo della mia vita. Era tempo di ricordare ci\u00f2 che meritavo e di dimenticare ci\u00f2 che sentivo.<\/p>\n

2. Ho capito che amo anche me stesso<\/h2>\n

Ho capito che meritavo di essere amata come ho amato lui. Meritavo la stessa comprensione e gli stessi investimenti che gli davo.<\/p>\n

Meritavo qualcosa di pi\u00f9 di un \"quasi\". Meritavo qualcuno che fosse pronto per una relazione o almeno qualcuno che fosse pronto per me.<\/p>\n

Aveva avuto molto tempo per arrivare a quel punto, forse anche troppo. Mi sono stancato di aspettare.<\/p>\n

3. Il mio cuore aveva bisogno di molto tempo per guarire<\/h2>\n

All the emotions were real, and this isn\u2019t something you can turn your back on that easily. Even when he was no longer a part of my life, I still wanted to know where he was and what he was up to.<\/p>\n

Mi ci \u00e8 voluto molto tempo per smettere di seguirlo sui social media e di chiedere in giro di lui. Mi ci \u00e8 voluto molto tempo per interrompere l'abitudine di pensare a lui.<\/p>\n

Ho dovuto affrontare quello che ogni persona affronta... dopo la rottura<\/span><\/a>.<\/p>\n

E indovinate un po'? Sono sopravvissuto. Ho fatto molto di pi\u00f9. Ho iniziato a vivere davvero la mia vita, per cambiare.<\/p>\n

4. Ho visto i lati positivi<\/h2>\n

There were no more sleepless nights which I spend thinking about where he was at and with whom. Were all his female friends just friends or were they like me…more than a friend less than a girlfriend?<\/p>\n

The tears I spilled while I was still with him used to hurt more. It was devastatingly painful to have someone close and not to have him entirely at the same time. It\u2019s the loneliest feeling in the world.<\/p>\n

Non c'erano pi\u00f9 forse. Smisi di pensare alle cose che avrebbero potuto essere e mi concentrai sul qui e ora. Decisi di ricostruire la mia vita mattone dopo mattone.<\/p>\n

5. I discovered a part of me that I didn\u2019t even know was there<\/h2>\n

I had to do something to move on with my life. That\u2019s why I stopped feeling sorry for myself and everything that could’ve been but wasn\u2019t and started acting.<\/p>\n

Ho provato cose nuove. Ho intrapreso nuove avventure. Ho imparato cose nuove e ho lavorato per migliorare la mia vita.<\/p>\n

Sometimes I failed. sometimes I triumphed, but I tried, and that\u2019s what\u2019s important.<\/p>\n

Ho reso la mia vita pi\u00f9 interessante. Ho conosciuto nuove persone e ho acquisito una nuova prospettiva di vita.<\/p>\n

6. Ho capito cosa voglio e cosa non dovrei mai accontentarmi.<\/h2>\n

I know now that I want a relationship. I don\u2019t need one, and as sure as hell I don\u2019t need an almost relationship to be happy and complete.<\/p>\n

I was more miserable in my almost relationship than I could ever be on my own. That\u2019s why I will never settle for that again.<\/p>\n

Finch\u00e9 non arriver\u00e0 qualcuno che \u00e8 pronto per una relazione e che \u00e8 innamorato di me come io lo sono di lui, rester\u00f2 single e ne trarr\u00f2 il meglio.<\/p>\n

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