{"id":32057,"date":"2019-10-31T12:55:12","date_gmt":"2019-10-31T12:55:12","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=32057"},"modified":"2021-08-11T10:11:03","modified_gmt":"2021-08-11T10:11:03","slug":"smettila-di-mentire-a-te-stessa-se-non-ti-tratta-bene-ora-non-lo-fara-mai","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/smettila-di-mentire-a-te-stessa-se-non-ti-tratta-bene-ora-non-lo-fara-mai\/","title":{"rendered":"Smetti di mentire a te stessa: Se non ti tratta bene ora, non lo far\u00e0 mai"},"content":{"rendered":"

Sei una persona che crede nel bene delle persone. Una ragazza che ha fede nel fatto che il suo amore \u00e8 una forza onnipotente che pu\u00f2 cambiare e sistemare chi ha bisogno di essere salvato.<\/span><\/p>\n

You are an optimistic girl who believes in a better tomorrow, even if it\u2019s against all odds. A girl who believes that things always find a way of sorting themselves out, one way or another.<\/span><\/p>\n

Questo vale soprattutto per le relazioni sentimentali. Anche se tutti continuano a dirvi che <\/span>your boyfriend isn\u2019t good enough<\/span><\/a> per voi, scegliete di ignorarle. <\/span><\/p>\n

Non solo<\/span>\u2014<\/span>scegliete anche di ignorare il vostro intuito e quella vocina in fondo alla testa che vi dice che lui non vi ha mai meritato e mai lo far\u00e0.<\/span><\/p>\n

So, despite the way he\u2019s been treating you, you keep on hoping that eventually he\u2019ll change. <\/b><\/p>\n

You keep on hoping that one of these days, things will magically fall into place and that he\u2019ll turn into the man you hope for him to become.<\/b><\/p>\n

That one of these days, he\u2019ll realize how much you mean to him, that he\u2019ll realize how much pain he\u2019s been causing you all along and just like that<\/span>\u2014<\/span>he\u2019ll start treating you differently. <\/span><\/p>\n

That he\u2019ll start regretting the way he keeps on breaking your heart and that he\u2019ll finally take responsibility for his actions. That one of these days, he\u2019ll understand all of his mistakes and that he\u2019ll do everything in his power to change his ways.<\/span><\/p>\n

So che volete che le cose con quest'uomo funzionino nel miglior modo possibile. So che vuole che questa relazione abbia successo e so che spera davvero che lo abbia.<\/span><\/p>\n

Tuttavia, <\/span>all of this doesn\u2019t give you the right to lie to yourself. It doesn\u2019t give you the right to close your eyes to the obvious truth and to keep looking for excuses for this guy\u2019s behavior. <\/b><\/p>\n

It doesn\u2019t justify the fact that you keep lying to yourself just so you could continue being with him.<\/b><\/p>\n

However, this is exactly what you\u2019ve been doing. You\u2019ve been living a lie and you\u2019ve been deceiving yourself, believing that this man will eventually change.<\/span><\/p>\n

You refuse to look the truth in the eye and see him for who he really is. You refuse to accept the fact that things won\u2019t be different and that he won\u2019t miraculously become your dream guy.<\/span><\/p>\n

No, he isn\u2019t going through a rough patch<\/b>\u2014<\/b>questo \u00e8 il vero lui. <\/b><\/p>\n

No, non \u00e8 una fase<\/b>\u2014<\/b>\u00c8 cos\u00ec che le cose tra voi due saranno per sempre, a meno che non mettiate fine a questa relazione.<\/b><\/p>\n

Quindi, per favore, smettete di mentire a voi stessi. Smettete di aspettare un cambiamento che non avverr\u00e0 mai e accettate la realt\u00e0, per quanto dura o dolorosa possa essere.<\/span><\/p>\n

Please, take your rose-tinted glasses off and see this man\u2019s true colors. See that he will never treat you the way you deserve and that he will never give you the love you need.<\/span><\/p>\n

Let\u2019s face it<\/span>\u2014<\/span>most of the time, this man acts like he doesn\u2019t give a damn about your relationship. <\/span><\/p>\n

He treats you like his second choice, he doesn\u2019t give you the place you deserve in his life and he doesn\u2019t respect you the way he should.<\/span><\/p>\n

Il pi\u00f9 delle volte, quest'uomo <\/span>treats you like he doesn\u2019t care about you<\/span><\/a>. So, why exactly don\u2019t you start believing him?<\/span><\/p>\n

Quando smetterai di sperare in lui? Quando smetterai di aspettarti che lui si dia una regolata e inizi a darti l'amore e le attenzioni di cui hai bisogno? <\/span><\/p>\n

Che cosa deve fare perch\u00e9 tu smetta di dargli infinite seconde possibilit\u00e0, perch\u00e9 tu smetta di credere alle sue vuote promesse e perch\u00e9 tu smetta di mettere la tua vita in attesa che lui cambi?<\/span><\/p>\n

What does it take for you to understand that if he doesn\u2019t treat you the way he should now, chances are that he never will? <\/b><\/p>\n

If he isn\u2019t putting any effort into your relationship now, he probably never will. If he doesn\u2019t love you enough now, that won\u2019t change in the future.<\/b><\/p>\n

Please, stop thinking that one of these days, he\u2019ll wake up and suddenly come to his senses. Stop waiting for him to <\/span>vedere il vostro vero valore and for him to start appreciating everything you\u2019ve been giving him because that will never happen.<\/span>
\n<\/b><\/p>\n

Please, don\u2019t waste any more of your time or efforts on someone who clearly doesn\u2019t deserve you. Instead, pack your bags and leave his sorry ass in the past, where he belongs. <\/b><\/p>\n

Fidati di me<\/b>\u2014<\/b>sar\u00e0 la migliore decisione della vostra vita.<\/b><\/p>\n

\"Smetti<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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