{"id":32153,"date":"2019-02-04T11:03:27","date_gmt":"2019-02-04T11:03:27","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=32153"},"modified":"2022-02-20T23:30:30","modified_gmt":"2022-02-20T23:30:30","slug":"17-cose-da-sapere-quando-si-esce-con-qualcuno-che-soffre-di-ansia","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/17-cose-da-sapere-quando-si-esce-con-qualcuno-che-soffre-di-ansia\/","title":{"rendered":"17 cose da sapere quando si esce con una persona che soffre di ansia"},"content":{"rendered":"

Uscire con una persona affetta da ansia pu\u00f2 essere molto complicato, ma se la si ama, si far\u00e0 di tutto per stare con lei. Una relazione con una persona di questo tipo pu\u00f2 essere normale come le altre relazioni che avete avuto nella vostra vita, se la vedete in questo modo.<\/p>\n

If you make a problem out of it, you will have a problem. But if you enjoy your relationship and act as normal as you can, there won\u2019t be any bigger problems you will have to solve. What you need to know is that dating someone with anxiety can be the best thing that has ever happened to you because people like that can love unconditionally.<\/p>\n

They don\u2019t have any problems with going the extra mile for you, and they would do anything for real love. But before you fall for una persona con ansia<\/a>ci sono un paio di cose che dovete sapere. Non per essere preparati o altro, ma per rendersi conto che la vita con queste persone pu\u00f2 essere una benedizione se la si riconosce in tempo.<\/p>\n

1. Anxiety won\u2019t be the biggest problem in their relationship<\/h2>\n

The thing is that when dating someone with anxiety, you don\u2019t have to worry that it will be the biggest problem. In fact, it doesn\u2019t need to be a problem at all. If you understand your partner and if you see that they are going through a rough time, you can be there for them.<\/p>\n

I am not saying that you will neglect yourself and turn completely to your partner, but giving them support and telling them you are there will mean the world to them. Their mental health condition is already a big issue in their lives, and they surely don\u2019t need someone who will make things even worse. Instead, they need a loving and caring partner, and if they have a person like that in their lives, they will be the happiest people in the world.<\/p>\n

Quindi, il punto \u00e8 che l'ansia (o la ansia da relazione<\/a>) is not actually a big problem until it is severe and until a person can\u2019t function normally because of it. <\/p>\n

2. Anxiety doesn\u2019t make them weak<\/h2>\n

\"17La cosa che sento dire pi\u00f9 spesso ultimamente \u00e8 che persone con ansia<\/a> are weak. But you know what? That is the craziest thing I\u2019ve heard so far. There are so many people in my life who struggle with anxiety on a daily basis, and I would never say that they have a problem.<\/p>\n

Anzi, ne escono cos\u00ec forti e allegri che non si pu\u00f2 dire che abbiano una qualche malattia mentale. Quindi, chi dice che l'ansia rende le persone deboli si sbaglia al 100%. Quando si soffre di ansia, si ha una visione diversa della vita. Combatti ogni giorno con i demoni che hai dentro e, nonostante il fatto che il tuo mondo stia andando in pezzi, cerchi di essere la versione migliore di te stesso.<\/p>\n

When you have anxiety, you fight like a lioness every day because every single thing that you do takes so much effort. Even things that seem to be pretty normal for the rest of the people are things you don\u2019t want to do because you don\u2019t feel good doing them. It is a constant fight but you never give up. Never!<\/p>\n

3. L'ansia pu\u00f2 dare lezioni<\/h2>\n

Anche se non ci avete mai pensato, l'ansia pu\u00f2 insegnare alle persone alcune lezioni preziose. Possono imparare a trovare un meccanismo di difesa o a funzionare facendo cose che non avevano mai fatto prima. Possono persino imparare ad agire con calma in situazioni che prima li mettevano a disagio.
\nThey can learn how to function under stress without losing their minds. But the fact is that after all that they have gone through, they will never be the same. They will be more aware of the things that happen around them. They will cherish life because it is a blessing, and they realize that they shouldn\u2019t take it for granted.<\/p>\n

When dating someone with anxiety, you will learn to cherish those small things that we all take for granted. You learn to enjoy life in ways you never thought you will. You will start realizing that every new day is a new chance to become a better person. You will see that people like that ask for so little and that in fact, they don\u2019t need anything big to make them happy.<\/p>\n

4. They need your love and affection \u2013 every single day<\/h2>\n

People with anxiety need some extra push. That means they will need you to tell them that you love them and that their mental illness is not a burden for you. You need to let them know that no matter what happens, you will always be there and that you won\u2019t stop loving them, even on their bad days.<\/p>\n

Telling them that you love them every day can make them feel so much better. Things that are so small to you mean the world to them. Just one kiss, one hug, asking how their day was \u2013 it means so much to them. So, if you love your partner but you don\u2019t know how to behave because they suffer from anxiety, just show them your love and affection. Trust me, when they see that they are important to you, they will give you their heart and soul.<\/p>\n

They will fight for your love no matter how hard it might be. Those people won\u2019t have a problem going the extra mile to improve your relationship because they have a clean heart and soul. They just had the bad luck to meet anxiety and be her prisoner for a big amount of time. People like that are the best to fall in love with because they will never take advantage of you. Instead, they will invest themselves all in a relationship, and they will do everything to make it work.<\/p>\n

5. Si preoccupano troppo, ma solo un vostro tocco pu\u00f2 farli sentire tranquilli.<\/h2>\n

When dating someone with anxiety, you need to know that they always think of the worst scenario that can happen. If they have problems at work, they will think that their boss will fire them. If they didn\u2019t accept the invitation of a friend for a coffee, they will believe their friend will stop hanging out with them.<\/p>\n

Their brain works on maximum all the time, and even when they sleep, they will wake up all the time if they have a problem to solve. In situations like that, they will need your help. When you see that they are distant and that they are listening to you but in fact, they are not present there, don\u2019t be harsh on them. Tell them that you understand them. Tell them they can count on you. That will mean so much to them, and they will instantly feel better. A person with anxiety needs so little to feel special.<\/p>\n

They just need someone who understands them and knows how they feel. They just need someone to whom they can tell all that is on their soul. So, please be that person. Be the one who will help them carry their burden and help them set boundaries they shouldn\u2019t cross.<\/p>\n

6. L'ansia non \u00e8 qualcosa che si pu\u00f2 semplicemente curare<\/h2>\n

\"17The worst thing when dating someone with anxiety is trying to fix them. You can\u2019t be your partner\u2019s therapist. You can\u2019t fix them, but you can hold them while they are fixing themselves. You can be their support and someone they can count on when sorrow strikes again. Because there will be a lot of depressed moments in their lives, and you will have to learn to live with them.
\nWhen accepting someone, you need to accept all that they carry along. Otherwise, it is not love and it doesn\u2019t make any sense. So, whatever you do, don\u2019t think that you can control their illness. Don\u2019t think that there are some amazing pills they need to try or some therapist they need to visit.<\/p>\n

They are already controlled by their anxiety, and the last thing they need is to be controlled by you. So, give them a break. Be with them, but don\u2019t parlare di ansia<\/a>. Parlate invece di cose felici, di cose di cui siete orgogliosi. Parlate dei vostri progetti insieme e di come li realizzerete. Questo vi aiuter\u00e0 ad avere un rapporto normale e relazione felice<\/a>, and you won\u2019t talk about problems all the time.<\/p>\n

7. They will be nervous and scared about things that didn\u2019t happen<\/h2>\n

When dating someone with anxiety, you need to know that they will worry about things that you don\u2019t even think of. And the biggest problem is that their worrying too much will affect your relationship. But it is not because they want it, but because they simply can\u2019t control it. And they know that they can be hard to handle for someone, but they hope the right one will recognize their love.<\/p>\n

They just want someone who will be able to understand what they are going through and will try to put themselves in their shoes. Because worrying too much about things that are not so important and having someone who can\u2019t understand why they feel like that is something they don\u2019t want to happen to them. Having to worry about something that others don\u2019t even think about is what happens to them every day. And living with that pressure is extremely difficult.<\/p>\n

Quindi, in tutta questa confusione, siate qualcuno che dica loro che li capite e che va bene sentirsi cos\u00ec. Dite loro che non sono pazzi perch\u00e9 si preoccupano troppo, ma che cercherete di aiutarli a rilassarsi un po'. Quando vedranno che state offrendo il vostro aiuto, sar\u00e0 pi\u00f9 facile e forse, ma solo forse, impareranno a rilassarsi e a divertirsi.<\/p>\n

8. Imparare cosa scatena l'ansia ed evitarlo<\/h2>\n

\"17When you date someone with anxiety, you definitely don\u2019t want to hurt them. That\u2019s why you need to learn what triggers their anxiety and try to avoid those things. For example, if your partner suffers from social anxiety, you don\u2019t need to push her to go to social gatherings and be with people you like to talk to. She won\u2019t know what to say among all those people, and you will feel bad for bringing her there.<\/p>\n

Instead, let her decide when she wants to accompany you. In that way she will have complete freedom, and everything will be different. She won\u2019t have the feeling that she needs to go somewhere but that she has an option to go somewhere with you or to stay home. Maybe if she feels good that day and if there are no panic attacks or extreme anxiety, she might come along with you.<\/p>\n

La cosa pi\u00f9 importante \u00e8 darle la possibilit\u00e0 di decidere cosa \u00e8 meglio per lei. Credetemi, le farete un enorme favore e si sentir\u00e0 bene con tutta la situazione. In questo modo, la state aiutando, anche se a voi sembra poco. Per lei \u00e8 la cosa migliore che possiate fare e sar\u00e0 la donna pi\u00f9 felice del mondo ad avere una persona cos\u00ec nella sua vita.<\/p>\n

9. Il loro scopo non \u00e8 quello di apparire freddi e distanti.<\/h2>\n

If your romantic partner has anxiety, you need to know that they will come off as distant and cold sometimes. But that is not true. People with anxiety are the warmest and most loving people I know. There is so much love in them, but they don\u2019t know how to show it. So, others who don\u2019t have half the love they have can come off as people with bigger hearts and a lot of emotions.
\nBut the real truth is that the anxious ones have love for the entire world, but it is very hard for them to show it to others. So, when you see that your loved one can\u2019t show their emotions in the right way, don\u2019t be too harsh on them because of that. It is already very difficult for them to know that they have so much to offer but they can\u2019t express it. Instead, be their support and tell them that you understand them.<\/p>\n

In fact, try to understand them because it will be easier to see how they actually feel. Show them that you can see all that they are going through and that you want to be their support wherever they need you. That will be the best gift you can give to them because they will finally find someone who gets them, even if they don\u2019t have to explain anything.<\/p>\n

10. They don\u2019t want you to pity them<\/h2>\n

\"17The worst thing you can say to someone with anxiety is that you pity them. I understand that you worry about them and everything, but saying something like that to them would make them feel even worse. So, don\u2019t ever say something like that because it won\u2019t help them. At all. Instead, praise all the good things they do because in that way, they will feel like they did a good thing.<\/p>\n

They will feel useful, and their self-esteem will be higher. I am not saying you will tell them something like \u201cgood job\u201d every time they park their car properly or when they eat everything from their plate. They are not kids, and you shouldn\u2019t behave like that to them. Instead, talk to them like an adult, and tell them that they should keep up the good work when they do something good.<\/p>\n

The most important thing in all of that is that they feel good in their own skins. If they are fulfilled with their lives, they will have more energy to do every day\u2019s tasks more easily. If they hear only one word of support from you, they will feel like they did the most important thing that can be done. So, please don\u2019t pity them because they are only humans. It will hurt them, and they will think they are incapable of doing the good things.<\/p>\n

11. Their anxiety doesn\u2019t define them<\/h2>\n

When dating someone with anxiety, you need to know that their anxiety doesn\u2019t define them. You can\u2019t say that they are different from the rest of the people just because they have a mental illness. They are just like you and me, but there are days when they are struggling a bit more than the rest of us.<\/p>\n

There are days when they feel like they will burn out because of their jobs or their private problems. There are days when they don\u2019t actually think they are worthy and capable of solving some problems. But those are just i giorni difficili<\/a>. Nei giorni buoni, sorridono come tutti noi. Si prendono gioco di tutte le cose brutte che gli accadono e credono di poter fare tutto il necessario per costruirsi una buona vita. In quei giorni, non si direbbe mai che hanno una malattia mentale.<\/p>\n

In giornate come questa, sono allegri, sorridono e si direbbe che siano le persone pi\u00f9 felici del mondo. Ma il problema \u00e8 che dietro il loro sorriso si nasconde un sacco di dolore. Stanno solo cercando di indossare una maschera di felicit\u00e0 e di essere come il resto della gente, per una volta. E poich\u00e9 per loro \u00e8 estremamente difficile, impiegheranno molte energie in questo senso. Ma ne varr\u00e0 la pena perch\u00e9 si sentiranno cos\u00ec vivi e sar\u00e0 la sensazione migliore per loro.<\/p>\n

12. Hanno bisogno che li accettiate cos\u00ec come sono.<\/h2>\n

\"17People with anxiety are aware of the fact that there are days when they will be different from the rest of the people. But they know that days like that will pass and that they have to get up every morning and fight the most important battle \u2013 the one for their lives. They are already struggling to act as normal as they can, especially if they are suffering from severe anxiety, and that\u2019s why they need you to accept them just the way they are.<\/p>\n

That means they don\u2019t need you to tell them what to do and how to behave to feel better but to be okay with every decision they make. And if you do that, it will mean the world to them. It will mean that their voice has been heard and that someone is actually paying attention to them.<\/p>\n

You see, accepting someone with anxiety isn\u2019t anything different from accepting someone who doesn\u2019t have it. It is all about if you like the person or you don\u2019t. If you like them, you will accept anything that happens to them, and if you don\u2019t like them, you will never be able to find a middle ground with them. As simple as that.<\/p>\n

13. Hanno bisogno che li ascoltiate<\/h2>\n

If your partner is suffering from anxiety, they will need you to listen to them more than anything. That means focusing on what they say and trying to help them with your advice. If you can\u2019t help them or if you see that the topic is pretty delicate, you don\u2019t need to give them any answers but at least be there to listen to what they have to say.<\/p>\n

Sometimes, things look different when you say them out loud. In that way, they get the different meaning, and you can actually realize things you couldn\u2019t before. So, when your partner speaks, listen to them. They are probably telling you things that they can\u2019t tell to anyone else, and they see you as some sort of a savior.<\/p>\n

Credetemi, hanno impiegato molto tempo per trovare il coraggio di aprirsi con voi. E se si sono gi\u00e0 sforzati di farlo, siate il loro sostegno e chiedete loro come potete aiutarli. Saranno loro a dirvi se hanno bisogno di aiuto in quel momento o solo di qualcuno che li ascolti. Vedranno che siete una persona a cui possono raccontare tutto e saranno completamente onesti con voi.<\/p>\n

14. Don\u2019t push them to do things they don\u2019t want to<\/h2>\n

\"17Living with anxiety is not easy at all, and that is something you need to know if you date someone with anxiety. Those people literally fight every day and pushing them to do things they are not comfortable with will just make it all worse. So, if they don\u2019t feel good doing something you like, you can do it by yourself.<\/p>\n

If you push them, they will just get nervous, and they will have a panic attack because they won\u2019t know what to do and how to act in a situation that is new for them. So, whatever you do, don\u2019t be the one who will cause them extra stress and pressure. Instead, be their calm harbor, their person they can always count on. If they see that you get them and that you are leaving them to decide what is best for them, they will appreciate it very much.<\/p>\n

Questo dimostrer\u00e0 loro quanto siete un sostegno per loro e vi ameranno per questo. Ed \u00e8 di questo che hanno bisogno alla fine. Qualcuno che capisca che la loro malattia mentale non \u00e8 un grosso problema e che con le forze unite possono risolvere ogni ostacolo sulla strada.<\/p>\n

15. Avranno dei crolli mentali<\/h2>\n

Yes, they will have mental breakdowns, and they will tell you they are sorry for it every time it happens. But the truth is that they actually can\u2019t control it. Anxiety is something that is a part of them, but they don\u2019t know all about it yet. Sometimes they will get nervous because of the smallest things, but sometimes some big problems won\u2019t be so big for them. It all depends on their day and the phase they are into.<\/p>\n

When they have a mental breakdown, they will act like someone you don\u2019t recognize anymore, but that isn\u2019t their fault at all. They simply can\u2019t affect it, and they are sorry that you have to watch all that is happening to them. They know that you might leave because they are all mess, but on the other hand, they would love if you could stay and fight that battle with them.<\/p>\n

Vogliono solo vedere che vi preoccupate e che volete aiutarli restando l\u00ec e rappresentando il muro a cui appoggiarsi.<\/p>\n

16. Saranno le persone pi\u00f9 affettuose che avrete mai nella vostra vita.<\/h2>\n

\"17Quando si esce con qualcuno che soffre di ansia, si imparano tante cose importanti. Imparerete ad avere a cuore la vita e la vostra salute. Imparerete che un uomo sano ha 1000 desideri, ma uno malato ne ha solo uno. E capirete che la vita pu\u00f2 trasformarsi nel peggiore degli incubi in una sola notte.<\/p>\n

Ma la cosa pi\u00f9 importante \u00e8 che imparerete a rispettare la persona che lotta contro l'ansia. Sarete cos\u00ec orgogliosi della persona che vive con voi e che cerca di essere la versione migliore di se stessa quando \u00e8 con voi, mentre tutto il suo mondo sta andando a rotoli. Vedrete che le persone con ansia lottano ogni giorno per avere una giornata il pi\u00f9 normale possibile.<\/p>\n

And you will be so proud of them\u2014for their strength, their energy, their positivity that they somehow bring out. You will be proud of them because with all their problems, they will think of you and your well-being. They will sacrifice things that mean so much to them, so you would feel better. And you know why? Because they love you and because they see everything that you are doing for them.<\/p>\n

\u00c8 qualcosa che non dimenticheranno mai e penseranno a quanto sono stati fortunati ad avervi nella loro vita. E, cosa ancora pi\u00f9 importante, non dimenticheranno mai darvi per scontati<\/a>.<\/p>\n

17. Si commuovono per le cose pi\u00f9 piccole<\/h2>\n

People with anxiety can get very emotional over the smallest things. They will cry when watching a sad movie or when reading a sad book. They feel everything so strongly, and that\u2019s why they seem to be like someone who is crying over everything. But that doesn\u2019t make them weak.<\/p>\n

That just means they were too strong for too long. They are very empathetic, and they can feel other people\u2019s pain. They don\u2019t need to ask someone if they are okay because they can see that by just looking them in the eye. If you have people like this in your life, just know that you have people who will know how you feel in every moment and who will see that your struggle is real.<\/p>\n

Faranno di tutto per farvi sentire meglio, perch\u00e9 sanno cosa si prova ad essere tristi o depressi per tutto il tempo. Le persone con ansia sono i migliori amici e partner amorosi, perch\u00e9 l'amore \u00e8 l'emozione pi\u00f9 importante di tutte. Quando amano, si danno completamente da fare. Vogliono tutto o niente.<\/p>\n

Saranno sempre quelli che faranno il passo pi\u00f9 lungo della gamba in una relazione. Vi dimostreranno sempre quanto vi amano e vi vogliono bene e non vi daranno mai per scontati.<\/p>\n

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