{"id":3217,"date":"2020-08-08T12:48:05","date_gmt":"2020-08-08T12:48:05","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/herway.net\/?p=3217"},"modified":"2022-03-18T00:29:42","modified_gmt":"2022-03-18T00:29:42","slug":"ragazze-che-cadono-ragazzi-cattivi-3-giochi-mentali-dei-narcisisti","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/ragazze-che-cadono-ragazzi-cattivi-3-giochi-mentali-dei-narcisisti\/","title":{"rendered":"A tutte le ragazze che si innamorano dei cattivi ragazzi: ecco 3 giochi mentali che tutti i narcisisti fanno con noi"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Penso che sia una maledizione fissarsi su ragazzi che non vanno bene per noi, eppure lo facciamo.<\/p>\n<p>La domanda \u00e8, <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/relationship\/4-motivi-per-cui-le-donne-rimangono-in-una-cattiva-relazione\/\">why don\u2019t we leave when we notice somebody is toxic to us?<\/a><\/p>\n<p>Why can\u2019t we pack our things and go? This would save so much of our time and would spare us so many sleepless nights or the nights we\u2019re crying ourselves to sleep.<\/p>\n<p><b>When we first meet a toxic person who everybody\u2019s warned us about, we get blinded by their attention directed toward us, and we think we\u2019re special because out of all the people, they\u2019ve chosen to like us. <\/b><\/p>\n<p><b><i>It\u2019s such a privilege, there must be something amazing about us! <\/i><\/b><\/p>\n<p><b>The only thing that\u2019s amazing is how naive we can be to think we\u2019re actually something special when, in fact, we\u2019re food for the worst human predators ever.<\/b><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-102227\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/sad-woman-sitting-on-the-couch-in-the-living-room.jpg\" alt=\"donna triste seduta sul divano in salotto\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/sad-woman-sitting-on-the-couch-in-the-living-room.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/sad-woman-sitting-on-the-couch-in-the-living-room-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/sad-woman-sitting-on-the-couch-in-the-living-room-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/sad-woman-sitting-on-the-couch-in-the-living-room-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/sad-woman-sitting-on-the-couch-in-the-living-room-720x481.jpg 720w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p><b>And although they\u2019re withdrawn emotionally, we stay and keep waiting for them to open up to us because we think we will be the one to change them. <\/b><\/p>\n<p><b>Ma ancora una volta, essere cos\u00ec ingenui non pu\u00f2 che portarci alla rovina, anche se all'inizio speravamo di essere degli eroi. <\/b><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.yourtango.com\/experts\/lucia\/12-reasons-women-can-t-stand-nice-guys\" rel=\"noopener\">Ragazze che si innamorano dei cattivi ragazzi<\/a> diventare dipendenti dagli alti e bassi delle relazioni.<\/p>\n<p>We get intoxicated by the feelings that a toxic relationship awakens in us and this might answer the question of why we aren\u2019t leaving.<\/p>\n<p>Con la nostra tendenza a frequentare <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/tratti-da-cattivo-ragazzo\/\">ragazzi cattivi<\/a>, we don\u2019t give up easily. We stay and we fight harder instead of leaving. And in doing so, narcissistic people strengthen our addiction with their mistreatment.<\/p>\n<p>Sembra che pi\u00f9 il livello di dolore \u00e8 alto, pi\u00f9 diventiamo appiccicosi.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Narcissists \u2018lovebomb\u2019 their victims in the beginning.<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-102228\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/man-kissing-woman-in-forehead.jpg\" alt=\"uomo che bacia la donna sulla fronte\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/man-kissing-woman-in-forehead.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/man-kissing-woman-in-forehead-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/man-kissing-woman-in-forehead-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/man-kissing-woman-in-forehead-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/man-kissing-woman-in-forehead-720x481.jpg 720w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Don\u2019t be mistaken\u2014every single one of them does it.<\/p>\n<p>We fall for their \u2018you-are-my-soulmate\u2019 story. They all make a good impression at first and we often (and more than we should), believe the story they sell us about themselves.<\/p>\n<p>Fingono di avere intenzioni pure e all'inizio ci fanno sentire speciali. Ma tutto questo non dura a lungo.<\/p>\n<p>Quando si tratta di narcisisti, non si pu\u00f2 parlare delle loro relazioni precedenti e se lo si fa, si pu\u00f2 facilmente notare la loro storia di relazioni veloci, sovrapposte e tossiche.<\/p>\n<p>Una bandiera rossa viene sventolata dappertutto, ma solo se si presta attenzione.<\/p>\n<p>Eventually, people tend to see through them and it\u2019s easy to notice shallow and disingenuous emotions, but in most cases, it\u2019s when it is way too late.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Le persone narcisiste fanno sentire le loro vittime meno degne.<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-102229\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/angry-man-yelling-at-woman-in-the-living-room.jpg\" alt=\"uomo arrabbiato che urla contro una donna in salotto\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/angry-man-yelling-at-woman-in-the-living-room.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/angry-man-yelling-at-woman-in-the-living-room-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/angry-man-yelling-at-woman-in-the-living-room-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/angry-man-yelling-at-woman-in-the-living-room-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/angry-man-yelling-at-woman-in-the-living-room-720x481.jpg 720w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Nessuna persona che si sente bene con se stessa starebbe con un narcisista.<\/p>\n<p>This is something narcissistic people are very aware of and that\u2019s why they\u2019re quick to make their victims feel less worthy.<\/p>\n<p>Sono pronti a sminuire gli altri e a sottolineare ogni singolo difetto che abbiamo quando, allo stesso tempo, vedono se stessi in termini assolutamente positivi.<\/p>\n<p>It\u2019s their way to feel superior\u2014they need to make everybody less worthy. That\u2019s how they feed their egos since they consider themselves as God\u2019s ultimate creations.<\/p>\n<p>They don\u2019t take criticism very well and that might be one reason they undermine people.<\/p>\n<p>They need to have broken people around them who can\u2019t think for themselves and who will dim their voices\u2014that\u2019s the main reason they put people down.<\/p>\n<p>And once we\u2019re under the constant influence of being told how we are not good enough or how they\u2019re superior and how we should be lucky someone like them wants to be with someone like us, we start believing this.<\/p>\n<p>We get addicted to this idea that someone who\u2019s better than us actually wants to be with us and we stay. We stay even when we know we should be running for our lives.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Tutti i narcisisti fanno sentire le loro vittime spaventate.<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-102230\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/scared-woman-sitting-and-thinking.jpg\" alt=\"donna spaventata seduta a pensare\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/scared-woman-sitting-and-thinking.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/scared-woman-sitting-and-thinking-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/scared-woman-sitting-and-thinking-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/scared-woman-sitting-and-thinking-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/scared-woman-sitting-and-thinking-720x481.jpg 720w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>If we weren\u2019t scared of anything, how could narcissistic people stick their claws into us?<\/p>\n<p>They couldn\u2019t, so they need to create this fear in us in order to be able to gain control over us.<\/p>\n<p>We are afraid of losing them. We\u2019re afraid we\u2019ll never find anyone better than them.<\/p>\n<p>La verit\u00e0 \u00e8 che si vendono cos\u00ec bene agli altri, vantandosi costantemente e sottolineando i loro successi, per lo pi\u00f9 esagerando tutto. La cosa peggiore \u00e8 che persino loro credono alle loro bugie.<\/p>\n<p>They\u2019ve reached the professional level of being a liar to the point where they manage to convince themselves of their lies.<\/p>\n<p>We tend to see them better than they really are and with time, we develop the idea that they are the best of what\u2019s out there.<\/p>\n<p>That\u2019s why we\u2019re scared to lose them or let them go. And that\u2019s why we put up with being mistreated all the time.<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>\u201cRelationships with narcissists are held in place by the hope of a \u2018someday better,\u2019 with little evidence to support it will ever arrive.\u201d &#8211; Ramani Durvasula<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><b>Somebody needs to break it to you\u2014dating a narcissist won\u2019t give you superpowers.<\/b><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-102231\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/worried-woman-standing-in-front-of-window.jpg\" alt=\"donna preoccupata davanti alla finestra\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/worried-woman-standing-in-front-of-window.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/worried-woman-standing-in-front-of-window-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/worried-woman-standing-in-front-of-window-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/worried-woman-standing-in-front-of-window-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/worried-woman-standing-in-front-of-window-720x481.jpg 720w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p><b><a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/relationship\/ragazza-che-esce-con-un-uomo-narcisista-non-riesce-a-domare-la-bestia\/\">You can\u2019t tame the beast.<\/a> The \u2018someday better\u2019 will never arrive so therefore, you better quit investing yourself in that relationship. <\/b><\/p>\n<blockquote><p>\u201cThe narcissist devours people, consumes their output, and casts the empty, writhing shells aside.\u201d &#8211; Sam Vaknin<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>The bottom line is that we need to take off our rose-colored glasses and see other people\u2019s truth.<\/p>\n<p>If they\u2019re bad and if they show clear patterns of being narcissists, we need to stop being so naive and we need to stop believing that we will be the one to change them. Because <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/i-narcisisti-non-cambiano-colore-cambiano-solo-le-loro-vittime\/\">narcissists don\u2019t want to change<\/a>per cominciare.<\/p>\n<p>How could they, when they don\u2019t see themselves as toxic?<\/p>\n<p>Nessuno al mondo potrebbe far loro credere che c'\u00e8 qualcosa di sbagliato in loro.<\/p>\n<p>In case we still want to be heroes, then we should save ourselves and walk away the minute we meet someone who shows patterns of narcissism. Because that\u2019s the only right thing to do.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-102233\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/To-All-Girls-Falling-For-Bad-Boys-These-Are-3-Mind-Games-All-Narcissists-Play-With-Us-pinterest.jpg\" alt=\"A tutte le ragazze che si innamorano dei cattivi ragazzi: ecco 3 giochi mentali che tutti i narcisisti fanno con noi\" width=\"1000\" height=\"1500\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/To-All-Girls-Falling-For-Bad-Boys-These-Are-3-Mind-Games-All-Narcissists-Play-With-Us-pinterest.jpg 1000w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/To-All-Girls-Falling-For-Bad-Boys-These-Are-3-Mind-Games-All-Narcissists-Play-With-Us-pinterest-200x300.jpg 200w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/To-All-Girls-Falling-For-Bad-Boys-These-Are-3-Mind-Games-All-Narcissists-Play-With-Us-pinterest-683x1024.jpg 683w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/To-All-Girls-Falling-For-Bad-Boys-These-Are-3-Mind-Games-All-Narcissists-Play-With-Us-pinterest-768x1152.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/To-All-Girls-Falling-For-Bad-Boys-These-Are-3-Mind-Games-All-Narcissists-Play-With-Us-pinterest-150x225.jpg 150w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1000px) 100vw, 1000px\" \/><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>I think it\u2019s a curse to fixate on guys who are not good for us and yet we do it. The question is, why don\u2019t we leave when we notice somebody is toxic to us? Why can\u2019t we pack our things and go? This would save so much of our time and would spare us&#8230;<\/p>","protected":false},"author":21,"featured_media":102232,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29633],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-3217","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-narcissism"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29633,"label":"narcissism"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/To-All-Girls-Falling-For-Bad-Boys-These-Are-3-Mind-Games-All-Narcissists-Play-With-Us.jpg",800,534,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Maria Parker","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/author\/maria\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29633,"name":"narcissism","slug":"narcissism","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29633,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Mind games and manipulations are narcissist's favorite controlling tactics. 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