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\u201cIf you love someone, set them free. If they come back, they’re yours; if they don’t, they never were. <\/i> \u201d R. Bach<\/b><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Queste parole diventano realt\u00e0 ogni volta che due persone che sono giuste l'una per l'altra si trovano in un momento sbagliato.<\/p>\n

I know a lot of people who don\u2019t believe in wrong timings. I probably wouldn\u2019t either if it hadn\u2019t happened to me.<\/p>\n

I was head over heels for somebody who just wasn\u2019t ready for a real relationship\u2014at least not the first time we dated.<\/p>\n

Quando l'ho conosciuto, era appena uscito da una relazione di 4 anni e dentro di lui si era scatenato l'inferno. Era come se dovesse recuperare tutti gli anni in cui si era sentito intrappolato in quella relazione.<\/p>\n

I knew that right from the start. I saw it, but I couldn\u2019t help myself…I fell madly in love with him, and it was like nothing I\u2019d ever experienced before.<\/p>\n

I suoi baci erano impressi nel mio corpo. La sua risata e tutte le conversazioni che abbiamo avuto hanno stimolato il mio cervello.<\/p>\n

\"uomo<\/p>\n

Il chimica tra noi <\/a> era innegabile. Era come una forza magnetica che mi attirava verso di lui. Indipendentemente da come si comportava o da come mi trattava, ero incollata a lui.<\/p>\n

I kept looking through his fingers. I kept seeing the good and ignoring the bad. I made excuses for him without any need to hear the actual words \u201cI\u2019m sorry\u201d from him.<\/p>\n

All my rules didn\u2019t count for much anymore. Before I knew it, I was in a casual relationship, hoping that one day, it would all change for the better.<\/p>\n

I thought that day was just around the corner…and I couldn\u2019t have been more wrong.<\/p>\n

He wasn\u2019t even close to being ready for a relationship\u2014at least not an exclusive one and that was all I wanted. Someone entirely mine.<\/p>\n

He left\u2026 <\/i><\/p>\n

He took my heart with him\u2026 <\/i><\/p>\n

My heart couldn\u2019t even break properly. It was just emptiness inside of me that he alone could fulfill. I didn\u2019t say a word.<\/p>\n

\"giovane<\/p>\n

I didn\u2019t go after him. I didn\u2019t beg. I just kept repeating to myself the old phrase I heard somewhere:<\/p>\n

\u201cIf you love someone, set them free.\u201d <\/i><\/p>\n

I wasn\u2019t an expert in love, but all I knew is that it should never be begged for. It should never be forced, and if it doesn\u2019t flow naturally between two people, it is doomed. <\/b><\/p>\n

La sua partenza \u00e8 stata come una doccia fredda che mi ha svegliato da un sogno. Il dolore era cos\u00ec reale che mi ha fatto capire che, nonostante quello che provavo, meritavo di meglio e, soprattutto, meritavo il vero amore.<\/p>\n

Getting through all that pain was excruciating. I think I wasn\u2019t even aware of the true intensity of my feelings until I left.<\/p>\n

They overwhelmed me. My world came crashing down. I couldn\u2019t stop the tears. I couldn\u2019t contain my thoughts.<\/p>\n

There were so many times I wanted to pick up the phone and call him. There were so many days on which I wanted to \u201caccidentally\u201d bump into him in that small coffee shop he goes to before work.<\/p>\n

Ci sono state tante notti in cui avrei voluto mandargli un messaggio.<\/p>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

But the little voice echoing in my head, \u201c If you love someone, set them free.\u201c <\/i> era cos\u00ec potente da fermarmi.<\/p>\n

There was nothing I wouldn\u2019t have done for him. There was nothing I wouldn\u2019t have done to keep us together, but I just couldn\u2019t transform him into someone who was ready to give me all of his love.<\/p>\n

You see…there is no way in which you can force someone to love you. You aren\u2019t supposed to beg for love. All you can do is give them the freedom to chose you. <\/b><\/p>\n

That was all I wanted. For him to chose me. For him to be sure about me…sure about us. So I set him free, always hoping deep down that he would find his way back.<\/p>\n

Tutto ci\u00f2 che restava da fare ora era prendermi cura di me stesso. Ricucire le mie ferite. Riempire di amore per me stessa il vuoto che c'era dentro di me al posto del mio cuore.<\/p>\n

That was exactly what I did. It took me a long while to stand on my own two feet again. I had to learn to smile again\u2014really smile, not fake smile with all the pain hidden underneath.<\/p>\n

Ho dovuto fare pace con il fatto che non faceva pi\u00f9 parte della mia vita.<\/p>\n

\"bruna<\/p>\n

Quando sono andata avanti con la mia vita e il pensiero di lui ha smesso di farmi male, ha voluto tornare nella mia vita. <\/b><\/p>\n

I have to be honest here. My first instinct was to let him in, to pull him close and plead to the heavens that the same scenario wouldn\u2019t happen again.<\/p>\n

But I couldn\u2019t. I couldn\u2019t risk that numbness and emptiness coming back to me.<\/p>\n

It was a great while, a lot of his efforts, long texts and explanations, until I let him in again. He was ready now. He wasn\u2019t afraid.<\/p>\n

L'inferno in lui si era trasformato in paradiso. Aveva bisogno di ritrovare se stesso prima di ritrovare me. Credo che fossimo entrambi un po' persi, lui pi\u00f9 di me, ma comunque il momento era sbagliato allora ed \u00e8 perfetto adesso.<\/p>\n

Il tempo trascorso lontano lo ha fatto maturare. Lo ha fatto diventare una persona che era emotivamente stabile <\/a> cosa che prima non accadeva.<\/p>\n

He came back with a heartbeat I didn\u2019t recognize, with a tenderness I never got from him before, with the humility of a man who knows he has done something wrong.<\/b><\/p>\n

\"uomo<\/p>\n

He knocked me of off my feet again, but he also brought the tranquility and safety I needed. I am happy now. Happier than I\u2019ve ever been because he just added to a life I had already created for myself.<\/p>\n

I don\u2019t regret giving him a second chance. It was the best decision I ever made. And if you find yourself in a similar situation my advice is this:<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t rush into forgiving someone. Take your time, and see if they have really changed. Let them try to earn back your trust. If they don\u2019t succeed, don\u2019t take them back.<\/p>\n

Not everyone deserves a second chance. All stories are different, and sometimes timing isn\u2019t the major issue.<\/p>\n

I got lucky I guess. The reasons for two people splitting vary, and there are things that you just can\u2019t surpass.<\/p>\n

Ma quando ho guardato pi\u00f9 da vicino tutta la nostra storia, ho capito che non mi aveva mai mentito. Ho sempre saputo che era un disastro.<\/p>\n

Non mi aveva mai promesso nulla. Mi sono semplicemente innamorata di lui, senza badare ai segnali di pericolo o alle sue parole.<\/p>\n

\"coppia<\/p>\n

I couldn\u2019t\u2014or I didn\u2019t want to\u2014help myself from falling for him. Just like I couldn\u2019t ban him from my life when he came back.<\/p>\n

I couldn\u2019t say, \u201cI don\u2019t care anymore\u201d when I missed him all along.<\/p>\n

Credo che a volte sia necessario un secondo round per far funzionare l'amore.<\/p>\n

Him coming back made me believe in miracles because when you think about it, \u201c If you love someone, set them free.\u201c <\/i> \u00e8 come provocare il destino.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s a test to see if the love you felt from someone is true and reciprocated.<\/p>\n

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