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<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"Ero giovane e ingenua. Perch\u00e9 avrei dovuto sapere qualcosa? Non avevo nemmeno sentito parlare della parola \"narcisismo\", dell'essere bombardata d'amore e di lui che faceva tutte le cose giuste. Non lo vedevo. Perch\u00e9 avrei dovuto?<\/p>\n
I was 17, him 36. Before I knew it, I\u2019d had a child and then marriage followed. The questions he asked constantly: \u201cWhere are you going? Who with? What time will you be home?\u201d<\/p>\n
How stupid. I thought he cared. Before I knew it, I was 20 years in, and my brain was like mush. We had five children, and one of our children died, but I was afraid to show him my grief. Still alarm bells didn\u2019t ring inside me. I just thought we had to grieve his way\u2014 which now, in hindsight, was to bury his head in the sand and forget that our son had died.<\/p>\n
Quando ho avuto la nostra figlia pi\u00f9 piccola, ero gravemente malata e avevo una probabilit\u00e0 di sopravvivenza del 10%. Ho lottato per guarire senza il suo sostegno. Non si \u00e8 mai seduto con me in ospedale e non mi ha mai chiesto di stare meglio. No, ha abbandonato nostra figlia appena nata in ospedale insieme a me, i suoi amici erano pi\u00f9 importanti, ma io continuavo a pensare che fosse il signor Simpatia.<\/p>\n
25 years in to married life, things started to fall into place. The number of affairs I\u2019d found out about, but it was all my fault. I was worthless, ugly and a suicidal wreck. I believed I was the absolute problem. I couldn\u2019t change it \u2018cause he reminded me every day that I was lazy and fat, and if I didn\u2019t do anything to benefit him, there was no point in being alive.<\/p>\n
Ho cercato in tante occasioni di farla finita. Era l'unico modo per sfuggirgli. Ero intrappolata in questo circolo vizioso. La famiglia e gli amici avevano smesso di farsi sentire. Avevo solo lui su cui contare. <\/i><\/b><\/p>\n
My children started to leave as they became adults, and I sat there one day thinking: \u201cIt\u2019s just going to be me and him, something I dreaded. I couldn\u2019t even look at him. I was only allowed to talk to him with his say so. I was only allowed to eat with his say so. I was tracked at every movement. It was either I walk or I die.<\/p>\n
Two days after my birthday, he\u2019d gone to work. I got up packed a bag, got in my car and drove over 200 miles away, as far away as possible from him. I was so scared.<\/p>\n
Quell'uomo mi ha privato di ogni briciolo di autostima che avevo. Credevo di essere un essere umano inutile e di non valere nulla per nessuno.<\/p>\n
That life was all I knew. He\u2019d moulded me into something. I didn\u2019t even know who I was anymore. The trauma caused a nervous breakdown. I\u2019d hit rock bottom, while he carried on his smear campaign that I was this mental head case. He changed the locks on our family home we\u2019d bought our children up in.<\/p>\n
But three years later. I came back fighting, I\u2019d researched everything about narcissism, tried to see what I was up against, and by God, he didn\u2019t like this one bit. He stepped up the smear campaign bit by bit but was I sure as hell not backing down.<\/p>\n
I\u2019m fighting for every last damn thing I\u2019m owed In that awful marriage, and I\u2019m using every bit of strength to let people know I\u2019m not that head case he portrays me as. I was, after all, his wife for 25 years and the mother to his children.<\/p>\n
I\u2019m not the narcissist, he is<\/b>, and what gives me hope is my children. He turned all of them against me, fed them so many lies. They believed him, but I\u2019ve got them back and now I\u2019m faced with my two daughters being treated the way I was.<\/p>\n
I\u2019m now giving them the advice I needed to hear myself 20 years ago because if I\u2019d listened to myself, then I wouldn\u2019t have had to deal with emotional, physiological, and financial abuse. Now my dear daughters are facing their narcissistic father, and I\u2019m a much stronger person now. I fear my daughters will turn into suicidal messes like me, and so I\u2019ll fight not just for myself but for my precious children too.<\/p>\n
It\u2019s the least they deserve. One loving parent is better than having a narcissistic parent. I will not sit and watch my daughters be destroyed.<\/p>\n
da Lisa<\/b><\/p>\n
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I was young and naive. Why would I know anything? I hadn\u2019t even heard of the word \u2018narcissism\u2019, being love bombed and him doing all the right things. I didn\u2019t see it. Why would I? I was 17, him 36. Before I knew it, I\u2019d had a child and then marriage followed. The questions he…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":21,"featured_media":32479,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29633],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-32469","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-narcissism"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29633,"label":"narcissism"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/krists-luhaers-583876-unsplash.jpg",800,533,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Maria Parker","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/author\/maria\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29633,"name":"narcissism","slug":"narcissism","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29633,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Mind games and manipulations are narcissist's favorite controlling tactics. Learn how their mind operates so that you can protect yourself. ","parent":22911,"count":232,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29633,"category_count":232,"category_description":"Mind games and manipulations are narcissist's favorite controlling tactics. Learn how their mind operates so that you can protect yourself. ","cat_name":"narcissism","category_nicename":"narcissism","category_parent":22911}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/32469","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/21"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=32469"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/32469\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/32479"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=32469"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=32469"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=32469"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}