{"id":32571,"date":"2019-02-12T08:03:47","date_gmt":"2019-02-12T08:03:47","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=32571"},"modified":"2021-08-12T10:05:32","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T10:05:32","slug":"eliminare-le-persone-tossiche-dalla-mia-vita-e-il-mio-metodo-di-cura-preferito","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/eliminare-le-persone-tossiche-dalla-mia-vita-e-il-mio-metodo-di-cura-preferito\/","title":{"rendered":"Eliminare le persone tossiche dalla mia vita \u00e8 il mio metodo di autocura preferito"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><b>Una volta cacciato il mio ex tossico dalla mia vita, ho ricominciato a respirare. <\/b><\/p>\n<p>I was totally clueless of all the ways my ex was poisoning my life. He would twist my words so skilfully that I would end up apologizing for the things I hadn\u2019t done. I was always the monster and he was never the one to blame.<\/p>\n<p>Mi piaceva l'attenzione che mi dava fin dall'inizio, mi piaceva che mi ascoltasse, ma quando siamo andati avanti nella relazione, ha abusato delle mie parole e dei miei pensieri. Ha sfruttato le mie debolezze e insicurezze e le ha rese pi\u00f9 profonde.<\/p>\n<p>Like a fool, I made excuses for him as I didn\u2019t think he did that on purpose. But it only got worse as time passed by and I became a mere shadow of the woman I once was.<\/p>\n<p>I didn\u2019t recognize my voice anymore because it was so silent. The volume of my laughter turned down almost completely. All that kept screaming were the self-doubts in my head and the sobbing sounds at night when I was all by myself.<\/p>\n<p>Sapevo che dovevo fare qualcosa o mi sarei persa completamente. Dovevo allontanarmi da lui per salvarmi.<\/p>\n<p>Quando mi sono liberata da lui, mi sono sentita libera dalla gabbia mentale in cui mi aveva tenuta. Ero libera dalle catene delle insicurezze che mi aveva impresso.<\/p>\n<p>Finally, I started hearing my voice again, I started laughing again, I started breathing and living again. Because my relationship with him wasn\u2019t life.<\/p>\n<p><b>Una volta che ho iniziato ad ascoltare tutte le voci cattive, ho prosperato. <\/b><\/p>\n<p>I commenti sprezzanti avvolti da consigli sinceri hanno la scritta \"tossico\". Le persone che tentano di abbatterti per sollevare se stesse sono la cosa peggiore che possa capitarti in termini di carriera e di vita.<\/p>\n<p>Don\u2019t allow that. Smile in their faces and keep doing what you\u2019ve been doing and your hard work will pay off eventually. Mine did.<\/p>\n<p>Quello che ho imparato qui \u00e8 che non tutti i colleghi devono essere tuoi amici; sei immensamente fortunato. <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/friendship\/7-motivi-per-cui-gli-amici-di-lavoro-sono-i-migliori-amici\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">se sono<\/span><\/a>. Time always tells you who you can trust and get closer to, who you should keep at arm&#8217;s length and who you should base your relationship on a professional level with.<\/p>\n<p>I surrounded myself with people who have my best interests at heart, who are not envious of my successes, who don\u2019t feed their broken egos on my sufferings and I started rising from the ashes that toxic people put me in.<\/p>\n<p><b>Una volta detto addio ad alcune persone che ritenevo amiche, ho stretto legami pi\u00f9 solidi con quelle vere. <\/b><\/p>\n<p>Un amico tossico \u00e8 proprio come un fidanzato tossico: ti succhia la vita. Tutta l'energia e l'amore che investite in loro, non vengono mai ricambiati e quando continuate a dare, vi lasciano vuoti.<\/p>\n<p>I veri amici non lo fanno mai. Non ti usano mai, ti incontrano a met\u00e0 strada. Non ti sminuiscono mai, ti sollevano perch\u00e9 credono in te anche quando inizi a dubitare di te stesso.<\/p>\n<p>Non sono presenti solo nei mari calmi, ma anche nelle peggiori tempeste. Vi sostengono a prescindere da tutto. Sono felici per la vostra felicit\u00e0 e si immedesimano nel vostro dolore.<\/p>\n<p>Ho iniziato ad apprezzare i veri amici quando li ho confrontati con quelli tossici. Tutti i modi in cui erano diversi mi hanno parlato. Sono la cosa migliore che mi potesse capitare e mi assicuro che sappiano quanto gli sono grata.<\/p>\n<p><b>Una volta smesso di cercare di rendere felici tutti quelli che mi circondano, ho iniziato a essere felice. <\/b><\/p>\n<p>It\u2019s almost like I had a subconscious mission in life to make everyone happy. I would go above and beyond to accommodate them and it would just backfire on me.<\/p>\n<p>Pi\u00f9 ero gentile, pi\u00f9 mi trattavano male. Indipendentemente dal fatto che fosse il mio <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/love\/13-modi-per-amare-se-stessi-dopo-essersi-liberati-da-una-relazione-tossica\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">ex fidanzato<\/span><\/a>Un amico o anche un familiare, il processo era lo stesso: pi\u00f9 cercavo di renderli felici, pi\u00f9 si aspettavano da me. Mi davano per scontato.<\/p>\n<p>I would ditch everything I was doing or everything I planned to do. It\u2019s like I didn\u2019t know how to say no because I was afraid that they would get offended.<\/p>\n<p>After a long time of putting up with that, I changed. I couldn\u2019t take it anymore. So, I started putting myself first for a change.<\/p>\n<p>Alcune persone se ne sono andate, altre sono rimaste e si sono adattate alla nuova me. In ogni caso, \u00e8 stata la decisione migliore che abbia mai preso.<\/p>\n<p><b>Quando ho iniziato a eliminare le persone tossiche dalla mia vita, ho capito che era la migliore forma di cura di s\u00e9. <\/b><\/p>\n<p>Once I said goodbye to all the toxicity in my life, I suddenly started to bloom. I wasn\u2019t as worn out as I used to be. I had more time to attend to my own needs. I had more time for the people who inspire me to grow.<\/p>\n<p>After I tossed all the negativity out of my life, positivity found its way to me. My life got a whole lot better with the absence of some people. So you see, this self-care method wasn\u2019t selfish, it was long-overdue and necessary.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-32573 size-large\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/Ditching-Toxic-People-Out-Of-My-Life-Is-My-Favorite-Self-Care-Method-683x1024.jpg\" alt=\"Eliminare le persone tossiche dalla mia vita \u00e8 il mio metodo di autocura preferito\" width=\"683\" height=\"1024\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/Ditching-Toxic-People-Out-Of-My-Life-Is-My-Favorite-Self-Care-Method-683x1024.jpg 683w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/Ditching-Toxic-People-Out-Of-My-Life-Is-My-Favorite-Self-Care-Method-200x300.jpg 200w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/Ditching-Toxic-People-Out-Of-My-Life-Is-My-Favorite-Self-Care-Method.jpg 467w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 683px) 100vw, 683px\" \/><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Once I kicked my toxic ex out of my life, I started to breathe again. I was totally clueless of all the ways my ex was poisoning my life. He would twist my words so skilfully that I would end up apologizing for the things I hadn\u2019t done. I was always the monster and he&#8230;<\/p>","protected":false},"author":20,"featured_media":32572,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29625],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-32571","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-toxic-relationship"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29625,"label":"toxic relationship"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/attractive-beach-beautiful-1809434.jpg",800,535,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Christine Keller","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/author\/christine\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29625,"name":"toxic relationship","slug":"toxic-relationship","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29625,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Are you in a toxic relationship without even knowing it? 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