{"id":32713,"date":"2020-10-13T09:30:44","date_gmt":"2020-10-13T09:30:44","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=32713"},"modified":"2021-08-11T11:33:19","modified_gmt":"2021-08-11T11:33:19","slug":"una-lettera-al-mio-ex-di-merda-grazie-per-avermi-insegnato-queste-5-cose","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/una-lettera-al-mio-ex-di-merda-grazie-per-avermi-insegnato-queste-5-cose\/","title":{"rendered":"Una lettera al mio ex di merda: grazie per avermi insegnato queste 5 cose"},"content":{"rendered":"

I never thought this moment would come after everything you did to me but here I am, writing you a thank you note. Yes, you\u2019ve read that right\u2014this is me being grateful for you being the shitty boyfriend you were.<\/p>\n

Because if it hadn\u2019t been for you, I would have never become the person I am today.<\/p>\n

If you hadn\u2019t disrespected me, I would have never learned to respect myself. If you hadn\u2019t loved me so poorly, I would have never learned the importance of self-love. Here is what you taught me.<\/p>\n

That sometimes love isn\u2019t enough<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Before I met you, I was convinced that love was this omnipotent force which couldn\u2019t be defeated but could defeat everything.<\/p>\n

Credevo che quando si amava abbastanza una persona, ogni cosa tra noi poteva risolversi per il meglio.<\/p>\n

Nevertheless, our crappy relationship showed me otherwise. It showed me that my love wasn\u2019t all-powerful and that it takes a lot more for a relationship to be a successful one.<\/p>\n

You showed me that my love couldn\u2019t save people and that it couldn\u2019t force anyone to love me back.<\/p>\n

Mi hai insegnato l'importanza della compatibilit\u00e0, del rispetto e dell'apprezzamento, che devono andare di pari passo con l'amore perch\u00e9 due persone possano avere il loro lieto fine.<\/p>\n

Smettere di dare infinite seconde possibilit\u00e0<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Another thing I want to thank you for is teaching me that people don\u2019t change, no matter how much you try to make them different.<\/p>\n

Mi hai insegnato a smettere di giustificare chi mi fa del male, a smettere di mentire a me stessa che le cose alla fine sarebbero migliorate e a guardare sempre la verit\u00e0 negli occhi, per quanto dolorosa o dura possa essere.<\/p>\n

Mi hai aiutato a capire che se un uomo doesn\u2019t treat you right <\/a> fin dall'inizio, non lo far\u00e0 mai.<\/p>\n

That nobody will magically become the person I need them to be and to accept that my love can\u2019t always make a man become the best possible version of himself, as much as I would like it to happen.<\/p>\n

Soprattutto, mi hai insegnato che dare infinite seconde possibilit\u00e0 \u00e8 sempre vano. Che perdonando costantemente chi continua a farmi del male, non faccio altro che dargli il via libera per continuare a farlo.<\/p>\n

Che tutto accade per una ragione<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Dopo che io e te ci siamo lasciati per l'ultima volta, mi sono chiesto cosa avessi fatto per meritarmi una cosa cos\u00ec dolorosa.<\/p>\n

Perch\u00e9 ho dovuto subire quello strazio? Perch\u00e9 ho dovuto perderti, quando ho fatto di tutto per tenerti?<\/p>\n

And then it hit me\u2014God always has perfect timing and Ha sempre un piano <\/a>. Ho capito che tutto accade per una causa pi\u00f9 grande e per un motivo pi\u00f9 grande di cui di solito non siamo consapevoli.<\/p>\n

Once I thought of our relationship realistically and once I started seeing you for who you really were, I understood that you leaving me wasn\u2019t a curse\u2014it was actually my biggest blessing.<\/p>\n

Ho capito che liberarmi di te in tempo \u00e8 stata la cosa migliore che mi potesse capitare.<\/p>\n

What I don\u2019t want from a relationship<\/h2>\n

\"giovane<\/p>\n

Let\u2019s face it\u2014you never treated me right. You were an asshole who took me for granted, an immature mama\u2019s boy who was never ready to grow up emotionally and a selfish jerk who never even thought of putting the effort into our relationship.<\/p>\n

Nevertheless, if you hadn\u2019t been like this, I would have never known how to recognize the signs of a toxic person the moment I laid my eyes on them.<\/p>\n

I wouldn\u2019t have known what type of man I should run away from and what type of man I don\u2019t want in my life.<\/p>\n

If none of these things went on the way they did, I would have never known what not to want from a relationship and what love isn\u2019t.<\/p>\n

If it wasn\u2019t for you, I would have never known what it is that I should never settle for.<\/p>\n

That I\u2019m stronger than I thought<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Forse la cosa pi\u00f9 importante che mi ha aiutato a capire \u00e8 quanto io sia in realt\u00e0 intimidatorio e forte.<\/p>\n

Come feroce e indipendente una donna <\/a> Io sono e che non c'\u00e8 niente e nessuno che possa abbattermi.<\/p>\n

La vostra tossicit\u00e0 mi ha fatto capire che in realt\u00e0 sono pi\u00f9 forte di quanto entrambi sapessimo. Che posso vivere senza qualcuno che amo e che posso fare la cosa giusta, anche se il mio cuore \u00e8 contrario, solo perch\u00e9 \u00e8 per il mio bene.<\/p>\n

\"Una<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

I never thought this moment would come after everything you did to me but here I am, writing you a thank you note. Yes, you\u2019ve read that right\u2014this is me being grateful for you being the shitty boyfriend you were. Because if it hadn\u2019t been for you, I would have never become the person I…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":23,"featured_media":124279,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29631],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-32713","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-getting-over-him"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29631,"label":"getting over him"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/A-Letter-To-My-Shitty-Ex-Thank-You-For-Teaching-Me-These-5-Things-1024x684.jpg",1024,684,true],"author_info":{"display_name":"Leah Lee","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/author\/leah\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29631,"name":"getting over him","slug":"getting-over-him","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29631,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Getting over someone you still care about is one of the biggest challenges, but nothing is impossible when you know you're not alone, so check out our brilliant advice.","parent":29627,"count":124,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29631,"category_count":124,"category_description":"Getting over someone you still care about is one of the biggest challenges, but nothing is impossible when you know you're not alone, so check out our brilliant advice.","cat_name":"getting over him","category_nicename":"getting-over-him","category_parent":29627}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/32713","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/23"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=32713"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/32713\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/124279"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=32713"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=32713"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=32713"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}