{"id":33164,"date":"2020-05-19T11:39:55","date_gmt":"2020-05-19T11:39:55","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=33164"},"modified":"2022-01-06T15:58:44","modified_gmt":"2022-01-06T15:58:44","slug":"7-segni-che-non-lo-ami-ma-che-ami-lidea-di-lui","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/7-segni-che-non-lo-ami-ma-che-ami-lidea-di-lui\/","title":{"rendered":"7 segni che non lo amate, ma amate l'idea di lui"},"content":{"rendered":"

Quante volte avete pensato vi siete innamorati<\/a>? Quante volte il vostro cuore ha iniziato a battere pi\u00f9 forte perch\u00e9 pensavate di aver finalmente trovato l'amore della vostra vita?<\/p>\n

Molte volte, lo so.<\/p>\n

But the sad truth is that every time you felt like that, it really wasn\u2019t real love.<\/p>\n

You thought that you loved someone but as soon as bad things started to happen, you would realize that you didn\u2019t love him so much.<\/p>\n

In fact, sometimes you hated him and you couldn\u2019t stand his behavior.<\/p>\n

Quindi, la domanda \u00e8: come si pu\u00f2 sapere con certezza se si ama qualcuno o solo l'idea di quella persona?<\/p>\n

Non preoccupatevi pi\u00f9, perch\u00e9 ho stilato una lista delle cose che proverete SOLO quando amate l'idea di un uomo, ma non se lo ami<\/a>.<\/p>\n

You \u2018love\u2019 him because of his money<\/h2>\n

\"coppia<\/p>\n

Se pensate di essere innamorate di un uomo ricco e di successo, dovrete ripensarci.<\/p>\n

Would you still be with him if he didn\u2019t have all that money or success?<\/p>\n

Would you still be with him if he couldn\u2019t afford all those expensive gifts, travel or fast cars for you?<\/p>\n

No? Allora quello che provate per lui non \u00e8 amore. Anzi, \u00e8 ben lontano dall'amore. Vi piace solo l'idea di lui e di ci\u00f2 che pu\u00f2 darvi.<\/p>\n

Non \u00e8 la prima persona a cui darete una buona notizia.<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Quando si \u00e8 innamorati, la persona amata sar\u00e0 la persona pi\u00f9 importante della propria vita.<\/p>\n

Sar\u00e0 lui a chiamarvi quando sentirete notizie buone e cattive.<\/p>\n

But if you don\u2019t have this kind of relationship with the guy you are dating, it means you don\u2019t love him. You just love the idea of him.<\/p>\n

Ti piace avere qualcuno da chiamare quando ti senti sola, perch\u00e9 \u00e8 l'unico momento in cui pensi a lui.<\/p>\n

The truth is that you \u2018love\u2019 him because you need him. And nothing more than that.<\/p>\n

Non siete sicuri che sia lui quello giusto<\/h2>\n

\"giovane<\/p>\n

In un momento pensi che sia quello giusto, poi ti siedi e pensi a come sarebbe il tuo futuro con lui e ti rendi conto che non \u00e8 l'uomo dei tuoi sogni.<\/p>\n

You can\u2019t say what you actually feel about him even if you think you love him.<\/p>\n

Senti che il modo in cui lo tratti dipende dal tuo stato d'animo e che ti ritrovi ad essere ciecamente innamorata di lui un giorno e a volerlo uccidere il giorno dopo.<\/p>\n

My dear, that is not love. You are not being honest with yourself in the first place and what you have with him simply won\u2019t last long.<\/p>\n

Volete trasformarlo nella persona perfetta per voi.<\/h2>\n

\"uomo<\/p>\n

Cosa c'\u00e8 scritto?<\/p>\n

Se non siete soddisfatti di lui cos\u00ec com'\u00e8 e vorreste trasformarlo in un'altra persona, questo \u00e8 un segno provato<\/a> che non siete realmente innamorati di lui.<\/p>\n

Ti piace solo l'idea di lui e questo \u00e8 tutto.<\/p>\n

Purtroppo, questo non \u00e8 sufficiente per qualcosa di pi\u00f9, quindi dovreste pensarci due volte se \u00e8 l'uomo con cui volete passare il resto della vostra vita.<\/p>\n

If you \u2018love\u2019 him just when it benefits you and if you want him to change so you could love him completely, then he is surely not the man for you.<\/p>\n

Stai con lui solo per non stare da sola<\/h2>\n

\"coppia<\/p>\n

Se stai con lui solo perch\u00e9 vuoi evitare di stare da sola, questo non \u00e8 amore.<\/p>\n

Se lo fate, dimostrate solo che lo state usando per sentirvi al sicuro.<\/p>\n

Because even if he is not the perfect one for you and even if you know it, you are still with him because you don\u2019t want to end up alone.<\/p>\n

Ci\u00f2 significa che non state con lui per le ragioni giuste, ma per quelle sbagliate.<\/p>\n

And if you continue like this, you won\u2019t be with him for long.<\/p>\n

Prima o poi vi renderete conto che \u00e8 meglio stare da soli che in cattiva compagnia e lo lascerete.<\/p>\n

Non siete interessati ad ascoltare i suoi problemi<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Quando si \u00e8 innamorati, si ascolta tutto ci\u00f2 che la persona amata ha da dire, indipendentemente dal fatto che sia cattivo o buono.<\/p>\n

But if you just want to hear the good stories and have fun with him while you don\u2019t give a damn about his problems, then you are not actually in love.<\/p>\n

You simply like everything that he gives you but you don\u2019t want to give him anything in return.<\/p>\n

It means that you take care of yourself and you like when he takes care of you but you don\u2019t want to do the same for him.<\/p>\n

Sorry to burst your bubble but love shouldn\u2019t be like this.<\/p>\n

You don\u2019t always feel good when you are with him<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Quando siamo innamorati, vogliamo trascorrere ogni momento libero con la persona amata.<\/p>\n

But if you don\u2019t feel this way and if you don\u2019t always feel good with him, chances are that we are not talking about il vero amore qui<\/a>.<\/p>\n

Probabilmente vi divertirete come matti quando vi comprer\u00e0 dei regali, vi far\u00e0 sentire speciali portandovi fuori in ristoranti di lusso o facendo viaggi con voi.<\/p>\n

Lui andr\u00e0 bene per te finch\u00e9 tu starai bene con lui e questo non cambier\u00e0 mai.<\/p>\n

But real love is not all about those things. Real love would survive even if you two didn\u2019t have money so you stayed at home instead of going on a trip.<\/p>\n

Real love is when you accept your loved one the way he really is and when you don\u2019t want to change him. And everything else is just false shine.<\/p>\n

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