{"id":33193,"date":"2020-07-19T12:19:47","date_gmt":"2020-07-19T12:19:47","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=33193"},"modified":"2021-08-12T10:23:11","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T10:23:11","slug":"fidati-non-e-emotivamente-danneggiato-e-solo-uno-stronzo","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/fidati-non-e-emotivamente-danneggiato-e-solo-uno-stronzo\/","title":{"rendered":"Fidatevi di me, non \u00e8 emotivamente danneggiato, \u00e8 solo uno stronzo"},"content":{"rendered":"

Let\u2019s be honest here. How many times have we all found a gazillion excuses for a ex di merda <\/a> e il suo trattamento ancora pi\u00f9 schifoso nei nostri confronti?<\/p>\n

I\u2019ll be the first one to raise my hand. Love will do that to you.<\/p>\n

Sono caduto testa in gi\u00f9 <\/a> for guys who were all sorts of wrong for me and instead of facing it head-on, I\u2019ve put up with so much crap, always finding an excuse for him; deep down knowing the real, painful truth and feeling so ashamed of myself on the inside.<\/p>\n

That didn\u2019t stop me from repeating that mistake a few more times, until one day I finally decided that I\u2019m better than that. But up until that day, this was my sad truth\u2026<\/p>\n

Ricordo un ex in particolare che \u00e8 stato un esempio lampante di cosa non bisogna mai innamorarsi ( che ovviamente ho fatto <\/i> ).<\/p>\n

Era un vero <\/i><\/b>parlantina.<\/i><\/b><\/a> He looked like a million bucks and he knew it. He was the type of guy who would never openly say how good he had it but he made sure people knew… He was smug that way.<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

\"uomo<\/p>\n

He had his way with the ladies and I can\u2019t imagine any girl being immune to his charming ways and that gorgeous, self-sufficient smile.<\/p>\n

I fell for him instantly. It was really casual in the beginning\u2026 coffee dates, lots of laughter, spending evenings at his fancy condo and feeling like I was on cloud nine. I never wanted to leave.<\/p>\n

Le cose cominciavano a farsi serie e io iniziavo a provare dei veri sentimenti per lui. Non si trattava pi\u00f9 di un'avventura sexy e divertente con uno stallone estremamente sexy, ma si stava trasformando in una vera e propria relazione in cui potevo vedermi con questo ragazzo per un lungo periodo.<\/p>\n

Per un po', sembrava essere sulla mia stessa lunghezza d'onda e io ero letteralmente la ragazza pi\u00f9 felice del mondo! Cosa potrebbe mai andare storto?<\/p>\n

A lot\u2026 <\/i><\/p>\n

What I didn\u2019t know was how little I actually knew him.<\/p>\n

The minute it started getting real, he became like a completely different person and I couldn\u2019t recognize him anymore. I was completely invested in this and he took it all for granted.<\/p>\n

\"coppia<\/p>\n

Ero a sua disposizione ogni volta che aveva bisogno di me, ma era ricambiato? No di certo.<\/p>\n

Gli ho dato il mio cuore e la mia anima, ma cosa ho ricevuto in cambio? Pezzi e pezzetti del suo cosiddetto amore e solo quando era conveniente.<\/p>\n

Ero la migliore fidanzata <\/a> he ever could\u2019ve had but when I was going through a dark period, he wasn\u2019t there for me. And the worst part is that I kept making excuses in my head.<\/p>\n

If I was going through shit and he wasn\u2019t there, I\u2019d tell myself he must be going through something himself, I shouldn\u2019t push him\u2026 If I needed him to pick me up after a long day and he wasn\u2019t answering my calls, he must be stuck at work.<\/p>\n

If I told him I loved him (which I really did\u2026) and he said, \u2018\u2019Yeah, you too\u2019,\u2019 I knew what he really meant to say was, \u2018\u2019I love you too, baby!\u2019\u2019<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

I had a whole scenario in my head of what his crappy treatment actually meant and for a minute there, I felt better\u2026 I would convince myself of that in order not to completely lose it.<\/p>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

I was so crazy in love that I just couldn\u2019t face the truth. I couldn\u2019t say it out loud. If I did\u2026 it would become too real and I wasn\u2019t ready for that.<\/p>\n

Frequentavo un uomo che mi dava solo la met\u00e0 di quello che io davo a lui. Non c'era mai completamente, ma era sempre sufficiente per tenermi l\u00ec.<\/p>\n

He knew I didn\u2019t need much. Just enough to make me feel like there was hope for us and I was hooked.<\/p>\n

I am ashamed of how little I thought of myself. I am ashamed of how little I believed I was worth. It really sucks that we put ourself down for guys who aren\u2019t worth our time!<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

\u00c8 uno schifo sacrificare se stessi e il proprio tempo per qualcuno che non sar\u00e0 mai quello che meriti!<\/p>\n

It took a lot of tears and a lot of serious conversations with myself to finally admit that it wasn\u2019t working anymore.<\/p>\n

\"giovane<\/p>\n

Why did I keep finding excuses for a guy who blew every chance he had to prove he loved me? Why did I let myself be treated so poorly for somebody who so clearly didn\u2019t deserve me? <\/i><\/p>\n

If he loved me, he would have been there! If he loved me, I wouldn\u2019t have had to question it every single, painful day.<\/p>\n

If he loved me, I wouldn\u2019t have had to keep finding reasons as to why his fucked up treatment of me was actually justified.<\/p>\n

It wasn\u2019t! And it was finally time I put myself first, so I did!<\/b><\/p>\n

It pained me like hell\u2026 but I left his sorry ass. He was only weighing me down.<\/p>\n

And by putting up with so much shit, I was suffering in silence so profoundly that it was only a matter of time before I would explode\u2026<\/p>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

No guy is worth this, trust me. If you feel like you\u2019re not getting what you deserve<\/b>\u2014<\/b>lasciare. Se il vostro uomo d\u00e0 per scontato tutto ci\u00f2 che fate per lui<\/b>\u2014<\/b>don\u2019t let it slide! <\/b><\/p>\n

Tu sei una dea e lui non \u00e8 altro che uno stronzo egoista e immaturo!<\/b><\/p>\n

And the sooner you say it out loud, the better it\u2019s going to feel!<\/p>\n

He\u2019s not emotionally damaged, he\u2019s just an asshole! And when you\u2019re finally brave enough to realize this, trust me \u2014 you\u2019re never going to settle for less!<\/p>\n

Once you realize your worth, there\u2019s no going back.<\/p>\n

\"Fidatevi<\/p>\n

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