{"id":33243,"date":"2020-10-20T08:08:14","date_gmt":"2020-10-20T08:08:14","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=33243"},"modified":"2022-03-22T01:57:06","modified_gmt":"2022-03-22T01:57:06","slug":"10-magnifici-ritorni-per-fermare-il-maestro-manipolatore","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/10-magnifici-ritorni-per-fermare-il-maestro-manipolatore\/","title":{"rendered":"10 magnifici ritorni per fermare il maestro manipolatore"},"content":{"rendered":"

Quante volte avrei voluto che tu stessi zitto. Quante volte avrei voluto urlarti di smettere di farmi il lavaggio del cervello con le tue disgustose parole offensive.<\/p>\n

Non ci sono mai riuscita. Sono rimasto l\u00ec davanti a te, congelato, incapace di muovere un muscolo, di parlare per difendermi.<\/p>\n

That is what years of your manipulation did to me. That\u2019s how you managed to have complete control over me.<\/p>\n

Ogni volta che litigavamo, si ripeteva la stessa cosa.<\/p>\n

Tu che urli per casa, rompendo le cose, e io che mi siedo, fissando una sola direzione, aspettando che tu smetta.<\/p>\n

Even when you forced me to give you answers and talk to you, you wouldn\u2019t let me.<\/p>\n

I would start, a few words would come out of my mouth unwillingly, and then you\u2019d cut me off. Then, you\u2019d shame me even more.<\/p>\n

S\u00ec, ho vissuto con un manipolatore<\/a>. I\u2019m not ashamed of it anymore, not now that it\u2019s all over.<\/em><\/p>\n

These people are everywhere. You can\u2019t avoid them. You can\u2019t recognize them. That\u2019s the whole point.<\/p>\n

Se sapeste fin dall'inizio che una persona a voi cara vi manipola, sareste mai rimasti con quella persona?<\/p>\n

No, sadly, you only realize when it\u2019s too late. You realize you\u2019ve been manipulated instead of loved only when you hit rock bottom.<\/p>\n

Le persone manipolatrici sanno bene cosa dire<\/a> per tenervi in silenzio e per ingannarvi e farvi sentire dispiaciuti per loro. Tutto ci\u00f2 che dicono ha sempre un obiettivo nascosto.<\/p>\n

Sono in grado di manipolare le vostre emozioni per rendervi pi\u00f9 vulnerabili.<\/p>\n

In that state you\u2019re the easiest to manipulate and control.<\/p>\n

La soluzione migliore per affrontare un manipolatore \u00e8 tagliarlo completamente fuori dalla propria vita e ignorarne la presenza, ma purtroppo non tutti hanno il lusso di farlo.<\/p>\n

When you don\u2019t have a choice and for some reason, you have to stay in touch with your manipulator, here are a few comebacks you should use whenever you feel threatened:<\/em><\/p>\n

\u201cNO!\u201d<\/h2>\n

\"Ritratto<\/p>\n

Imparare a essere assertivi. Imparare a prendere posizione. Ci sono molti libri di auto-aiuto che possono fare al caso vostro.<\/p>\n

Il punto \u00e8 che dovete imparare a credere in voi stessi, e acquisire un certo controllo sui vostri sentimenti vi far\u00e0 sicuramente bene.<\/p>\n

La vostra autostima \u00e8 quasi distrutta a causa delle sue continue umiliazioni.<\/p>\n

You don\u2019t believe in yourself, and it makes you insecure. What you need to do is to break free from that emotional prison he put you in.<\/p>\n

Say \u2018no\u2019 to him. Don\u2019t be afraid because nothing bad will happen, and for the love of God, don\u2019t fall for his tricks because while you\u2019re fighting against him, he will try to make you feel sorry for him.<\/p>\n

That\u2019s his tactic to get you back out of pity.<\/p>\n

\u201cThis time I\u2019m going to choose myself.\u201d<\/h2>\n

\"Ritratto<\/p>\n

It\u2019s hard to make such a change in your life, but for your own good, be brave enough and make the first step toward accepting and loving yourself for who you are.<\/p>\n

Dovete rendervi conto che non siete voi a rovinare le cose. Non siete il male e non dovreste mai definirvi in questo modo.<\/p>\n

Dopotutto, perch\u00e9 dovreste soffrire voi perch\u00e9 qualcun altro ha un'anima corrotta?<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t feel sorry for people like that. Get away from them as soon and as far as possible.<\/p>\n

Perch\u00e9, se cercate di aiutarli, vi faranno solo del male. In realt\u00e0, contano sul fatto che li aiutiate, in modo da potervi tradire e ottenere ancora una volta ci\u00f2 che vogliono.<\/p>\n

\u201cYou don\u2019t get to tell me what I can and cannot do!\u201d<\/h2>\n

\"Ritratto<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t give up on yourself. You\u2019re not meant to be in this world to be someone\u2019s doormat.<\/p>\n

Ci sono piani molto pi\u00f9 grandi per voi, quindi nessuno ha il diritto di controllarvi. Rendetelo consapevole di questo fatto prendendo posizione.<\/p>\n

I manipolatori predano le persone deboli perch\u00e9 sono le pi\u00f9 facili da controllare.<\/p>\n

If you talk back to him and show him through your words and actions that you\u2019re not weak, he won\u2019t be able to touch you.<\/p>\n

\u201cYour words mean nothing to me!\u201d<\/h2>\n

\"bella<\/p>\n

When a manipulator has a feeling that you\u2019re slipping away from his grip, that you\u2019re no longer under his control, he will try hard to lure you back in.<\/p>\n

Si far\u00e0 in quattro per fare ogni tipo di promessa, dicendo proprio le cose che volete sentire.<\/p>\n

Cambier\u00e0 atteggiamento solo per indurvi a fidarvi del suo improvviso cambiamento di cuore.<\/p>\n

\u201cI\u2019m busy now. We can talk some other time.\u201d<\/h2>\n

\"Donna<\/p>\n

Make sure he knows you\u2019re not available to him every time it suits him.<\/p>\n

Make him see that you have a will of your own, a free will and you\u2019re able to make your own decisions without anyone interfering.<\/p>\n

If you don\u2019t feel like talking to him right now, he has no right or the power to make you. Make sure he knows that.<\/p>\n

\u201cStep away from me.\u201d<\/h2>\n

\"ritratto<\/p>\n

I manipolatori usano l'intimidazione come arma pi\u00f9 forte. La usano quando tutte le altre giochi mentali<\/a><\/span> fail. It\u2019s their last resort.<\/p>\n

If you\u2019re in the middle of a fight and they don\u2019t see a way of winning, they will walk into your personal space with the intention of scaring you.<\/p>\n

Most victims can\u2019t handle that kind of emotional pressure, so they fold and allow the abusers to get complete control.<\/p>\n

Let your abuser know that you can\u2019t be intimidated.<\/p>\n

Even though you\u2019re scared as hell, don\u2019t let that fear show because fear is only making him stronger and more aggressive.<\/p>\n

\u201cI feel so sorry for you.\u201d (read: sarcasm)<\/h2>\n

\"Donna<\/p>\n

Per ottenere ci\u00f2 che vogliono, i manipolatori cercheranno di suscitare la vostra simpatia.<\/p>\n

Cercheranno di venderti una storia patetica, in modo che tu ti senta dispiaciuto per loro e faccia le cose a modo loro.<\/p>\n

Don’t let them manipulate your emotional state like this. Show them that this time you mean it. This time you\u2019re serious.<\/p>\n

\u201cWe\u2019ll talk when you calm down.\u201d<\/h2>\n

\"Coppia<\/p>\n

Vogliono che reagiate prima di pensare. Vogliono che pensiate in modo emotivo e non razionale, in modo che diciate la prima cosa che vi viene in mente e la usiate contro di voi.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t fall into that trap, and avoid talking to him during a high emotional state.<\/p>\n

\u201cI\u2019m a person worthy of respect and love.\u201d<\/h2>\n

\"giovane<\/p>\n

Manipulators are counting on you feeling worthless. They need you to feel like you are a nobody, so it\u2019s easier for them to control you.<\/p>\n

By showing and saying to him that you are as important as anyone else in this world, that you deserve respect and love, you\u2019re automatically ruining his plans, and you\u2019ll make him powerless against you.<\/p>\n

\u201cI\u2019m not letting you get inside my mind.\u201d<\/h2>\n

\"giovane<\/p>\n

I manipolatori sono i migliori nell'oltrepassare ogni possibile limite stabilito perch\u00e9 pensano di poterlo fare.<\/p>\n

And if you let them, you\u2019re only encouraging them to continue doing whatever the hell they want without any respect for anyone around them.<\/p>\n

Se fate capire loro che vi rifiutate di subire soprusi e maltrattamenti, si tireranno indietro.<\/p>\n

Remember this one thing\u2014as long as you\u2019re dancing to the music he\u2019s playing, you won\u2019t be able to get away from his manipulative grip.<\/p>\n

Take a stand and make a change in your life. Don\u2019t be afraid of anyone.<\/p>\n

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