{"id":33872,"date":"2020-04-07T08:27:27","date_gmt":"2020-04-07T08:27:27","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=33872"},"modified":"2021-08-12T11:55:43","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T11:55:43","slug":"lho-fatto-scappare-6-modi-per-saperlo-con-certezza-2","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/lho-fatto-scappare-6-modi-per-saperlo-con-certezza-2\/","title":{"rendered":"L'ho spaventato? (6 modi per saperlo con certezza)"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Sembrava che tutto andasse alla grande e lui si \u00e8 allontanato all'improvviso. Perch\u00e9? Cosa \u00e8 andato storto all'improvviso? L'ho spaventato?<\/p>\n<p>I remember asking this question while my friends would pat my back, pronouncing that famous line, \u201cIt\u2019s him\u2026 not you\u2026 never you.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Era facile crederci, e forse quelle righe erano vere per la maggior parte dei miei naufragi amorosi.<\/p>\n<p>Let\u2019s face it. If he is wrong for you and you\u2019ve done absolutely nothing to scare him away, he will just as well run for the hills because he is not ready for a relationship.<\/p>\n<p>That can\u2019t be helped. Still, I couldn\u2019t help but wonder. What if it was me? What if I am sabotaging my own chances for love? &nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>I decided to get to the bottom of it, and it took a lot of time, self-research, dissecting, investigating other people\u2019s love lives, and a few more personal love failures to figure it all out.<\/p>\n<p>Ci sono cose che fanno finire la vostra relazione prima ancora che abbia una reale possibilit\u00e0 di iniziare.<\/p>\n<p>You might not even be aware of what you are doing wrong as I once wasn\u2019t.<\/p>\n<p>Queste sono le cose che potreste fare:<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Gli negate il diritto di incontrarvi alle sue condizioni.<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-82128 size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/young-couple-sitting-at-the-table-in-the-cafe.jpg\" alt=\"giovane coppia seduta al tavolo del caff\u00e8\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/young-couple-sitting-at-the-table-in-the-cafe.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/young-couple-sitting-at-the-table-in-the-cafe-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/young-couple-sitting-at-the-table-in-the-cafe-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/> &nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Do you tell your life story to someone you\u2019ve just started dating? Do you tell him about your flaws?<\/p>\n<p>Dite che non siete sempre allegri e che avete le vostre giornate no?<\/p>\n<p>If you do, please stop. He doesn\u2019t want to know these things. He is just as flawed as you are and he didn\u2019t have the urge to share that with you.<\/p>\n<p>State uccidendo il mistero e la bellezza degli inizi condividendoli troppo presto.<\/p>\n<p>Una relazione deve essere abbastanza stabile da poter parlare di queste cose.<\/p>\n<p>Fate un passo alla volta. Trascorrete del tempo con lui; permettetegli di conoscervi gradualmente.<\/p>\n<p>You don\u2019t have to explain who you are. He will find that out for himself.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Gli strofini la tua indipendenza sul naso<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-82131 size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/young-man-and-woman-talking-at-cafe.jpg\" alt=\"giovane uomo e donna che parlano in un caff\u00e8\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/young-man-and-woman-talking-at-cafe.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/young-man-and-woman-talking-at-cafe-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/young-man-and-woman-talking-at-cafe-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Pur essendo un <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/love\/5-cose-che-attraggono-le-donne-forti-e-indipendenti-e-che-mantengono-vivo-linteresse-degli-uomini-di-qualita\/\">donna forte e indipendente<\/a> is something to be admired, there is a way in which you can go to extremes with it. Most men like to feel needed \u2013 it\u2019s in their DNA.<\/p>\n<p>If you repeatedly say that you don\u2019t need anybody, that you are fine on your own, they will believe you. They will feel like a spare.<\/p>\n<p>Siate indipendenti, ma lasciate che vi aiuti a spostare il divano e a portare le buste della spesa.<\/p>\n<p>It doesn\u2019t matter that you can do it yourself. Take it a step further by asking for his opinion or advice.<\/p>\n<p>Find a balance. Let him know that you want him in your life, even if you don\u2019t need him.<\/p>\n<p>But don\u2019t take it too far either. Dependence is even worse and it will without a doubt make him lose interest.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\"> Volete accelerare la vostra relazione<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-82129 size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/couple-talking-at-cafe-and-drinking-tea.jpg\" alt=\"coppia che parla al caff\u00e8 e beve il t\u00e8\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/couple-talking-at-cafe-and-drinking-tea.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/couple-talking-at-cafe-and-drinking-tea-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/couple-talking-at-cafe-and-drinking-tea-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>It\u2019s only natural to daydream at the beginning of a relationship. But it\u2019s also easy to get carried away and take things too far.<\/p>\n<p>You start to connect your name with his surname, you name your children, and think about where would you live, while you\u2019ve been on 5 dates so far.<\/p>\n<p>Non siete sole in tutto questo. Molte donne, compresa me, sono colpevoli di questo, anche se fanno fatica ad ammetterlo a se stesse.<\/p>\n<p>Lower your pace and whatever you do, don\u2019t talk to him about your plans of happily ever after together.<\/p>\n<p>Men usually don\u2019t think that far ahead; they take it one day at a time.<\/p>\n<p>Cercate di seguire il suo esempio. Eviterete di farvi male perch\u00e9 vi siete illusi troppo presto e ridurrete il rischio di spaventarlo.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\"> You want to \u201cimprove\u201d him<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-82135 size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/hipster-couple-talking-in-cafe.jpg\" alt=\"coppia hipster che parla in un caff\u00e8\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/hipster-couple-talking-in-cafe.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/hipster-couple-talking-in-cafe-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/hipster-couple-talking-in-cafe-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>It\u2019s hard work trying to change things about yourself that you don\u2019t like, let alone another person.<\/p>\n<p>It\u2019s mission impossible, useless, and it will only end your relationship. If he accepts you just the way you are, do the same for him.<\/p>\n<p>Sure, we can change little things about ourselves to accommodate someone else, hear them out, see that we aren\u2019t always right, and decide to make compromises, but our essence will always stay the same.<\/p>\n<p>A person you are supposed to spend your forever with will be full of flaws just like you are, but the thing that will keep you together is that you will be able to handle each other&#8217;s flaws.<\/p>\n<p>It\u2019s also important to stress that if he is generally a bad person who treats you poorly and plays with your feelings, it\u2019s time you end things, not fix things.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">You don\u2019t give him enough space<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-82136 size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/woman-hugging-thoughtful-man-1.jpg\" alt=\"donna che abbraccia un uomo premuroso\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/woman-hugging-thoughtful-man-1.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/woman-hugging-thoughtful-man-1-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/woman-hugging-thoughtful-man-1-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Nobody likes feeling suffocated or trapped \u2013 especially men. If you go overboard with texting or your desires to see him every waking hour, he will start to think that you have no life and that you are obsessed with him.<\/p>\n<p>I believe that\u2019s not the message you want to send. Don\u2019t neglect your friends, interests, or life just because you\u2019ve met somebody new and interesting.<\/p>\n<p>Don\u2019t send him a follow-up text, don\u2019t force the conversation, avoid being too needy, and you will do just fine.<\/p>\n<p>Let him be a man \u2013 let him go after you \u2013 and meet each other halfway. That goes for texting, planning dates, and making effort in general.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Non siete consapevoli della trappola della profezia che si autoavvera.<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-82138 size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/Portrait-of-young-couple-having-a-conflict-in-the-park.jpg\" alt=\"Ritratto di giovane coppia in conflitto nel parco\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/Portrait-of-young-couple-having-a-conflict-in-the-park.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/Portrait-of-young-couple-having-a-conflict-in-the-park-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/Portrait-of-young-couple-having-a-conflict-in-the-park-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>When you think that everything will go south, that it won\u2019t work no matter what you do, the odds are it will happen exactly that way and you are setting your relationship up for failure.<\/p>\n<p>Per evitare che la profezia che si autoavvera si avveri, smettete di essere cos\u00ec negativi su tutto. Ricordate la legge di attrazione e inviate solo buone vibrazioni. &nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Your past might make you lose trust in love and doubt the fact that there are still good men out there, but the past is the past for a reason. Don\u2019t allow it to interfere in your future.<\/p>\n<p>Things are going to work once you are with your forever person \u2013 there is no doubt about it \u2013 and you will realize that you can love harder, dream bigger, and laugh louder than you ever have before.<\/p>\n<p>If you don\u2019t find yourself doing any of these things, you are lucky. Trust your friends when they say \u201cIt\u2019s not you\u2026 it\u2019s him.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Because they are right. There are some outside factors that you can\u2019t influence.<\/p>\n<p>In tutta onest\u00e0, potrei ritrovare il mio vecchio io nella met\u00e0 delle cose che ho elencato sopra.<\/p>\n<p>Once I figured out what I was doing wrong, I could fix it. I think it\u2019s always better to know the truth than to bury your head in the sand, no matter how much it pained me to admit that I was wrong.<\/p>\n<p>Per esempio, una volta che ho iniziato a vivere nel presente e a godermi il momento, smettendo di guardare al futuro, la mia vita sentimentale \u00e8 migliorata. &nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Sono sicuro che anche la vostra lo far\u00e0.<br \/>\n<img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-82123 size-large\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/Did-I-Scare-Him-Away-6-Ways-To-Know-For-Sure-Pinterest-724x1024.jpg\" alt=\"L&#039;ho spaventato? (6 modi per saperlo con certezza)\" width=\"724\" height=\"1024\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/Did-I-Scare-Him-Away-6-Ways-To-Know-For-Sure-Pinterest-724x1024.jpg 724w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/Did-I-Scare-Him-Away-6-Ways-To-Know-For-Sure-Pinterest-212x300.jpg 212w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/Did-I-Scare-Him-Away-6-Ways-To-Know-For-Sure-Pinterest-768x1086.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/Did-I-Scare-Him-Away-6-Ways-To-Know-For-Sure-Pinterest-1086x1536.jpg 1086w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/Did-I-Scare-Him-Away-6-Ways-To-Know-For-Sure-Pinterest-1448x2048.jpg 1448w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/Did-I-Scare-Him-Away-6-Ways-To-Know-For-Sure-Pinterest.jpg 1587w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 724px) 100vw, 724px\" \/><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Everything seemed to be going great and he just pulled away all of a sudden. Why? What went wrong all of a sudden? Did I scare him away? I remember asking this question while my friends would pat my back, pronouncing that famous line, \u201cIt\u2019s him\u2026 not you\u2026 never you.\u201d It was easy to believe&#8230;<\/p>","protected":false},"author":42,"featured_media":82125,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29648],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-33872","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-dating-tips"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29648,"label":"dating tips"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/Did-I-Scare-Him-Away-6-Ways-To-Know-For-Sure-1.jpg",800,534,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Selma June","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/author\/selmajune\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29648,"name":"dating tips","slug":"dating-tips","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29648,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Learn to date like a pro and avoid making some of the biggest mistakes in texting, flirting, winning a man's heart, and commitment. 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