{"id":34461,"date":"2019-03-18T10:22:24","date_gmt":"2019-03-18T10:22:24","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=34461"},"modified":"2021-08-12T08:30:28","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T08:30:28","slug":"6-lezioni-che-il-divorzio-dei-miei-genitori-mi-ha-insegnato-sulle-relazioni-di-coppia","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/6-lezioni-che-il-divorzio-dei-miei-genitori-mi-ha-insegnato-sulle-relazioni-di-coppia\/","title":{"rendered":"6 lezioni che il divorzio dei miei genitori mi ha insegnato sulle relazioni di coppia"},"content":{"rendered":"

La disgregazione della famiglia davanti ai propri occhi \u00e8 una delle esperienze pi\u00f9 traumatiche per ogni bambino. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Dovrei saperlo perch\u00e9 \u00e8 una situazione che ho vissuto dopo la separazione dei miei genitori.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, what I didn\u2019t know at the time was that their divorce would help me a lot through life. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

What I didn\u2019t know was that it would teach me some crucial things about relationships which I wouldn\u2019t have had the chance to learn otherwise and here are 6 of them.
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1. Non tutte le relazioni sono destinate a durare per tutta la vita<\/strong>
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Let\u2019s face it\u2014none of us si sposa<\/a> con una strategia di uscita gi\u00e0 pianificata. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

We don\u2019t promise to love each other until death do us part unless we really believe in the vows we are saying or if we feel like our marriage has no expiration date.
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Nevertheless, things don\u2019t always end up the way we planned them to. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

You can be convinced that someone is the person you\u2019ll grow old next to but eventually, it turns out that they are not meant to be yours.
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Il punto \u00e8 che non tutte le relazioni sono destinate a durare per tutta la vita, anche se lo desideriamo. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Alcune persone sono l\u00ec per aiutarci a superare una certa fase della vita o per darci una lezione. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once their job is done and once they\u2019ve accomplished their mission, we lose them, even though that was something we could never imagine happening.
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2. E questo va bene<\/strong>
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E tutto questo fa parte della vita. No, la fine di una relazione o il fallimento di un matrimonio non sono la fine del mondo.
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S\u00ec, \u00e8 doloroso e devastante. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Certo, a volte vi sembrer\u00e0 che tutti i vostri peggiori incubi si siano avverati, ma queste cose semplicemente accadono. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

E non c'\u00e8 nulla che si possa fare al riguardo, se non abbracciarlo e trarne il meglio. \u00a0
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3. It\u2019s always better to walk away than to stay in a toxic relationship<\/strong>
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Another thing my parents\u2019 divorce taught me is to never rimanere in una relazione sbagliata<\/a> or next to a man who can\u2019t give me what I need. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Don\u2019t get me wrong\u2014I am not saying that you should run for the hills at the first sign of inconvenience or that you shouldn\u2019t fight for your relationship but it doesn\u2019t mean that you should ever stay in an unhealthy relationship which is making your life hell.
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I\u2019ve learned that walking away from someone who isn\u2019t making me happy anymore is always a good idea, no matter what someone might tell you about it. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Essere soli \u00e8 sempre meglio che avere una relazione in cui ci si accontenta di poco. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ricominciare da capo ed essere single \u00e8 sempre meglio che restare accanto a qualcuno che vi rende infelici.
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4. Your history with someone shouldn\u2019t be a reason to stay next to them<\/strong>
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Quando si pone fine a una relazione sentimentale e soprattutto a un matrimonio, ovviamente si ha una lunga storia con la persona che si sta lasciando.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Si tratta di una persona con la quale avete affrontato molte cose e con la quale stavate costruendo una vita insieme.
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Nevertheless, this shouldn\u2019t be the only reason you decide to stay by their side. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Yes, a lot may connect the two of you\u2014children, a mortgage, a house, a business together\u2026 Yes, this person has become your comfort zone.
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However, you can\u2019t spend an eternity dwelling on the happy memories, if the present is far from pretty. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

You can\u2019t stay next to someone just because of your past if you don\u2019t see your future next to them.
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5. Sadly, love isn\u2019t always enough<\/strong>
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Quando ero una ragazzina, credevo nelle favole. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Credevo che per un lieto fine bastasse che il ragazzo che ami ti ricambiasse.
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Well, my parents\u2019 divorce showed me otherwise. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Mi ha dimostrato che ci sono altre cose pi\u00f9 importanti oltre all'affetto reciproco, come l'impegno, il compromesso, il rispetto, l'apprezzamento e, soprattutto, la compatibilit\u00e0.
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It helped me see that your love can\u2019t change someone unless they decide to do it themselves. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

That love can\u2019t make up for some crucial differences between people. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

A volte mi ha fatto capire che, love isn\u2019t enough<\/a> and that it alone can\u2019t make a relationship work.
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6. Sopravviverete<\/strong>
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When you\u2019re going through a brutal break-up, you think of it as the end of the world. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are convinced that this is a pain you can\u2019t survive and you see no hope of ever putting yourself back together.
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Ebbene, indovinate un po'? Mia madre e mio padre sono sopravvissuti al divorzio. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

S\u00ec, all'inizio erano entrambi a pezzi, ma alla fine sono guariti. E ora sono pi\u00f9 felici che mai.
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So, if they could heal from losing the person they once wanted to spend their entire life with, who I am to think that I won\u2019t be able to get over some random boy who tried to break my heart? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Chi sono io per non avere fede nel fatto che sopravviver\u00f2 a tutti i dolori emotivi che la vita mi riserva?
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