{"id":35835,"date":"2020-04-23T07:28:44","date_gmt":"2020-04-23T07:28:44","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=35835"},"modified":"2021-08-12T08:22:09","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T08:22:09","slug":"6-doppi-standard-a-cui-vi-sottopone-un-partner-emotivamente-violento","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/6-doppi-standard-a-cui-vi-sottopone-un-partner-emotivamente-violento\/","title":{"rendered":"6 Doppi standard che un partner emotivamente violento vi fa rispettare"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><em>Le persone associano l'abuso soprattutto alle sue manifestazioni fisiche, perch\u00e9 i lividi sono facili da vedere e quindi non possono essere negati. <\/em><\/p>\n<p><em>Ma l'abuso nelle relazioni pu\u00f2 essere molto di pi\u00f9 di ci\u00f2 che gli occhi possono vedere.<\/em><\/p>\n<p>L'abuso, in qualsiasi forma, \u00e8 un tipo di abuso disgustoso e inaccettabile. <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/relationship\/6-comportamenti-relazionali-piu-dannosi-del-tradimento\/\">comportamento relazionale<\/a>e chi deve affrontarla pu\u00f2 sperare di trovare la via d'uscita, sana e salva, con l'aiuto di un buon sistema di supporto.<\/p>\n<p>Essere in una relazione con un partner mentalmente ed emotivamente violento \u00e8 una tortura silenziosa.<\/p>\n<p>\u00c8 uno dei sentimenti pi\u00f9 solitari e strazianti che una persona possa provare.<\/p>\n<p>That form of abuse is something people cannot see, and having to explain what you are going through without actual \u2018\u2019physical proof\u2019\u2019 of abuse is absolute hell.<\/p>\n<p>Si viene degradati, abbattuti, fatti sentire privi di valore ogni giorno, e nessuno lo sa davvero.<\/p>\n<p>La sensazione di solitudine e l'incapacit\u00e0 delle persone di comprendere il vostro dolore sono una battaglia quotidiana.<\/p>\n<p>Siete cos\u00ec presi da una persona e dall'amore che provate per lui che decidete di chiudere un occhio sul suo trattamento malevolo nei vostri confronti.<\/p>\n<p>It always starts small, so you never really want to say anything. But with time, it gets worse and more hurtful, but you keep suffering in silence\u2026<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-77503\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/04\/worried-woman-sitting-under-blanket-in-bed.jpg\" alt=\"donna preoccupata seduta a letto sotto una coperta\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/04\/worried-woman-sitting-under-blanket-in-bed.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/04\/worried-woman-sitting-under-blanket-in-bed-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/04\/worried-woman-sitting-under-blanket-in-bed-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/relationship\/5-modi-in-cui-e-cambiata-dopo-una-relazione-emotivamente-offensiva\/\">Emotivamente violento<\/a> I partner sono maestri del loro mestiere.<\/p>\n<p>Si abbasseranno ai livelli pi\u00f9 bassi per farvi sentire una merda e spesso si comporteranno come se foste in qualche modo da biasimare per il loro modo di comportarsi.<\/p>\n<p><em>Giocheranno la carta della vittima per manipolarvi, fare giochi mentali con voi e confondervi. <\/em><\/p>\n<p><em>Faranno finta di avere le mani pulite e che tutta la colpa sia sulle vostre spalle. <\/em><\/p>\n<p><em>Il pi\u00f9 delle volte, il modo migliore per farlo \u00e8 quello di imporre due pesi e due misure.<\/em><\/p>\n<p>If you feel like your partner is being emotionally abusive towards you, don\u2019t stay silent.<\/p>\n<p>Don\u2019t accept the shit he puts you through. Decide that enough is enough!<\/p>\n<p>Ecco alcuni degli esempi pi\u00f9 comuni di doppi standard a cui sono sottoposte le vittime di abusi emotivi.<\/p>\n<p>Se vi riconoscete in una di queste, il mio consiglio \u00e8 di trovare la via d'uscita pi\u00f9 tranquilla e di non voltarvi mai indietro.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">He will criticize you like it\u2019s his job, but when you do the same to him, he handles it extremely poorly<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-77505\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/04\/angry-man-pointing-his-finger-at-woman.jpg\" alt=\"uomo arrabbiato che punta il dito contro una donna\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/04\/angry-man-pointing-his-finger-at-woman.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/04\/angry-man-pointing-his-finger-at-woman-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/04\/angry-man-pointing-his-finger-at-woman-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>He doesn\u2019t have a problem blaming you for the most trivial and insignificant things.<\/p>\n<p>Whatever you do is under scrutiny, and he makes sure to let you know what a crappy job you\u2019ve done if he\u2019s not happy about something.<\/p>\n<p>Ma quando fa qualcosa di veramente brutto e voi volete affrontarlo come un adulto, lui fa i capricci e lo gestisce molto male.<\/p>\n<p>You fear for your life at times, so it\u2019s easier to never criticise him at all rather than risk being yelled at so much.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">He demands to know your whereabouts at all times, but fails to tell you where he is and how long he\u2019s going to be<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-77508\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/04\/couple-arguing-by-the-table.jpg\" alt=\"coppia che discute vicino al tavolo\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/04\/couple-arguing-by-the-table.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/04\/couple-arguing-by-the-table-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/04\/couple-arguing-by-the-table-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>You are required to check in with him regularly no matter where you are. If you don\u2019t let him know where you are, he\u2019s going to make a scene.<\/p>\n<p>But when you politely ask where he is and what time he\u2019s going to be back, he acts as if you have zero right to know such a thing.<\/p>\n<p>Lui se ne va e si fa i fatti suoi con chi vuole e per tutto il tempo che vuole, e voi siete completamente all'oscuro.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">He doesn\u2019t care about how you feel at all but expects you to put his needs and emotions first<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-77513\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/04\/man-holding-for-his-head-while-woman-laying-in-bed.jpg\" alt=\"uomo che si tiene per la testa mentre la donna giace a letto\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/04\/man-holding-for-his-head-while-woman-laying-in-bed.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/04\/man-holding-for-his-head-while-woman-laying-in-bed-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/04\/man-holding-for-his-head-while-woman-laying-in-bed-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Se ti fa <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/relationship\/grazie-per-avermi-fatto-sentire-una-merda\/\">sentirsi di merda<\/a>, that\u2019s fine by him. If he says something hurtful to you, still fine.<\/p>\n<p>Ma quando non si tiene conto delle sue emozioni e non ci si mette al suo servizio, si scatena l'inferno.<\/p>\n<p>Bisogna prestare sempre attenzione a come si sente quel giorno e fare ci\u00f2 che gli conviene.<\/p>\n<p>If you even try to ask him to understand that you\u2019re having a crappy day, you\u2019ll never hear the end of it.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Chiede sesso e lo pretende quando vuole, ma quando siete in vena vi ignora completamente.<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-77514\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/04\/couple-laying-in-bed-in-silence.jpg\" alt=\"coppia sdraiata a letto in silenzio\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/04\/couple-laying-in-bed-in-silence.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/04\/couple-laying-in-bed-in-silence-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/04\/couple-laying-in-bed-in-silence-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>He expects sex whenever he feels like it. You always have to be available to him\u2014or else.<\/p>\n<p>But when you ask for the same thing, he won\u2019t pay attention to you.<\/p>\n<p>Only when he\u2019s in the mood will there be any physical manifestations of love.<\/p>\n<p>When you\u2019re feeling up for it, it is highly unlikely he\u2019ll be respectful of it.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">\u00c8 lui che prende le decisioni su tutto, ma quando si cerca di suggerire qualcosa, lo ignora.<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-77515\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/04\/couple-arguing-in-the-kitchen-1.jpg\" alt=\"coppia che litiga in cucina\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/04\/couple-arguing-in-the-kitchen-1.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/04\/couple-arguing-in-the-kitchen-1-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/04\/couple-arguing-in-the-kitchen-1-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>\u00c8 lui l'uomo e si assicura che lo sappiate. \u00c8 lui che prende tutte le decisioni, piccole o grandi che siano, e non c'\u00e8 nulla a cui tu possa partecipare.<\/p>\n<p>But when you try to offer your input or merely suggest an idea about something, he looks down on you as if it\u2019s not your place.<\/p>\n<p>Ci si aspetta che lasciate che l'uomo faccia le sue cose e che siate obbedienti e al suo servizio se ha bisogno di qualcosa da voi.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Whenever he mistreats you, he puts all the blame on you, and when you screw up, it\u2019s always your fault and yours only<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-77517\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/04\/angry-man-yelling-at-woman.jpg\" alt=\"uomo arrabbiato che urla contro una donna\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/04\/angry-man-yelling-at-woman.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/04\/angry-man-yelling-at-woman-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/04\/angry-man-yelling-at-woman-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>He will yell at you for something that he did. He\u2019ll make you feel like a total <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/life\/sono-felice-e-tu-sei-ancora-lo-stesso-pezzo-di-merda\/\">pezzo di merda<\/a> e dare tutta la colpa a te.<\/p>\n<p>It\u2019s always your fault when he treats you badly.<\/p>\n<p>Sei tu che l'hai spinto a comportarsi cos\u00ec. Il tuo pessimo umore lo ha fatto arrabbiare e non ha avuto altra scelta che prendersela con te.<\/p>\n<p>Basically, you have to walk on eggshells around him because you know whatever you do, he\u2019s going to find a way to put all the blame of his actions on you.<\/p>\n<p>E finch\u00e9 gli permetterete di farla franca, l'abuso emotivo non finir\u00e0 mai.<\/p>\n<p>\u00c8 importante che tu prenda lentamente le distanze da lui e, se ne hai bisogno, chiedi aiuto.<\/p>\n<p>Don\u2019t put up with what you shouldn\u2019t. This type of behaviour is toxic and hurtful, and nobody deserves it.<\/p>\n<p>Uscite da quella relazione prima che diventi troppo malsana e troppo tardi. Meritate di meglio!<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-77501\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/04\/6-Double-Standards-An-Emotionally-Abusive-Partner-Puts-You-Through-pinterest-2.jpg\" alt=\"6 Doppi standard che un partner emotivamente violento vi fa rispettare\" width=\"683\" height=\"1024\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/04\/6-Double-Standards-An-Emotionally-Abusive-Partner-Puts-You-Through-pinterest-2.jpg 683w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/04\/6-Double-Standards-An-Emotionally-Abusive-Partner-Puts-You-Through-pinterest-2-200x300.jpg 200w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 683px) 100vw, 683px\" \/><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-77500\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/04\/6-Double-Standards-An-Emotionally-Abusive-Partner-Puts-You-Through-pinterest.jpg\" alt=\"6 Doppi standard che un partner emotivamente violento vi fa rispettare\" width=\"683\" height=\"1024\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/04\/6-Double-Standards-An-Emotionally-Abusive-Partner-Puts-You-Through-pinterest.jpg 683w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/04\/6-Double-Standards-An-Emotionally-Abusive-Partner-Puts-You-Through-pinterest-200x300.jpg 200w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 683px) 100vw, 683px\" \/><\/p>\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><\/figure>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>People associate abuse mostly with the physical manifestations of it because bruises are easy to see, therefore can\u2019t be denied. But abuse in relationships can be so much more than just what the eyes can see. Abuse in any form is a disgusting, unacceptable type of relationship behaviour, and whoever has to deal with it&#8230;<\/p>","protected":false},"author":20,"featured_media":77518,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29625],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-35835","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-toxic-relationship"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29625,"label":"toxic relationship"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/04\/6-Double-Standards-An-Emotionally-Abusive-Partner-Puts-You-Through.jpg",800,535,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Christine Keller","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/author\/christine\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29625,"name":"toxic relationship","slug":"toxic-relationship","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29625,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Are you in a toxic relationship without even knowing it? 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