{"id":36079,"date":"2020-08-29T08:17:05","date_gmt":"2020-08-29T08:17:05","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=36079"},"modified":"2021-08-11T08:58:27","modified_gmt":"2021-08-11T08:58:27","slug":"5-cose-da-fare-quando-una-falsa-speranza-vi-mantiene-in-una-relazione-violenta","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/5-cose-da-fare-quando-una-falsa-speranza-vi-mantiene-in-una-relazione-violenta\/","title":{"rendered":"5 cose da fare quando una falsa speranza vi mantiene in una relazione abusiva"},"content":{"rendered":"

Tutti noi vogliamo vedere il meglio nel nostro partner, indipendentemente dalla situazione reale.<\/p>\n

Even when it\u2019s at our own expense, we tend to ignore those little things that we know are cos\u00ec<\/em> sbagliato a causa della nostra falsa speranza che \u00e8 fondamentalmente l'unica cosa che ci fa andare avanti la nostra relazione tossica.<\/a><\/p>\n

Getting out of an abusive relationship is always a difficult thing\u2014be it physical or emotional abuse.<\/p>\n

Saying \u2018no\u2019 to your partner and leaving him once and for all sounds easy enough, but in reality, it\u2019s an extremely tough situation to be in.<\/p>\n

Viviamo in una societ\u00e0 che impone alle persone stigmi e vincoli di ogni tipo per vari motivi.<\/p>\n

For example, if you are a woman in your late twenties, you are (silently) judged if you\u2019re not yet married<\/em>\u2014o almeno sulla buona strada per arrivarci.<\/em><\/p>\n

If you don\u2019t have a boyfriend by that age, there must be something wrong with you<\/em>\u2014or at least that\u2019s what you\u2019re made to believe<\/em>\u2014e ci si sente giudicati e guardati dall'alto in basso.<\/em><\/p>\n

\"Giovane<\/p>\n

All those things (and many more!) are what\u2019s doing us all a huge disservice because due to those stigmas, we choose to stay in unhealthy relationships that are toxic for us and are rovinare la nostra salute mentale.<\/a><\/p>\n

We\u2019d rather silently suffer and pretend everything is peachy on the outside, than stay single and happy until the right man comes along\u2014one that\u2019s not going to be abusive, toxic, and make us feel like crap.<\/p>\n

E a causa di questi spiacevoli problemi, le donne di tutto il mondo soffrono in silenzio.<\/p>\n

Lasciano che siano gli uomini a governare il loro mondo, sminuendo lentamente la loro percezione di s\u00e9 e facendole sentire sbagliate per aver voluto far sentire la loro voce.<\/p>\n

I want you to remember that it really doesn\u2019t have to be that way. You pu\u00f2<\/em> trovare la via d'uscita. Non \u00e8 il vostro capo e dovete dimostrarglielo!<\/p>\n

Ci sono molte cose che potete fare quando lasciate che il vostro falso senso di speranza vi tenga in una relazione abusiva, ed ecco 5 cose che sicuramente vi aiuteranno a trovare la via d'uscita per sempre!<\/em><\/p>\n

Rivolgetevi alle persone pi\u00f9 care (lasciate che vi aiutino!)<\/h2>\n

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Your partner may have painted a perfect picture of himself to your family and friends, but YOU are the one they love, and you are the one they are going to believe, so don\u2019t shy away from telling them the truth.<\/p>\n

Spiegate loro come vi sentite emotivamente distrutti e in che modo il vostro partner ha contribuito a questo.<\/p>\n

Let them in, and don\u2019t fear being vulnerable.<\/p>\n

Sono il vostro posto sicuro e una volta che inizieranno a vederlo per quello che \u00e8 veramente e per quanto siete infelici e distrutti, saranno il miglior sistema di supporto e vi aiuteranno a liberarvi di lui una volta per tutte.<\/p>\n

Start saying \u2018no\u2019 to his insane demands and refuse to obey him<\/h2>\n

\"\"<\/p>\n

He needs to see that you are not his puppet\u2014not anymore. Be calm, sure of yourself, and don\u2019t let him get to you.<\/p>\n

La prossima volta che vi chieder\u00e0 qualcosa di folle, rifiutatelo.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t raise your voice, and don\u2019t be spiteful. Just say that you do not agree with what he\u2019s asking of you, and you will not be doing that thing.<\/p>\n

Quando vedr\u00e0 che state imparando a tenergli testa, inizier\u00e0 a farsi prendere dal panico e vedr\u00e0 che la presa che ha su di voi si sta esaurendo.  <\/p>\n

He is not going to like this, and with time, it\u2019s going to become easier for you to get out because an partner violento<\/a> si nutre di sottomissione, cosa che con voi non avviene pi\u00f9.<\/p>\n

Se minaccia di mettervi le mani addosso, chiamate la polizia e fategli capire quanto siete seri.<\/h2>\n

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Se inizia a minacciare di toccarvi o di farvi del male in qualsiasi modo, prendete il telefono e iniziate a comporre.<\/p>\n

Dimostrategli la vostra seriet\u00e0 e questo far\u00e0 s\u00ec che la sua follia si plachi.<\/p>\n

Fear is the most effective motivator, and once he sees you\u2019re not messing around and you\u2019re no longer going to put up with his craziness, he\u2019s going to ease up and back down.<\/p>\n

But in case he doesn\u2019t, leave immediately and call for help.<\/p>\n

Registrate segretamente i suoi sfoghi e conservate la registrazione in un luogo sicuro per quando avrete bisogno di una prova di abuso.<\/h2>\n

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Keep a hidden phone somewhere and press \u2018record\u2019 when you feel he\u2019s being triggered in order to have it all on video.<\/p>\n

You can also or keep the phone in your pocket while it\u2019s recording so that you can have a recording of him verbally abusing you.<\/p>\n

This is going to come in handy should you decide to go to the police, as this is proof of him being abusive, and you\u2019re easily going to at least get a restraining order\u2014if nothing else.<\/p>\n

Also, you having actual proof of what he\u2019s like when he\u2019s gone mad is going to make him scared you\u2019ll show it to people, so it might make him let you go peacefully.<\/p>\n

Go to a family member\u2019s place, and cut off all contact with him<\/h2>\n

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Stay at your sister\u2019s for as long as you need, and have two or more people collect your things if you share a place with your partner.<\/p>\n

As long as you keep him outnumbered, it\u2019s going to be fine.<\/p>\n

Make him see you\u2019re really done with him and his bullshit, and don\u2019t respond to any of his calls and texts.<\/p>\n

Vivete la vostra vita, circondatevi di chi vi \u00e8 vicino e tenetevi lontani dai luoghi in cui potreste incontrarlo.<\/p>\n

Cercate di essere sempre accompagnati da una persona cara e iniziate a mettere insieme la vostra vita cancellandolo lentamente dalla vostra mente.<\/p>\n

Sooner or later, he\u2019s going to get tired of calling and harrassing you, and finally let you be happy and at peace surrounded by those who love you.<\/p>\n

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