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If you have ever been betrayed, you will know how much it hurts and it leaves us devastated and questioning everything about the relationship\u2014this can be romantic or platonic. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
La mia esperienza di tradimento deriva da un ex. Lo amavo e fino a quel momento pensavo che la nostra relazione potesse sopravvivere a tutto. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
One day I woke up and found myself blocked on all social media, even texting apps. I tried to call but it was going straight to a dead tone. I asked our friends what had happened but nobody would tell me anything. A few days later his friend sent me a link to my ex, John, signing a book deal. The amount of time we had spent talking and wishing for our books to become a reality, I couldn\u2019t understand why he wouldn\u2019t have told me that. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
It was a couple of months later that the real scale of betrayal started to unfold. In the time we hadn\u2019t spoken, John had married and not only this but he\u2019d had his book published; but the book had a lot of my words and words we had shared, letters and poems we had sent each other.
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Now strangely, his marriage is something I can forgive him for but he took our words, our memories, and made them into a book without even telling me. The hurt of the betrayal and the deception is hard to forgive. I was left wondering what had been real and what hadn\u2019t. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Quello che John ha fatto \u00e8 stato offuscare i nostri ricordi e privarmi di una persona che era una parte importante della mia vita. Ha usato i suoi bisogni egoistici per ferire e manipolare una persona a cui teneva davvero. Non lo guardo pi\u00f9 e vedo una persona che un tempo amavo. Vedo invece un estraneo che mi ha amato cos\u00ec poco da lasciarmi una sensazione di vuoto.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The reason I want to share this story is to encourage others to find peace with events that have happened to them. Don\u2019t let the experience make you bitter or destroy the confidence in yourself or let it affect future relationships. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
This is your journey and no matter what, you are loved and worthy, despite other people\u2019s actions. No matter what you have experienced or what has happened to you on your life journey, you must find a way to make peace with it. Otherwise, it will find a way to lower your self-esteem and your self-worth. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
For a long time, John became a trigger point for me; as soon as I heard his name, I would have tears rolling down my face, I would have a panic attack to the point where I couldn\u2019t breathe, then my mind would start to race with all those unanswered questions, over and over. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
But it\u2019s a funny thing\u2014our human brain lies. It looks for absolutes to create a narrative with you and yourself, <\/b> a narrative that can, if not careful, paralyze us in a set state of fear and self-judgment. My inner dialogue went along these lines\u2014it couldn\u2019t have been John that had betrayed me, because he had been the best human I knew. Therefore, it had to be me; I couldn\u2019t have been good enough for him, I talked too much, I was thick-headed or I didn\u2019t support him enough. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Il ciclo di dubbi su di s\u00e9 e di crudelt\u00e0 continuava all'infinito. Dovevo trovare un modo per perdonarlo, non per il suo bene ma per il mio, per alleviare il mio ego ferito, per fermare i dubbi su me stessa.
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Immagini restaurative
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Un'immagine riparatrice \u00e8 la parte emotivamente carica della nostra immaginazione che allevia il dolore spostando l'attenzione mentale dalla perdita alla crescita. Ci ricordano che il nostro senso di chi siamo deriva da ci\u00f2 che abbiamo guadagnato nella vita, piuttosto che da ci\u00f2 che abbiamo perso o sofferto. La nostra capacit\u00e0 di crescere come esseri umani rafforza continuamente questo aspetto.<\/b>
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Le immagini ristorative pi\u00f9 potenti sono quelle che possono rafforzare i nostri valori pi\u00f9 profondi, come l'umanit\u00e0 di base, la connessione, l'amore e la compassione. La guarigione emotiva consiste in gran parte nel ricondizionare il cervello ad associare immagini ristorative a ricordi dolorosi. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
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