{"id":37964,"date":"2019-06-07T07:26:41","date_gmt":"2019-06-07T07:26:41","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=37964"},"modified":"2022-01-13T00:50:12","modified_gmt":"2022-01-13T00:50:12","slug":"10-cose-per-cui-ho-dimenticato-di-ringraziare-il-mio-ex","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/10-cose-per-cui-ho-dimenticato-di-ringraziare-il-mio-ex\/","title":{"rendered":"10 cose per cui ho dimenticato di ringraziare il mio ex"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Quando tutto \u00e8 finito, stavo pensando che la mia vita stava cadendo a pezzi. Singhiozzavo nella mia stanza pensando che avrei passato il resto della mia vita da sola.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p>I\u2019ve already pictured myself as the crazy cat lady \u2013 you know, the one from the Simpsons.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p>That\u2019s what I do every time something bad happens to me. I mourn, but I do it in a humoristic way. I guess my whole life is kind of a satire.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p><em>Well, anyway\u2026<\/em><\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p>Quando qualcuno ci spezza il cuore, viviamo tutti la stessa situazione. Abbiamo tutti gli stessi problemi e le stesse domande. Ma sapete una cosa?<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p><strong><em>Sono giunto a una conclusione brillante. <\/em><\/strong><\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p>I knew I couldn\u2019t stop my heart from aching. I knew I couldn\u2019t convince my mind to stop thinking about him.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p>Ho dovuto superarlo in qualche modo. Dovevo superare quel periodo. Se questo significava che dovevo usare tutto quello che avevo, l'avrei fatto.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p>I was so anxious to get out of it, but knew I couldn\u2019t skip steps. You all know that. You have to let things run their course and wait for the agony to be over.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p><strong><em>But here\u2019s the thing I\u2019ve realized\u2026<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p>There are so many things my ex did to me that served as a lesson. There are so many things that I actually have to thank him for\u2026.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>1. Per aver discusso con me <\/strong><\/h2>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" class=\"wp-image-37965\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/shutterstock_439098511.jpg\" alt=\"10 cose per cui ho dimenticato di ringraziare il mio ex\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/shutterstock_439098511.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/shutterstock_439098511-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/shutterstock_439098511-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/figure>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p>Mi ha insegnato a farmi valere. Mi ha dato una formazione adeguata quando si tratta di lotte verbali.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p>I was always ready to begin another screaming match \u2013 I was always prepared.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p>I learned how to speak my mind when someone constantly attacks me. That didn\u2019t mess up with my head.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p>I mean, it did at the beginning, but I\u2019ve learned to handle it over time. Now, nothing can affect me. I will always say exactly what I want.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>2. Per avermi reso migliore per la mia prossima relazione<\/strong><\/h2>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" class=\"wp-image-37966\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/shutterstock_1016516125.jpg\" alt=\"10 cose per cui ho dimenticato di ringraziare il mio ex\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/shutterstock_1016516125.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/shutterstock_1016516125-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/shutterstock_1016516125-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/figure>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p>I know where I did wrong. I get it now when it\u2019s all over and I\u2019m not planning on making the same mistakes again.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p>Sono in grado di riconoscere le situazioni in cui ho commesso un errore e ora so esattamente cosa fare se qualcosa di simile dovesse ripetersi.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p>Dopo la relazione che mi ha spezzato, so che tipo di persona voglio essere e <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/mi-piace-chi-sto-diventando\/\">I\u2019m working on becoming that person<\/a>.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>3. Per avermi mostrato fin dove posso arrivare<\/strong><\/h2>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" class=\"wp-image-37967\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/shutterstock_593479448.jpg\" alt=\"10 cose per cui ho dimenticato di ringraziare il mio ex\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/shutterstock_593479448.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/shutterstock_593479448-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/shutterstock_593479448-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/figure>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p>Now I know I\u2019m stronger than ever. Now I know no one could wipe me out that easily because I have the strength to handle almost everything.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p>When I begin dating again, I\u2019ll know where to draw the line and when to say enough. That was something I didn\u2019t know how to do when I was with him.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>4. Per avermi aiutato a capire che cosa voglio in una relazione<\/strong><\/h2>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" class=\"wp-image-37968\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/shutterstock_302679401.jpg\" alt=\"10 cose per cui ho dimenticato di ringraziare il mio ex\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/shutterstock_302679401.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/shutterstock_302679401-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/shutterstock_302679401-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/figure>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p>Sono successe cose brutte, ma anche cose belle.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p>Sadly, those bad ones outnumbered the good, leaving them in the shadows \u2013 unnoticed and forgotten.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p>When you break up with someone, you\u2019re bitter, hurt, and sad.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p>L'unica cosa che si ricorda sono i momenti brutti, quelli che hanno rovinato quello che avevate insieme.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p>Ma quando si supera la fase di odio nei suoi confronti, ci si ricorda che non tutto era cos\u00ec terribile.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p>Poi, ricordate le cose che vi sono piaciute, quelle che vi hanno fatto sorridere e che vi hanno reso felici.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p>Okay, you see, I want that. I\u2019ve seen it and I recognize it. I want my next relationship to be like that.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p>Tutto ci\u00f2 che \u00e8 inferiore a ci\u00f2 che voglio, lo abbandoner\u00f2.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>5. Per avermi fatto riflettere su cosa significhi amare qualcuno <\/strong><\/h2>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" class=\"wp-image-37969\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/shutterstock_727757209.jpg\" alt=\"10 cose per cui ho dimenticato di ringraziare il mio ex\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/shutterstock_727757209.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/shutterstock_727757209-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/shutterstock_727757209-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/figure>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p>Ho sempre cercato l'amore negli altri.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p>Lo guardavo e cercavo di capire cosa fosse l'amore attraverso il suo comportamento e le sue azioni. Beh, <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/love\/2018-taught-me-what-real-love-is-not\/\">So cosa non \u00e8 l'amore<\/a> osservandolo.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p>Voglio ringraziarlo per avermi fatto capire che l'amore \u00e8 qualsiasi cosa io voglia che sia.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p>Voglio ringraziarlo perch\u00e9 mi ha costretto, in un certo senso, a capire che l'amore si pu\u00f2 trovare solo dentro di s\u00e9.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p>It\u2019s how YOU act and what YOU do, not someone else.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>6. For making me learn how I don\u2019t want to be treated<\/strong><\/h2>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" class=\"wp-image-37970\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/shutterstock_174524207.jpg\" alt=\"10 cose per cui ho dimenticato di ringraziare il mio ex\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/shutterstock_174524207.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/shutterstock_174524207-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/shutterstock_174524207-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/figure>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p>I think that every one of you wanted something \u2013 or better said, someone \u2013 so bad it hurt.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p>Forse anche ognuno di noi sapeva che la persona che desiderava non andava bene per noi, ma la voleva comunque.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p>Well, my guy was mysteriously intriguing. I couldn&#8217;t resist him. I needed to unveil his secret to find out what is hiding behind that mystic exterior.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p>I found out, okay. I did\u2026 I didn\u2019t like it. I found out that is not how I want to be treated. Lesson learned, let\u2019s move on\u2026<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>7. Per avermi insegnato a lasciar andare la persona che non avrei mai dovuto essere.<\/strong><\/h2>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" class=\"wp-image-37971\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/shutterstock_335803757.jpg\" alt=\"10 cose per cui ho dimenticato di ringraziare il mio ex\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/shutterstock_335803757.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/shutterstock_335803757-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/shutterstock_335803757-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/figure>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p>Ogni notte mi ha lasciato a raccogliere i pezzi rotti del mio cuore. Ogni volta mi lasciava sola, cercando di incollare il mio cuore come se fosse un vetro in frantumi.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p>Each time he proved to me that I\u2019m not the person he wants me to be. Heck, I\u2019m not even the person I want to be.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p>Voglio ringraziarlo per avermi dato il coraggio di lasciarlo e di andare a cercare di scoprire chi sono veramente.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p>I think I know that now. If not, at least I think I\u2019m on a good path to finding out.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>8. Per avermi aiutato a crescere come persona<\/strong><\/h2>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" class=\"wp-image-37972\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/shutterstock_406026574.jpg\" alt=\"10 cose per cui ho dimenticato di ringraziare il mio ex\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/shutterstock_406026574.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/shutterstock_406026574-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/shutterstock_406026574-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/figure>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p>Ogni relazione vi cambia. Si cresce come persona: si cresce fisicamente e, soprattutto, si cresce emotivamente.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p>You don\u2019t have to wait to end the relationship to realize you\u2019ve changed. You can realize it while you\u2019re still in it.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>9. Per avermi lasciato e avermi dato la possibilit\u00e0 di trovare qualcuno di meglio<\/strong><\/h2>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" class=\"wp-image-37973\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/shutterstock_1055816447.jpg\" alt=\"10 cose per cui ho dimenticato di ringraziare il mio ex\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/shutterstock_1055816447.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/shutterstock_1055816447-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/shutterstock_1055816447-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/figure>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p>Lo ringrazio molto per aver posto fine alla mia agonia. \u00c8 chiaro che non eravamo fatti l'uno per l'altra.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p>Maybe he isn\u2019t even that bad, but in combination with me, he was intolerable.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p>Forse c'\u00e8 qualcuno l\u00e0 fuori che sapr\u00e0 come gestirlo.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p>I guess what I\u2019m trying to say is I\u2019m thankful for getting another chance to find the right person for me.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>10. Per avermi insegnato ad amare qualcuno nel suo momento peggiore.<\/strong><\/h2>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"800\" height=\"533\" class=\"wp-image-37974\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/affection-beautiful-casual-1949719.jpg\" alt=\"10 cose per cui ho dimenticato di ringraziare il mio ex\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/affection-beautiful-casual-1949719.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/affection-beautiful-casual-1949719-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/affection-beautiful-casual-1949719-768x512.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/figure>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p>Anche nelle nostre crisi pi\u00f9 gravi, non ho mai smesso di amarlo.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p>Anche quando ha urlato tante parole dure e offensive, non ho mai smesso di amarlo.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p>Sapevo che una persona buona, una persona di cui mi ero innamorata, giaceva da qualche parte dentro di lui.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p>Speravo che quella persona venisse fuori ogni minuto, cos\u00ec lo amavo. Ho continuato ad amarlo nonostante tutto.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p>Although we never made it, I\u2019m happy I met him because of so many things he taught me.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p>Certo, il prezzo era alto, ma la conoscenza non ha prezzo.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p>Per cosa dovete ringraziare il vostro ex?<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"683\" height=\"1024\" class=\"wp-image-37976\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/PINTEREST-53-683x1024.jpg\" alt=\"10 cose per cui ho dimenticato di ringraziare il mio ex\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/PINTEREST-53-683x1024.jpg 683w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/PINTEREST-53-200x300.jpg 200w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/PINTEREST-53.jpg 735w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 683px) 100vw, 683px\" \/><\/figure>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>When it was all over, there I was thinking my life is falling apart. I was sobbing in my room thinking l will spend the rest of my life alone. I\u2019ve already pictured myself as the crazy cat lady \u2013 you know, the one from the Simpsons. That\u2019s what I do every time something bad&#8230;<\/p>","protected":false},"author":40,"featured_media":37975,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29619],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-37964","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-stories-love"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29619,"label":"stories"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/shutterstock_1013526370.jpg",800,534,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Tara Brown","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/author\/tara-brown\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29619,"name":"stories","slug":"stories-love","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29619,"taxonomy":"category","description":"To all the souls struggling with complicated love experiences: These heartfelt stories about love, heartbreak, and moving on will be your voice of wisdom.","parent":38,"count":424,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29619,"category_count":424,"category_description":"To all the souls struggling with complicated love experiences: These heartfelt stories about love, heartbreak, and moving on will be your voice of wisdom.","cat_name":"stories","category_nicename":"stories-love","category_parent":38}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/37964","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/40"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=37964"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/37964\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/37975"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=37964"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=37964"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=37964"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}