{"id":38395,"date":"2020-10-30T07:34:47","date_gmt":"2020-10-30T07:34:47","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=38395"},"modified":"2022-02-26T11:14:23","modified_gmt":"2022-02-26T11:14:23","slug":"una-lettera-aperta-alluomo-senza-il-quale-sto-meglio","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/una-lettera-aperta-alluomo-senza-il-quale-sto-meglio\/","title":{"rendered":"Una lettera aperta all'uomo senza il quale sto meglio"},"content":{"rendered":"

Quando sei uscita dalla mia vita, l'ho vista come la fine del mondo.<\/p>\n

I was convinced that I\u2019d never find happiness without you and that my life lost all of its purpose.<\/p>\n

E per un po' \u00e8 stato vero. Per un certo periodo ho trascorso le mie giornate a sopravvivere invece che a vivere. Non vedevo vie d'uscita n\u00e9 luce alla fine del tunnel.<\/p>\n

Yes, even then, deep down I was probably aware that you weren\u2019t good for me.<\/p>\n

There was this tiny voice telling me that you\u2019ve always been a manipulative asshole who enjoyed abusing me and playing with my heart and mind.<\/p>\n

Ciononostante, ho scelto di ignorarlo e ho invece continuato a cercare di giustificarti<\/a>. Ho continuato a cercare prove nascoste del tuo amore per me.<\/p>\n

Ho cercato di convincermi che mi amavi e che ero importante per te.<\/p>\n

Con il passare del tempo, in realt\u00e0 stavo guarendo senza nemmeno rendermene conto.<\/p>\n

\"una<\/p>\n

What I couldn\u2019t understand that healing isn\u2019t linear and that each day I got through alive was actually progress, even if some were worse than others.<\/p>\n

Tuttavia, un giorno mi sono ritrovato a poter pensare a te e alla nostra relazione senza sentirmi come se avessi un coltello nello stomaco. <\/strong><\/p>\n

Mi sono sorpreso a vederti solo come un essere umano con tutti i suoi difetti. <\/strong><\/p>\n

Just like that, you stopped being this almost mythical creature who had so much power over me and, for the first time ever, I saw you for who you\u2019ve really been all along \u2013 an immature boy who tried projecting his insecurities on me.<\/strong><\/p>\n

One night, while I was alone with my thoughts, I figured something out: for the first time ever, I wasn\u2019t feeling an overwhelming sadness for not having you.<\/p>\n

I\u2019ve stopped romanticizing everything you and I had and it hit me \u2013 I was actually way better off without you.<\/p>\n

It turned out that you leaving me wasn\u2019t the worst thing that ever happened to me, after all. In fact it was probably the best one so far.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Quindi, invece di essere consumato dalla rabbia e dal risentimento, dovrei Grazie<\/a>.<\/p>\n

\"ritratto<\/p>\n

Invece di serbare rancore, dovrei esserti grato perch\u00e9, senza che nessuno dei due se ne renda conto, mi hai fatto un favore.<\/p>\n

Senza averne l'intenzione, quando mi hai lasciato mi hai salvato da molte sofferenze. <\/strong><\/p>\n

Mi ha salvato dal passare il resto della mia vita come tua vittima e dal permetterti di danneggiarmi in modo irreparabile.<\/strong><\/p>\n

First and foremost, I\u2019m done wasting years of my life waiting for you to get your shit together.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m done waiting around for you to come to your senses and finally realize that you never treated me how I deserved.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m done sitting around waiting for you to stop seeing me as a second choice.<\/p>\n

Finire di essere meno importante del proprio lavoro, dei propri amici, dei propri hobby e, letteralmente, di tutto.<\/p>\n

Ho smesso di passare giorni e notti a fissare il telefono, aspettando che tu mi richiami.<\/p>\n

Abbiamo finito di dare innumerevoli possibilit\u00e0 e di sperare che questa volta sia l'ultima.<\/p>\n

\"una<\/p>\n

Now that I\u2019ve lost you, I have all this time on my hands for the most important person in the world: ME.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Invece di impegnarmi tanto per cercare di sistemare te, ora ho l'opportunit\u00e0 di lavorare su me stesso.<\/p>\n

Invece di cercare di riparare il tuo cuore spezzato, ora ho la possibilit\u00e0 di lavorare per conto mio.<\/p>\n

Quindi, s\u00ec, I\u2019m way better off without you<\/a> because finally, I don\u2019t have to beg to be put on someone\u2019s priority list.<\/p>\n

Because now that I don\u2019t have you, I can put myself first.<\/p>\n

I don\u2019t have to expect of you to respect me or vedere il mio valore<\/a>Ora posso finalmente iniziare ad apprezzarmi come avrei dovuto fare secoli fa.<\/p>\n

E infine, ma non per questo meno importante, ricordi tutto l'amore che ti ho dato? <\/strong><\/p>\n

Tutte le emozioni sincere che ho continuato a offrirti senza mai ricevere nulla in cambio?<\/strong><\/p>\n

Well, it\u2019s about time to redirect that love and to give it all to myself. Because who could deserve it more?<\/strong><\/p>\n

\"Una<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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