{"id":38425,"date":"2019-06-14T12:20:48","date_gmt":"2019-06-14T12:20:48","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=38425"},"modified":"2021-08-31T08:18:24","modified_gmt":"2021-08-31T08:18:24","slug":"4-segni-di-disturbo-borderline-di-personalita","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/4-segni-di-disturbo-borderline-di-personalita\/","title":{"rendered":"4 segni che lui soffre di disturbo borderline di personalit\u00e0"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Avete mai frequentato qualcuno che vi sollevava cos\u00ec tanto da farvi credere di poter volare, solo per poi tagliarvi le ali e portarvi ai minimi termini dopo qualche tempo? <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ha avuto emozioni cos\u00ec estreme da farvi sentire come se ci fossero due lati completamente diversi di lui? <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Well, that\u2019s just a small part of dating someone with borderline personality disorder, better known as BPD.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2>Che cos'\u00e8 esattamente il BDP?<\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Si tratta di un disturbo della salute mentale che influisce sul modo in cui la persona percepisce se stessa e gli altri, rendendola sostanzialmente incapace di funzionare correttamente nella vita quotidiana. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00c8 caratterizzata principalmente da: <\/span><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">relazioni intense e instabili;<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">immagine distorta di s\u00e9; <\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">emozioni estreme; <\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">impulsivit\u00e0.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Il BPD influisce sul modo in cui una persona sente se stessa, sulle sue relazioni con gli altri e sul suo comportamento in generale. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Sintomi di BDP che potreste riconoscere nel vostro interlocutore:<\/b><\/p>\n<h2>1.\u00a0 Extreme mood swings<\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-38438\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/shutterstock_717350314.jpg\" alt=\"Se fa queste 20 cose tossiche, \u00e8 un narcisista nascosto \" width=\"800\" height=\"543\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/shutterstock_717350314.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/shutterstock_717350314-300x204.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/shutterstock_717350314-768x521.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/>Un giorno \u00e8 al settimo cielo e il giorno dopo \u00e8 depresso, irritato o arrabbiato. In un momento siete la luce della sua vita e in quello successivo siete l'unica causa di tutti i suoi problemi. \u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It\u2019s not just about you all the time; the world has conspired against him, nobody loves him, and all of his friends are not really his friends, etc. until the next day or week when everything is great again and he is loved and appreciated by everyone. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">La sua immagine di s\u00e9 e la sua visione del mondo, della vostra relazione e delle altre persone della sua vita cambiano di minuto in minuto.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2>2. Comportamento eccessivo<\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-38138\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/adult-cell-cellphone-263593.jpg\" alt=\"160 citazioni emotive &quot;Mi manchi&quot; per lui e per lei\" width=\"800\" height=\"533\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/adult-cell-cellphone-263593.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/adult-cell-cellphone-263593-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/adult-cell-cellphone-263593-768x512.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/>Oltre ai gi\u00e0 citati sbalzi d'umore, un altro indicatore del BPD \u00e8 l'impulsivit\u00e0. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Chiedetevi se il vostro partner ha l'abitudine di fare cose improvvise e inaspettate. Sparisce dalla mappa per giorni e poi torna con una scusa banale? Un giorno \u00e8 sicuro di s\u00e9 e l'altro parla di aver perso il suo scopo nella vita? <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If he doesn\u2019t get help in time and recognize that he has a problem, he might engage in a number of destructive behaviors, from gambling away his or your money, to adultery, to substance abuse and similar or worse things.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2>3. Problemi di abbandono<\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-38440\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/andrew-neel-137513-unsplash.jpg\" alt=\"Se fa queste 20 cose tossiche, \u00e8 un narcisista nascosto\" width=\"800\" height=\"533\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/andrew-neel-137513-unsplash.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/andrew-neel-137513-unsplash-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/andrew-neel-137513-unsplash-768x512.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/>He hates when you don\u2019t pick up right away when he calls. He calls if you don\u2019t text him back immediately. He demands an explanation of your whereabouts when you are running late. He feels hurt and abandoned. You are making him waste his time and his nerves. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Se qualcuna di queste frasi vi ricorda qualcosa, avete a che fare con qualcuno che ha chiaramente <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/love\/6-consigli-per-risolvere-i-problemi-di-abbandono-di-qualcuno\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">problemi di abbandono<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> and it\u2019s one more surefire symptom of BPD. <\/span><\/p>\n<h2>4. Estremizzazione<\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-38441\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/andrew-neel-137513-unsplash-1.jpg\" alt=\"Se fa queste 20 cose tossiche, \u00e8 un narcisista nascosto\" width=\"800\" height=\"533\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/andrew-neel-137513-unsplash-1.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/andrew-neel-137513-unsplash-1-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/andrew-neel-137513-unsplash-1-768x512.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/>With him, everything is black or white; there are no gray areas. When you do something nice for him, you are the greatest there is. When you do something that\u2019s in his opinion wrong, you are worst of them all. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Manca di equilibrio nel suo comportamento e passa da un estremo all'altro. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Secondo Roger Melton, M.A. <\/span><b>Quando si esce con una persona che soffre di disturbo borderline di personalit\u00e0, si attraversano tre fasi relazionali.<\/b><\/p>\n<h2>1.\u00a0 The Vulnerable Seducer Phase<\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Inizier\u00e0 facendo affidamento sul vostro lato empatico. Vi racconter\u00e0 quanto ha sofferto nelle loro precedenti relazioni e nella vita in generale, e come voi siate l'unica che lo capisce. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Giocando magistralmente a fare la vittima, vi far\u00e0 sentire necessarie e amate in modo speciale. Vi sentirete al centro del suo universo. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You won\u2019t build a relationship step by step; you will jump through it. Everything will move too quickly and it will all be overly intense.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2>2. La fase Clinger<\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The more attached he gets, the more he\u2019ll change. At first, it\u2019ll be barely noticeable, but as time goes by, it\u2019ll become more evident. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Continuerete a sentirvi importanti per lui, ma le cose che vi interessano diventeranno meno importanti e si tratter\u00e0 pi\u00f9 di ci\u00f2 che lui vuole e di ci\u00f2 di cui ha bisogno. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">attirer\u00e0 intenzionalmente la vostra attenzione facendo leva sui suoi disturbi fisici ed emotivi. Gli sbalzi d'umore saranno sempre pi\u00f9 frequenti. In un momento sar\u00e0 pieno di felicit\u00e0 e in un altro sar\u00e0 gi\u00f9 di morale e distante. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">He\u2019ll still think you can save them, though, and use this to keep an emotional tether to you, putting his entire emotional and physical well-being in your hands.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2>3. La fase dell'odio<\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Mentre nelle prime due fasi cercher\u00e0 di comportarsi al meglio, questa fase \u00e8 quella in cui inizia il caos. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">As the relationship progresses, he will show his true colors. He\u2019ll be agitated by the smallest things \u2013 the way you look at him, things you say, the way you smile at or touch him\u2026<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Prima che ve ne rendiate conto, vi dar\u00e0 la colpa di tutto e torner\u00e0 a dare la colpa a voi. <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/relationship\/6-segni-di-distruzione-del-ruolo-di-vittima\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">fare la vittima<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. This time it won\u2019t be to provoke your empathy, but to put you down the self-blame route. You will also start looking for the main culprit in yourself. \u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Se il vostro partner soffre di disturbo borderline di personalit\u00e0, lo riconoscerete da questi segnali e attraverserete tre fasi della relazione. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If your partner can\u2019t accept his problem. he will create problems for you. Even though your partner is unaware of his condition, he is emotionally hurting you. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">BPD is treatable and your partner should seek professional help. If he doesn\u2019t, things are only going to get worse. The only thing you will be able to do is to leave before you suffer all of the consequences of his BPD.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"683\" height=\"1024\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/popular-Wedding-brunch-Flowers-683x1024.jpg\" alt=\"4 segni che lui soffre di disturbo borderline di personalit\u00e0\" class=\"wp-image-38427\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/popular-Wedding-brunch-Flowers-683x1024.jpg 683w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/popular-Wedding-brunch-Flowers-200x300.jpg 200w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/popular-Wedding-brunch-Flowers.jpg 735w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 683px) 100vw, 683px\" \/><\/figure>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"","protected":false},"author":20,"featured_media":38426,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29677],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-38425","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-personality-types"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29677,"label":"personality types"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/jon-ly-487338-unsplash.jpg",800,450,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Christine Keller","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/author\/christine\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29677,"name":"personality types","slug":"personality-types","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29677,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Hippies, alphas, betas, sapiophiles...Every personality type is unique and contains a particular set of skills. 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