{"id":38433,"date":"2020-05-05T13:02:58","date_gmt":"2020-05-05T13:02:58","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=38433"},"modified":"2021-08-24T13:11:15","modified_gmt":"2021-08-24T13:11:15","slug":"se-fa-queste-20-cose-tossiche-e-un-narcisista-occulto","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/se-fa-queste-20-cose-tossiche-e-un-narcisista-occulto\/","title":{"rendered":"Se fa queste 20 cose tossiche, \u00e8 un narcisista nascosto"},"content":{"rendered":"

Most of us never see this coming. Especially when a people are in love, they go instantly blind to everything that might endanger their happiness\u2014call it conscious denial.<\/p>\n

Purtroppo, ci rendiamo conto di ci\u00f2 che ci \u00e8 successo solo quando il danno \u00e8 gi\u00e0 fatto.<\/p>\n

Poi, all'improvviso, qualcosa ci apre gli occhi e tutte le cose che abbiamo vissuto ci appaiono improvvisamente orribili.<\/p>\n

The truth is, they were always horrible, but we chose to make them pretty. That\u2019s what happens when emotional abuse sneaks up on you. You never see it coming; you only feel the consequences.<\/p>\n

Come pu\u00f2 la vostra mente essere pronta ad affrontare qualcosa che pensavate fosse accaduto all'improvviso?<\/strong><\/p>\n

I know, it\u2019s impossible.<\/p>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Then, you\u2019re faced with one of the greatest challenges of your life\u2014healing.<\/p>\n

Per prima cosa, ti guardi indietro e continui a chiederti come hai potuto sopportare tutte le stronzate che ti ha rifilato. Non riesci a credere a quello che ha fatto e a come hai reagito.<\/p>\n

You cannot believe how many things you\u2019ve found an excuse for. From where you\u2019re standing now, it\u2019s absolutely ridiculous and sad at the same time.<\/p>\n

But there is an important lesson you\u2019ve learned. You cannot change someone who doesn\u2019t want to change. You cannot force someone to love you by loving them back.<\/p>\n

Here\u2019s the lesson each of you needs to learn if you\u2019re dating (and probably suspecting) \u00e8 un narcisista sotto mentite spoglie<\/a>.<\/p>\n

It is only \u2018I\u2019, and no one else<\/h2>\n

\"uomo<\/p>\n

He only cares about himself. There is no sentence that doesn\u2019t contain the letter \u2018I\u2019 in it. You\u2019ll notice when you’re out with your friends, all he talks about is himself.<\/p>\n

The whole conversation revolves around him. Even if someone starts talking about something else, he\u2019ll use that to take the focus back on himself.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s his way or the highway<\/h2>\n

\"uomo<\/p>\n

He never takes other people\u2019s opinions into consideration. When he decides something, it has to be his way.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s like you don\u2019t even exist in his world. You can talk and beg; he won\u2019t give you the time of his day.<\/p>\n

Ti manipola\"donna<\/h2>\n

Conosce ogni vostra mossa, conosce ogni vostra reazione. Per questo motivo, pu\u00f2 manipolarvi e controllarvi per farvi fare esattamente ci\u00f2 che vuole.<\/p>\n

And at the end of the day, you\u2019ll have the feeling you\u2019ve done what he wanted willingly. That\u2019s how good of a manipulator he is.<\/p>\n

Non \u00e8 questo l'aspetto peggiore. No, la cosa peggiore \u00e8 che si diverte a vedervi ballare con la musica che suona.<\/p>\n

\u00c8 orgoglioso di avere un pupazzo simpatico e ben educato che fa esattamente quello che gli piace.<\/p>\n

Ha due pesi e due misure<\/h2>\n

\"coppia<\/p>\n

Quando si tratta della vostra vita, ci sono pi\u00f9 regole di quante se ne possano immaginare.<\/p>\n

You have to take steps through life carefully, making sure you don\u2019t take the wrong one (according to him).<\/p>\n

But, when it comes to him, different rules apply. All the things you\u2019re not allowed to do, he is.<\/p>\n

When he makes a mistake you\u2019d be punished for, it\u2019s not such a big deal.<\/p>\n

Other people\u2019s opinions matter to him a lot<\/h2>\n

\"amici<\/p>\n

He cares deeply about his reputation. He would always talk himself up because he had to be the most delightful and kindest person you\u2019d ever met.<\/p>\n

He wouldn\u2019t stop until he provoked that feeling in someone new he met.<\/p>\n

If talking himself up meant putting another down, he\u2019d still do it because he doesn\u2019t care who he has to run over to appear the best.<\/p>\n

You\u2019re the only one to blame<\/h2>\n

\"uomo<\/p>\n

Il gioco della colpa era il suo preferito. Non \u00e8 mai stata colpa sua per nulla. Se sei in cattive condizioni, \u00e8 perch\u00e9 te lo sei fatto da solo. Non \u00e8 mai stato lui.<\/p>\n

He is the angel, and you\u2019re the devil. He probably called you \u2018evil\u2019 and \u2018manipulative\u2019 a few times although you both know he is the evil one and not you.<\/p>\n

\u00c8 il migliore in circolazione<\/h2>\n

\"due<\/p>\n

He is always bragging about how he\u2019s the best, how he does everything better than anyone else.<\/p>\n

Se glielo chiedete, \u00e8 il padrone dell'universo. Lo ammetter\u00e0 senza vergognarsi.<\/p>\n

Sapete che le persone che hanno realizzato davvero qualcosa non se ne vantano mai. Se lo tengono per s\u00e9 e lo fanno solo se insistete perch\u00e9 ve lo dicano.<\/p>\n

Beh, non dovete mai chiedergli nulla, si vanter\u00e0 di tutto senza alcuna iniziativa.<\/p>\n

Si nutre di negativit\u00e0<\/h2>\n

\"uomo<\/p>\n

Ogni volta che sente un'energia positiva, si avvicina il pi\u00f9 possibile a voi per scaricarla tutta. In quei momenti, finge persino di amarvi davvero. Finge di volervi rendere felici.<\/p>\n

Quindi, naturalmente, dopo ogni conversazione con lui, vi sentite emotivamente svuotati.<\/p>\n

Your positive energy is sucked dry, and you\u2019re left with only the negative one.<\/p>\n

Ha una doppia personalit\u00e0<\/h2>\n

\"amici<\/p>\n

When you\u2019re out with other people, he\u2019s so charming and positive. Everyone who gets a chance to talk to him likes him instantly. He\u2019s a peach.<\/p>\n

Ma quando rimanete solo voi due, la sua personalit\u00e0 cambia. Diventa cupo e crudele, senza compassione e senza alcun rispetto per voi.<\/p>\n

He can\u2019t handle criticism<\/h2>\n

\"uomo<\/p>\n

\u00c8 un professionista quando si tratta di criticare gli altri, soprattutto voi. Si comporta come se sapesse tutto e finge di volerti aiutare davvero.<\/p>\n

When the situation is another way around, except for the fact you really want to help him while he only fakes it, he won\u2019t listen.<\/p>\n

He won\u2019t take your advice because he truly believes he is perfect the way he is.<\/p>\n

\u00c8 pieno di scuse<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Si aspetta che tu abbandoni tutto quando ha bisogno di te, ma quando tu hai bisogno di lui, lui ha sempre qualcosa di meglio da fare.<\/p>\n

Ha sempre una scusa per non fare qualcosa che volete.<\/p>\n

\u00c8 una regina del dramma<\/h2>\n

\"uomo<\/p>\n

Con lui nella vostra vita non c'\u00e8 mai nulla di semplice. Probabilmente a volte vi chiederete anche se siete in una soap opera spagnola, perch\u00e9 tutte le situazioni sono cos\u00ec simili.<\/p>\n

Ci sono cos\u00ec tanti drammi in corso.<\/p>\n

Ha bisogno di continue conferme<\/h2>\n

\"uomo<\/p>\n

I narcisisti hanno questo bisogno di dimostrarsi, soprattutto con le persone che dubitano di loro.<\/p>\n

This is something that bothers them constantly, and almost everything they do is to prove to everyone around that they are perfect\u2014that they have made it in life.<\/p>\n

What he does is not because he wants to be a better man. It\u2019s not because he wants to prove to himself he can, but it\u2019s because he wants to brag to everyone around how great he is.<\/p>\n

La perfezione \u00e8 l'unica strada da percorrere<\/h2>\n

\"giovane<\/p>\n

He won\u2019t stop until he gets what he wants and in the way he wants it. So, nothing is good enough until it\u2019s perfect.<\/p>\n

This is a pretty bad personality trait, and it\u2019s characteristic for narcissists because seeking perfection means getting what you want at all costs\u2014even if that means running over people, they don\u2019t care.<\/p>\n

Faranno tutto il necessario.<\/p>\n

He doesn\u2019t understand empathy<\/h2>\n

\"coppia<\/p>\n

You\u2019ve probably tried talking to him about something that bothered you. You probably got nothing in return.<\/p>\n

Your misery and your suffering don\u2019t mean anything to him because they don\u2019t concern or affect him directly.<\/p>\n

He only understands empathy when it has to do something with him. When another person is in pain, he doesn\u2019t give a shit.<\/p>\n

He will even stir the conversation you\u2019re having with him back to him being the topic to speak about.<\/p>\n

Ha un meccanismo di difesa<\/h2>\n

\"coppia<\/p>\n

Che ci crediate o no, c'\u00e8 un motivo per cui tutti i narcisisti sono cattivi e freddi. Deve esserci stato un fattore scatenante che li ha resi cos\u00ec, probabilmente quando erano ancora giovani.<\/p>\n

Un narcisista scappa se per caso riuscite a incrinarlo e a capire perch\u00e9 si comporta in quel modo.<\/p>\n

They have huge emotional walls built around themselves, and they won\u2019t tear them down for anybody\u2019s sake.<\/p>\n

Hanno imparato che la vulnerabilit\u00e0 \u00e8 un segno di debolezza che non possono permettere a nessuno di vedere.<\/p>\n

Ti spezza e ti aggiusta subito dopo<\/h2>\n

\"uomo<\/p>\n

It\u2019s like a hobby of his. In the normal world, the person who caused you pain, the person who broke you isn\u2019t allowed to come back into your life.<\/p>\n

That person doesn\u2019t have the right to help you heal because they are the reason you have to heal.<\/p>\n

La cosa pi\u00f9 logica da fare \u00e8 allontanarsi da quella persona e affrontare le cose che vi accadono.<\/p>\n

Well, that\u2019s not the case when you\u2019re with a narcissist. A narcissist will break you and then come back and comfort you.<\/p>\n

You\u2019ll be confused, but at the time when you\u2019re broken, consolation is all you need, so naturally, you take what you can get. That\u2019s the game he\u2019s playing.<\/p>\n

Non lascia mai andare il passato<\/h2>\n

\"uomo<\/p>\n

Mai. Ricorda quello che avete combattuto un anno fa.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s like he\u2019s keeping a diary of all the things you said or did wrong, and he makes sure you never forget them either.<\/p>\n

Ogni volta che iniziate una nuova battaglia, lui tira fuori il passato.<\/p>\n

There is a reason why he does that. If you noticed, if you\u2019re winning the fight and he has nothing to say back at you, he pulls out something you did in the past and opens a Pandora\u2019s box of arguments which never end.<\/p>\n

Vi maltratta emotivamente<\/h2>\n

\"uomo<\/p>\n

Quando si ama qualcuno, le probabilit\u00e0 di rendersi conto che quella persona sta abusando emotivamente di noi sono molto scarse. Dopo essere stati trattati male per qualche tempo, ci si abitua.<\/p>\n

Questo comportamento diventa normale per voi. Dopo un po', iniziate a trovare scuse per il vostro partner.<\/p>\n

You start justifying his behavior because you still love that person, and you\u2019re hoping badly it\u2019s all just a phase. and it will go away.<\/p>\n

He is aware of the fact you love him, and he takes advantage of that by doing whatever the hell he wants to you because he knows you\u2019ll come back as you always do.<\/p>\n

L'amore non \u00e8 pi\u00f9 quello che pensavi fosse<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

He has convinced you with the way he treats you that love is a one-way street\u2014you give and get nothing in return.<\/p>\n

He has made you believe that is what it is supposed to look like. Well, it\u2019s not!<\/p>\n

I narcisisti non sono in grado di amare nessuno se non se stessi. Perch\u00e9 per amare qualcuno, bisogna prima amare se stessi.<\/p>\n

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