{"id":3898,"date":"2017-08-25T13:15:22","date_gmt":"2017-08-25T13:15:22","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/herway.net\/?p=3898"},"modified":"2021-08-31T13:27:04","modified_gmt":"2021-08-31T13:27:04","slug":"3-motivi-comuni-ma-non-sorprendenti-per-cui-gli-uomini-diventano-emotivamente-distanti","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/3-motivi-comuni-ma-non-sorprendenti-per-cui-gli-uomini-diventano-emotivamente-distanti\/","title":{"rendered":"3 motivi comuni (ma non sorprendenti) per cui i ragazzi diventano emotivamente distanti"},"content":{"rendered":"

Every woman who experienced that awful feeling of a guy pulling away surely felt powerless and weak. It\u2019s a scenario in which you can\u2019t do much\u2014except give him space to clear his things out.<\/p>\n

Se vi intromettete e forzate troppo le cose, potete farlo allontanare ancora di pi\u00f9 da voi. E a quel punto siete impotenti.<\/p>\n

Ci si chiede cosa sia andato storto e come si sia arrivati a questo punto.<\/p>\n

Emotional distancing is a sneaky bastard. You\u2019ll never know when it\u2019s going to hit you and why. And what\u2019s even worse, there is no exact magic formula to fix it.<\/p>\n

Unfortunately, you can\u2019t do anything else except play along with his game and wait for the moment he decides to talk to you. Then, you\u2019ll be on the team that\u2019s winning.<\/p>\n

Instead of obsessing about it and questioning your own actions, let it go because you\u2019re not the one to blame for that. I know because I\u2019ve been there, too.<\/p>\n

I also struggled to find an answer to the question, \u201cWhy? Why is he pulling away?\u201d<\/p>\n

Vedi anche: Perch\u00e9 gli uomini si allontanano nelle prime fasi<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n

Voglio farti sentire meglio e voglio convincerti che le cose non sono ancora finite. Ci sono modi per essere una persona migliore e pi\u00f9 premurosa e per capirlo davvero.<\/p>\n

But, first, you have to get why he\u2019s acting the way he is in order to try and fix it. If you care enough for him, you will do everything that\u2019s in your power to get him back.<\/p>\n

Here are some of the reasons why he\u2019s emotionally distancing from you:<\/em><\/p>\n

You are the one who\u2019s always in charge<\/h2>\n

Here\u2019s the thing and I\u2019m not being offensive here\u2014just realistic because things are like this. Men like to be leaders. They like to think they have the final word. They are made like that. If you go back to your childhood, don\u2019t you remember boys were always competing over every little thing?<\/p>\n

That\u2019s because they have the need to show off their masculinity. That may be the reason he\u2019s pulling away from you\u2014you\u2019re not letting him be your rock. Now, I know you don\u2019t need a rock and I know you don\u2019t need a protector. That\u2019s why you were acting like this in the first place.<\/p>\n

Ma \u00e8 bene sapere che Le donne forti e indipendenti intimoriscono gli uomini.<\/a> I\u2019m not saying you have to submit yourself to him. You just have to just let some things slide. Let him initiate things\u2014let him \u2018steer the wheel\u2019 for a change. After all, relationships are all about the compromise, so being the one in charge all the time is not so healthy for your relationship, after all.<\/p>\n

\u00c8 stressato<\/h2>\n

Una cosa che noi donne dobbiamo gi\u00e0 capire e accettare \u00e8 che: GLI UOMINI NON FUNZIONANO COME NOI! <\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

Sono completamente diversi. Quando sono stressati, hanno bisogno di stare un po' da soli.<\/p>\n

Hanno bisogno di un luogo sicuro e di un ambiente non minaccioso in cui sentirsi a proprio agio. Hanno bisogno di un po' di tempo per raccogliere i loro pensieri e decidere quale sia la cosa giusta da fare.<\/p>\n

Women, on the other hand, do quite the opposite. Our first instinct is to let it all out. I\u2019ve never met a woman who kept her mouth shut at the question: \u201cIs everything ok?\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n

If not the first time, then the second or third time you\u2019ve asked the question. We have the need to talk it all out.<\/p>\n

That\u2019s where the problem is. If you see that your guy is being unusually quiet and he refuses to talk to you, it\u2019s because he needs some time alone.<\/p>\n

Non ve lo dir\u00e0 mai: \u201cWell, you know dear\u2026I have some issues and some things on my mind. I would really like to share them with you?\u201d<\/em> I mean come on, that even doesn\u2019t happen in the movies\u2014it\u2019s so surreal.<\/p>\n

Se lo mettete sotto pressione e lo costringete a parlarvi del suo problema, si allontaner\u00e0 ancora di pi\u00f9 da voi. Se vuole il vostro aiuto o consiglio, lo chieder\u00e0.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t insist on offering your opinion as a cure for his problems. If he reaches out to you, be there for him and hear him out. Until then, just let him sort his s**t out by himself.<\/p>\n

\"Uomo<\/p>\n

You\u2019re being needy<\/h2>\n

As I said before. Some things are not your fault. It\u2019s strange to say, but being needy is not your fault either.<\/p>\n

I know that some women can\u2019t shake that behavior off. That is a state of mind.<\/p>\n

Perch\u00e9 ci succede? Penso sinceramente che le donne che diventano bisognose abbiano avuto delle esperienze negative in precedenza, quindi lo diventano per paura.<\/p>\n

Diventano bisognose perch\u00e9 temono di perdere l'uomo che le tratta come meritano.<\/p>\n

But, truth to be told, we really can go too far in the whole thing and that\u2019s when things go south.<\/p>\n

Gli uomini odiano quando ci comportiamo cos\u00ec perch\u00e9 hanno la sensazione di essere soffocati.<\/p>\n

Men like to feel wanted and desired\u2014not needed. Their only fear is that they will lose their freedom in a relationship.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s not that they hate relationships. On the contrary, there is nothing better than being with a woman who they care for. But, there is that fear a woman will suck them dry.<\/p>\n

So, play this one wisely because as soon as they get the feeling you\u2019re being too needy, they will start pulling away out of fear they\u2019re losing their freedom.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s hard to keep a happy and healthy relationship. But remember, you\u2019re not in it alone\u2014compromise and talk are the cure for every relationship\u2019s bump in the road. <\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

Vedi anche: La tua distanza mi sta uccidendo<\/a><\/strong><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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