{"id":39154,"date":"2019-06-25T10:32:04","date_gmt":"2019-06-25T10:32:04","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=39154"},"modified":"2021-08-12T07:12:56","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T07:12:56","slug":"sono-in-pausa-dagli-uomini-perche-e-tempo-di-stabilire-nuove-regole-2","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/sono-in-pausa-dagli-uomini-perche-e-tempo-di-stabilire-nuove-regole-2\/","title":{"rendered":"Sono in pausa dagli uomini perch\u00e9 \u00e8 ora di stabilire nuove regole"},"content":{"rendered":"<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Sono emotivamente svuotata e ho bisogno di una pausa. Una pausa da uomini bugiardi, traditori, manipolatori, buoni a nulla.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Quindi mi prendo un anno sabbatico. Ho bisogno di un po' di pace per cambiare. Ho bisogno di riposo dagli uomini e da tutto ci\u00f2 che ne deriva.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Sono stufo di giocare e di decifrare <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/relationship\/la-psicologia-che-si-nasconde-dietro-il-gioco-degli-appuntamenti\/\">segnali caldi e freddi<\/a>. I can\u2019t worry about who called who first, why my texts are left on read receipts. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Why one day he is the best man on earth and the next, a monster I can\u2019t recognize.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">It\u2019s all too much and I am putting a stop to it. I am getting off this tiring, emotional roller coaster ride.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Per ora ho bisogno di un po' di tempo da sola per lavorare su me stessa, da sola, per me stessa. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Ma per quando sar\u00f2 pronta a tornare l\u00e0 fuori e a stare di nuovo con qualcuno, ho gi\u00e0 stabilito alcune nuove regole.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>1. Amate voi stessi e mettetevi al primo posto, per cambiare\u00a0<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/ben-white-08swtCO0Syg-unsplash.jpg\" alt=\"Sono in pausa dagli uomini perch\u00e9 \u00e8 ora di stabilire nuove regole\" class=\"wp-image-39157\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/ben-white-08swtCO0Syg-unsplash.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/ben-white-08swtCO0Syg-unsplash-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/ben-white-08swtCO0Syg-unsplash-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Mi perdevo cos\u00ec tanto nell'amare qualcuno da perdere di vista me stessa. Trascurerei i miei amici, i miei hobby e i miei sogni a causa dell'altra persona.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Avrei permesso alle loro parole di abbassare la mia autostima e le loro azioni avrebbero governato la mia vita. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Sto imparando a essere una donna pi\u00f9 forte e indipendente, che si occupa di tutto ci\u00f2 che di buono o di cattivo le accade.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">I can\u2019t attach my mood to another person. I can\u2019t expect anybody to make me happy if I can\u2019t do it myself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>2. Assicuratevi che l'altra persona sappia che le relazioni sono fatte per due, non per uno o per tre.<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"800\" height=\"533\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/steven-coffey-e26Tf5jpCMI-unsplash.jpg\" alt=\"Sono in pausa dagli uomini perch\u00e9 \u00e8 ora di stabilire nuove regole\" class=\"wp-image-39158\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/steven-coffey-e26Tf5jpCMI-unsplash.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/steven-coffey-e26Tf5jpCMI-unsplash-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/steven-coffey-e26Tf5jpCMI-unsplash-768x512.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Rimanevo bloccata in relazioni unilaterali in cui ero l'unica a investire. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Darei il mio cuore e la mia anima in una relazione e finirei a mani vuote.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Due persone devono essere una squadra, l'investimento deve essere uguale e tutti gli sforzi devono essere ricambiati. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Non mi accontenter\u00f2 mai pi\u00f9 di una relazione in cui mi sento sola e svuotata emotivamente.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">I want someone who makes sure I know I\u2019m his one and only. Who never makes me question his loyalty. And that\u2019s something I won\u2019t ever compromise about.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>3. State con qualcuno di cui vi potete fidare, perch\u00e9 senza onest\u00e0 non c'\u00e8 vicinanza.<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"800\" height=\"533\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/priscilla-du-preez-9vHPCKymSh0-unsplash-1-1.jpg\" alt=\"Sono in pausa dagli uomini perch\u00e9 \u00e8 ora di stabilire nuove regole\" class=\"wp-image-39160\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/priscilla-du-preez-9vHPCKymSh0-unsplash-1-1.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/priscilla-du-preez-9vHPCKymSh0-unsplash-1-1-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/priscilla-du-preez-9vHPCKymSh0-unsplash-1-1-768x512.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Lo ripeter\u00f2 a me stesso pi\u00f9 e pi\u00f9 volte. Prima, quando qualcuno mi mentiva, lasciavo correre. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Inventavo scuse finch\u00e9 non ce n'erano pi\u00f9.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">I need someone who is honest and trustworthy. Someone who won\u2019t stab me in the back. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Qualcuno con cui possa sentirmi al sicuro. Qualcuno che mi dia pace nella mente e nel cuore.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">That\u2019s the only way I will actually be close to someone.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>4.\u00a0 Don\u2019t try to fix anybody or anything ever again\u00a0<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"800\" height=\"533\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/marcelo-matarazzo-eoll6jVrEM0-unsplash.jpg\" alt=\"Sono in pausa dagli uomini perch\u00e9 \u00e8 ora di stabilire nuove regole\" class=\"wp-image-39161\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/marcelo-matarazzo-eoll6jVrEM0-unsplash.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/marcelo-matarazzo-eoll6jVrEM0-unsplash-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/marcelo-matarazzo-eoll6jVrEM0-unsplash-768x512.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Sto imparando la differenza tra rotto e piegato. Le cose piegate possono essere riparate e aggiustate, ma ci\u00f2 che era rotto non pu\u00f2 pi\u00f9 essere lo stesso.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">I won\u2019t give endless chances to someone to change. I can\u2019t change or fix another person if they don\u2019t recognize the need to do so in themselves.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">I refuse to live in a crappy situation now and hope for a miracle in the future. If improvements don\u2019t start soon, nothing will get better with time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">La verit\u00e0 \u00e8 che a volte facciamo pi\u00f9 danni a noi stessi e all'altra persona rimanendo che andandocene.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>5. La verit\u00e0 pi\u00f9 grande di tutte \u00e8 che le azioni sono pi\u00f9 importanti delle parole.<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"800\" height=\"533\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/everton-vila-AsahNlC0VhQ-unsplash.jpg\" alt=\"Sono in pausa dagli uomini perch\u00e9 \u00e8 ora di stabilire nuove regole\" class=\"wp-image-39162\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/everton-vila-AsahNlC0VhQ-unsplash.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/everton-vila-AsahNlC0VhQ-unsplash-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/everton-vila-AsahNlC0VhQ-unsplash-768x512.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/relationship\/100-citazioni-mi-dispiace-per-lei-per-farsi-perdonare-dalla-persona-amata\/\">\u201cI am sorry.\u201d<\/a> doesn\u2019t count for much if somebody turns around and does the same thing again. \u201cI love you.\u201d is worthless when there is no investment or reciprocity to back it up.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">I learned that the hard way. That\u2019s why I am more interested now in what a man has to offer. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Il suo carattere, i tratti della sua personalit\u00e0, la sua gentilezza, i suoi valori e il suo comportamento complessivo nei miei confronti sono pi\u00f9 importanti delle parole vuote.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Migliorer\u00f2 questo elenco man mano, ma credo di aver coperto le basi pi\u00f9 importanti. Ora torno a me. Sto creando una vita di cui sar\u00f2 orgogliosa e sto coltivando l'amore per me stessa.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">It\u2019s time I spoil myself rotten. It\u2019s time I find my strength again. It\u2019s time for me. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Le regole e gli uomini ci saranno quando sar\u00f2 pronto a tornare in pista. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"683\" height=\"1024\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/PINTEREST-2019-06-25T123139.613-683x1024.jpg\" alt=\"Sono in pausa dagli uomini perch\u00e9 \u00e8 ora di stabilire nuove regole\" class=\"wp-image-39165\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/PINTEREST-2019-06-25T123139.613-683x1024.jpg 683w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/PINTEREST-2019-06-25T123139.613-200x300.jpg 200w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/PINTEREST-2019-06-25T123139.613.jpg 735w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 683px) 100vw, 683px\" \/><\/figure>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>I am emotionally drained and I need a break. A break from lying, cheating, manipulative, good for nothing men.\u00a0 So I am taking a sabbatical. I need some peace for a change. I need rest from men and all that comes with them.\u00a0 I am sick of playing games and deciphering hot and cold signals&#8230;.<\/p>","protected":false},"author":22,"featured_media":39164,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29645],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-39154","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-being-single"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29645,"label":"being single"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/shutterstock_448691323.jpg",800,534,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Tina Navarro","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/author\/tatiana\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29645,"name":"being single","slug":"being-single","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29645,"taxonomy":"category","description":"How to rock being single? 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