{"id":39407,"date":"2020-06-27T13:37:11","date_gmt":"2020-06-27T13:37:11","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=39407"},"modified":"2021-08-11T11:35:07","modified_gmt":"2021-08-11T11:35:07","slug":"3-cose-che-mi-hanno-aperto-gli-occhi-e-che-ho-imparato-dalle-rotture-degli-altri","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/3-cose-che-mi-hanno-aperto-gli-occhi-e-che-ho-imparato-dalle-rotture-degli-altri\/","title":{"rendered":"3 cose illuminanti che ho imparato dalle rotture degli altri"},"content":{"rendered":"

When I get my heart broken, the pain usually blinds me to the point where I don\u2019t manage to learn anything from it. Besides, I often lose the ability to see things realistically.<\/p>\r\n

Quando affronto una rottura devastante, il mio unico obiettivo \u00e8 superare la situazione il prima possibile.<\/p>\r\n

I\u2019m doing my best to find a way to andare avanti<\/span><\/a> con la mia vita e per guarire da tutto quello che \u00e8 successo, cos\u00ec spesso finisco per perdere alcune lezioni preziose che il mio cuore spezzato avrebbe potuto insegnarmi.<\/p>\r\n

However, when the people around me go through the same shit, I\u2019m different.<\/p>\r\n

Besides being there to comfort them, somehow, I also find a way to observe the situation and \u2013 most importantly \u2013 learn from their mistakes.<\/p>\r\n

1. Sometimes love isn\u2019t enough<\/h2>\r\n

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When I was younger, I was a hopeless romantic who thought that love conquers everything. However, even though I still consider it to be a powerful force, I now know that sadly, it\u2019s not almighty.<\/p>\r\n

Nel corso del tempo, ho visto molte mie amiche allontanarsi da ragazzi a cui tenevano ancora molto.<\/p>\r\n

Li ho visti costretti a spezzare i loro cuori facendo la cosa giusta e allontanandosi da una relazione che ovviamente non aveva futuro.<\/p>\r\n

So I guess that as we grow older, we learn that there are times when love isn\u2019t enough.<\/p>\r\n

Times when two people can\u2019t make their relationship work, despite all the feelings they have for each other.<\/p>\r\n

You see, the tough truth is that love alone can never preserve a relationship that has no mutual respect; it can\u2019t save a couple that has too many differences.<\/p>\r\n

Una relazione sana ha bisogno di molto di pi\u00f9 dell'amore di entrambi i partner. Ha bisogno di compromessi, compassione, apprezzamento e obiettivi reciproci. Altrimenti, non funzioner\u00e0 mai.<\/p>\r\n

2. People don\u2019t change<\/h2>\r\n

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Another important thing other people\u2019s breakups taught me is that love can\u2019t change someone<\/span><\/a> finch\u00e9 non decidono di cambiare.<\/p>\r\n

Avete la possibilit\u00e0 di accettare il vostro partner per quello che \u00e8 realmente fin dall'inizio o di allontanarvi in tempo.<\/p>\r\n

Let\u2019s face it. No matter how crazy you are for someone, there are always parts of him you hope to modify sometime in the future.<\/p>\r\n

\u00c8 arrivato il momento di dimenticarsi di questi piani, perch\u00e9 realizzarli \u00e8 una missione impossibile.<\/p>\r\n

Over the years, I saw my friends getting involved with addicts, immature boys, serial cheaters, players\u2026 And each one of them thought they could change their guy.<\/p>\r\n

They were convinced that they were the ones who would bring light to these men\u2019s worlds, the ones who would show them the way, who would inspire them to be better and to leave their pasts behind.<\/p>\r\n

Indovinate un po'? Nessuno dei miei amici ce l'ha fatta.<\/p>\r\n

Ognuna di loro \u00e8 rimasta delusa, avendo sprecato anni della propria vita in attesa di un cambiamento che non \u00e8 mai arrivato; i loro fidanzati sono rimasti gli stessi uomini che erano prima di incontrarli.<\/p>\r\n

Don\u2019t get me wrong, this doesn\u2019t mean that people don\u2019t have the ability to change some parts of their personality.<\/p>\r\n

However, it is one thing when a person decides to make these changes because they realize it is the right thing to do and something they want. It is completely different if they\u2019re doing it to please someone else.<\/p>\r\n

3. Un cuore spezzato guarisce sempre<\/h2>\r\n

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Whenever one of my friends came to me after a painful breakup, she was convinced that she\u2019d remain this hurt forever. That her heart would forever be shattered in pieces and that she\u2019d never recover.<\/p>\r\n

Ammettiamolo: la maggior parte di noi \u00e8 pi\u00f9 o meno cos\u00ec. Quando finiscono le cose con i ragazzi che amiamo, la vediamo come la fine del mondo.<\/p>\r\n

Io non ero diversa. Quando ho vissuto la mia prima rottura, pensavo che avrei passato il resto della mia vita in lacrime, sentendo la mancanza di quell'uomo e desiderando la sua presenza.<\/p>\r\n

Tuttavia, poi mi sono ricordata di tutte le persone intorno a me che hanno vissuto la stessa situazione prima di me.<\/p>\r\n

I remembered my friends\u2019 sleepless nights, their tears, and the way they saw their heartbreaks as the worst thing that could possibly happen.<\/p>\r\n

Ho ricordato che ognuno di loro si \u00e8 ripreso con successo. Che ognuno di loro ha curato le proprie ferite ed \u00e8 andato avanti con la propria vita.<\/p>\r\n

Quindi, ho pensato che un il cuore spezzato guarisce sempre<\/span><\/a>a prescindere da tutto. Lo hanno fatto i loro, lo ha fatto il mio e lo far\u00e0 anche il vostro. Ve lo posso assicurare.<\/p>\r\n

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