{"id":39431,"date":"2019-06-28T09:36:21","date_gmt":"2019-06-28T09:36:21","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=39431"},"modified":"2021-08-12T07:09:01","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T07:09:01","slug":"5-segni-che-in-realta-hai-paura-di-guarire-e-non-te-ne-rendi-nemmeno-conto","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/5-segni-che-in-realta-hai-paura-di-guarire-e-non-te-ne-rendi-nemmeno-conto\/","title":{"rendered":"5 segni che in realt\u00e0 hai paura di guarire (e non te ne rendi conto)"},"content":{"rendered":"

Nonostante tutto quello che dicono, alcune persone si rifiutano di lasciare andare i ricordi e il dolore. Si aggrappano al passato, senza nemmeno esserne consapevoli.<\/p>\n

There are people who don\u2019t allow time to do its magic. The ones who refuse to start the repairing process simply because it means they\u2019d have to accept the end. The ones who don\u2019t want to heal because they are scared of the real life which awaits them after they recover.<\/p>\n

Here are 5 signs that you\u2019re one of these people and that your fear is responsible for the fact that you\u2019re not guarigione<\/span><\/a>.<\/p>\n

1. Si ricordano solo le cose belle<\/h2>\n

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The first sign you actually don\u2019t want to let go lies in the fact that you don\u2019t look at your past relationship realistically. Instead of remembering things the way they really were, you only think of the good times and beautiful memories.<\/p>\n

Tenendo presente questo, \u00e8 perfettamente naturale che pensiate al passato come a qualcosa di molto migliore di quello che \u00e8 stato in realt\u00e0. Idealizzate il vostro ex e tutto ci\u00f2 che avete provato accanto a lui, il che vi rende impossibile guarire.<\/p>\n

Vi soffermate sul potenziale della vostra relazione passata, pensando a tutte le cose che sarebbero potute e dovute accadere se aveste fatto funzionare le cose. Invece, dovreste guardare la verit\u00e0 negli occhi e capire che \u00e8 finita per un motivo valido e che non era affatto perfetta.<\/p>\n

2. Romanzate il dolore<\/h2>\n

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While looking at your relationship through rose-tinted glasses, somehow you\u2019ve also managed to romanticize the emotional pain that\u2019s been consuming you. Instead of seeing it as something you need to get rid of ASAP, you\u2019ve found something noble and divine in it.<\/p>\n

Deep down, you are proud of yourself for being this consistent. You\u2019re proud of being capable of loving one man for as long as you breathe, even if this is the man who\u2019s caused you so much harm.<\/p>\n

Well, let me tell you something\u2014despite everything the love songs, poems and novels are trying to tell you, there is nothing poetic about wasting years crying over someone. There is nothing romantic about being emotionally damaged and there doesn\u2019t exist such a thing as being beautifully broken.<\/p>\n

3. E divenne familiare<\/h2>\n

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Another sign that you\u2019re scared of healing, without even realizing it, is the fact that with years, the pain has become familiar. This is something you don\u2019t see at first but if you dig through your subconscious, you\u2019ll see that it really did become your comfort zone.<\/p>\n

After so much time you\u2019ve spent suffering, holding on to the past and thinking about the man who hurt you became a habit of yours. After so much time, you convinced yourself that sadness is the only emotion you know how to feel.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t get me wrong\u2014I\u2019m not saying that you should have pretended that the pain isn\u2019t real because that wouldn\u2019t bring you any good either. However, it is obvious that you\u2019ve allowed it to definire chi siete<\/span><\/a>.<\/p>\n

Whether you like to admit it or not, the fact is that you\u2019ve ceased to exist outside of the pain. You\u2019ve stopped being a daughter, a sister, a mother or a friend and you\u2019ve reduced your entire being to a broken-hearted woman. Please, remember that you\u2019re much more than that!<\/p>\n

4. Pensi che tutti siano come il tuo ex<\/h2>\n

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Quando una persona vi fa cos\u00ec male, \u00e8 naturale che perdiate la fiducia in tutta l'umanit\u00e0. Pensate che tutti abbiano l'intenzione di spezzarvi il cuore e che tutti gli uomini siano uguali al vostro ex.<\/p>\n

Cos\u00ec, senza nemmeno esserne consapevoli, vi aggrappate al suo ricordo perch\u00e9 \u00e8 meglio che mettervi in gioco ed esporre le vostre vulnerabilit\u00e0 a qualcuno di nuovo che potrebbe finire per trattarvi come ha fatto il vostro ex.<\/p>\n

5. Or that you\u2019ll never find someone like him<\/h2>\n

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Of course, there is also the possibility that you\u2019re convinced you\u2019ll never trovare qualcuno di meglio<\/span><\/a> and that no man on this earth could ever make you feel the way he did. Maybe your ex-boyfriend manipulated you into thinking that he was the best you\u2019d ever find so now you think it is pointless to even try searching for someone new.<\/p>\n

Not wanting to settle for a loveless relationship just so you don\u2019t end up being single is one thing. However, not giving anyone a chance just because you are convinced you could never love again after your ex is not only foolish but is also a sure-fire sign that you are actually afraid of healing.<\/p>\n

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