{"id":39513,"date":"2019-07-01T07:34:20","date_gmt":"2019-07-01T07:34:20","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=39513"},"modified":"2021-08-24T13:27:14","modified_gmt":"2021-08-24T13:27:14","slug":"4-segni-evidenti-che-lamore-e-solo-un-rimedio","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/4-segni-evidenti-che-lamore-e-solo-un-rimedio\/","title":{"rendered":"4 segni evidenti che state usando l'amore solo come una soluzione"},"content":{"rendered":"

La dipendenza dall'amore \u00e8 un problema serio e se c'\u00e8 anche solo una piccola possibilit\u00e0 che tu stia lottando con essa, devi assolutamente continuare a leggere.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Many people won\u2019t give this much thought, but those who use love to replace all other shortcomings in their life deserve to find their happy ending.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Just like with addicts (to drugs, alcohol, etc\u2026) it is possible that you, too, are using the idea of love as a replacement for something that you might be missing in life, but don\u2019t want to trattare con.<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n

You get on this \u2018\u2019love train\u2019\u2019 and you keep pursuing it because getting off is not an option. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

You\u2019re scared where it would leave you, and you\u2019re not sure how you\u2019d function alone.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And this is why you use men to keep you busy and deflect your attention from serious shit that\u2019s going on in your life that you don\u2019t want to face just yet.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are unable to connect emotionally with a man, which is why you jump from one meaningless fling to another and tell yourself that it\u2019s love and that it\u2019s totally fine. But it really isn\u2019t.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

La dipendenza dall'amore pu\u00f2 assumere una vita propria, e pu\u00f2 scombussolare completamente la vostra vita non permettendovi di trovare il tempo per affrontare ci\u00f2 che deve essere affrontato. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Avete un problema serio con intimit\u00e0 emotiva<\/a>e la vostra dipendenza dall'amore lo rende pi\u00f9 difficile.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ma c'\u00e8 molto di pi\u00f9. Ecco 4 segnali che indicano che state usando l'amore solo come una soluzione per non dover affrontare la vita reale e i problemi reali:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

1. You have to be in constant contact with the person whose love you\u2019re using as a fix<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
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You always have your phone on you, and you\u2019re constantly checking to see if his name will pop up on your screen. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

If it doesn\u2019t, you absolutely must mandargli un messaggio,<\/a> even if just to say: \u2018What\u2019s up?\u2019<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Per lei \u00e8 inconcepibile non sentirlo per un giorno intero. Ti fa sentire paranoica e ansiosa e hai semplicemente bisogno di una dose. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

You can\u2019t maintain conversations with other people. You are so focused on getting a text from him that it\u2019s hard to focus on anything else.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Your other relationships (with friends, family) suffer due to your obsessive need for your fix, and you don\u2019t even care to remedy it. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

All you want is him, and you don\u2019t care what anyone thinks.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Questo \u00e8 un chiaro segno che c'\u00e8 qualcosa che vi turba seriamente all'interno, sia che si tratti del vostro bisogno insoddisfatto di un legame pi\u00f9 profondo o della vostra paura di essere rifiutati. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Whichever it is, it is making you go crazy for the idea of love you think you have with this guy because you think it will magically make it all better. (It won\u2019t.)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

2. Vivete nella falsa convinzione che l'altra persona sia la soluzione a tutti i vostri problemi pi\u00f9 profondi.<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
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Just like with any other addiction, this one makes you think that your \u2018\u2019love fix\u2019\u2019 is the actual solution to your problems you don\u2019t want to face head on. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

You get lost in this supposed love, assuring yourself that it is going to make it all better. But it won\u2019t.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sapete come si dice che l'erba del vicino \u00e8 sempre pi\u00f9 verde? Ecco, questo \u00e8 il vostro problema principale. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

State inseguendo una fantasia sfuggente, convincendovi che \u00e8 a portata di mano, ma non riuscite mai a raggiungerla in modo soddisfacente.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Migliora le cose solo per quel particolare momento. Non dura mai. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Non ti fa mai sentire meglio una volta che se ne va, e ti lascia in una condizione ancora peggiore di prima.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Molte persone lottano con essere soli<\/a>E questo li spinge a rincorrere le cose per sentirsi meno soli.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Semplicemente, non riuscite a stare con i vostri pensieri perch\u00e9 sapete che vi divoreranno, quindi scegliete di passare alla dipendenza dall'amore per non dover affrontare le cose in modo adeguato.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

3. You value yourself based on other people\u2019s opinions of you<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
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Le persone che lottano contro le dipendenze si trovano molto spesso a un bivio della loro vita. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Di solito stanno passando da un capitolo della loro vita a quello successivo e l'opinione che hanno di se stessi \u00e8 pi\u00f9 fragile in questo periodo.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

They aren\u2019t really sure who they are and what their purpose is yet, so they choose to let other people\u2019s opinions and impressions of them affect the way they see themselves. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

This\u00a0 is a wrong thing to do, but it is also the main thing that sends you into overdrive and turns you to your type of addiction.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Pensate di meritare solo quanto una persona irrilevante vi ritiene degna, e questa \u00e8 la causa della vostra spirale negativa che vi ha portato a questa dipendenza dall'amore.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

4. Si superano certi limiti per mantenere quella persona, fino al punto di manipolarla.<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
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When a person is so adamant to keep a partner by their side, regardless of how far they\u2019re willing to go, it is no longer love, but a destructive pattern of behaviour that has resorted in your toxic love addiction.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Resorting to manipulation and similar tactics means you\u2019ve started treading on dangerous territory that will likely end up breaking apart from under you.\u00a0\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When your behaviour changes for the worse and you end up acting completely unlike yourself, it\u2019s time to ask yourself what it is that led you to this point.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Avete sostituito l'amore, l'onest\u00e0 e il rispetto con la manipolazione, la menzogna e un comportamento di controllo. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Invece di cercare un legame emotivo, si salta da un sostituto all'altro, senza lasciarsi andare all'esperienza della solitudine.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ed \u00e8 proprio questo il vostro problema principale. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Dovete imparare a stare bene da soli, per poter lavorare alla cura della vostra dipendenza amorosa che non vi far\u00e0 pi\u00f9 mendicare disperatamente la vostra dose. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Solo cos\u00ec potrete guarire e lavorare alla vostra guarigione.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Love addiction is a serious issue, and if there\u2019s even a slight chance you might be struggling with it, you should definitely keep on reading.\u00a0 Many people won\u2019t give this much thought, but those who use love to replace all other shortcomings in their life deserve to find their happy ending. Just like with addicts…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":53,"featured_media":39519,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29614],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-39513","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-love-talks"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29614,"label":"love talks"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/07\/shutterstock_475703821.jpg",800,532,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Ariel Quinn","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/author\/ariel\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29614,"name":"love talks","slug":"love-talks","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29614,"taxonomy":"category","description":"What is love? How does it affect us? How to know someone loves you or show someone you love them? What types of love are there? Learn all that and much more.","parent":38,"count":426,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29614,"category_count":426,"category_description":"What is love? How does it affect us? How to know someone loves you or show someone you love them? What types of love are there? Learn all that and much more.","cat_name":"love talks","category_nicename":"love-talks","category_parent":38}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/39513","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/53"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=39513"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/39513\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/39519"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=39513"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=39513"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=39513"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}