{"id":39736,"date":"2019-07-03T07:38:00","date_gmt":"2019-07-03T07:38:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=39736"},"modified":"2022-02-27T02:40:31","modified_gmt":"2022-02-27T02:40:31","slug":"accecato-dallamore-la-mia-relazione-domestica-abusiva","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/accecato-dallamore-la-mia-relazione-domestica-abusiva\/","title":{"rendered":"Accecato dall'amore: La mia relazione domestica abusiva"},"content":{"rendered":"

Girls, has your man ever done something to upset you? Well, of course he has! He\u2019s human, you\u2019re human, we\u2019re all human! But what happens when he starts to hurt you mentally and physically on a regular basis. How do you walk away for good?<\/p>\r\n

This was my situation; my boyfriend had anger issues. He would throw things, punch walls and doors, and shout. It was never a problem when I wasn\u2019t on the receiving end of it. Less than 12 months into the relationship did I then encounter his unpredictable anger. He shouted in my face, told me to shut up, saying that it wasn\u2019t always about me. This made me cry and I was ready to leave him.<\/p>\r\n

But aren\u2019t they clever? He twisted the situation and ended up making me feel like the guilty one. So I stayed. He promised he\u2019d never act that way again. Domestic abusers will never change!<\/p>\r\n

They want to control your life, but they tell you it\u2019s because they love you. They\u2019re control freaks in the worst form. They take you away from things you love! For me, this was my career as an international flight attendant. He\u2019d always be calling me, always needing to know where I was and who I was with. This then kick-started the anxiety. I became quiet at work; I didn\u2019t see or speak to my friends.<\/p>\r\n

Poi un giorno mi sono svegliata. Ho trovato sul suo portatile e sui suoi account sui social media dei messaggi che lo ritraevano mentre flirtava con altre ragazze. Diceva che per lui era una stupida spinta all'ego e che era stato un errore. Ero cos\u00ec arrabbiata e ferita che ho preso la mia valigia ed ero pronta ad andarmene, finch\u00e9 non mi ha aggredita fisicamente. Ero scioccata e terrorizzata.<\/p>\r\n

This is when it finally dawned on me\u2026 Do I want to feel like this for the rest of my life? Do I want him controlling me for the rest of my life? But most importantly, do I want to be physically harmed for the rest of my life by the man who\u2019s MEANT to love me?<\/p>\r\n

It was hard to walk away because I was madly in love with him. But I knew what he was capable of. I knew he had issues. I thought I could be the one to save him. But the only person who needed saving was myself! From the man that said he\u2019d never hurt me, never betray me, and always protect me.<\/p>\r\n

\"Accecato<\/p>\r\n

You were handsome, smart, and funny, but all those things didn\u2019t make up for how you made me feel in those moments. You made me feel so small and like I wasn\u2019t good enough.<\/p>\r\n

You made me depend on you; you made me feel like I\u2019d always need you. I guess this is what abusers do to stop you from ever leaving them.<\/p>\r\n

I\u2019ve realised I was a victim, but I am NOT ashamed! You\u2019re the one that\u2019s lost someone who would\u2019ve done anything for you and loved you, which other girls will find hard, believe me.<\/p>\r\n

You don\u2019t get to put your insecurities onto me anymore. You don\u2019t get to control my life anymore. I make my own decisions now. Mi rifiuto di rinunciare a me stesso<\/a>. I\u2019ve got a lot of love to give, but I\u2019m saving it for the right man.<\/p>\r\n

I still love and care for you, but actions have consequences and you\u2019ll face those soon enough. It may bring you shame with your family and your career. But in that second you decided to raise your hand to me, you will have to live with it.<\/p>\r\n

This is bigger than me now! This is about all the girls before me and all the ones that could be after me. You underestimated my strength and courage. It’s in us all. We just have to find it.<\/p>\r\n

Se qualcuno vi ama veramente, non vi toccher\u00e0 mai e poi mai con un dito.<\/p>\r\n

They will never make you feel like you\u2019re not good enough. They will never lose their temper with you.<\/p>\r\n

Non cercheranno mai di cambiare ci\u00f2 che siete.<\/p>\r\n

Non vi faranno mai sentire in colpa per aver trascorso del tempo con gli amici o la famiglia!<\/p>\r\n

Pensavo che fossi il meglio che potessi fare. Invece sei stato il peggiore.<\/p>\r\n

I\u2019ve always read stories about women getting into and being in these relationships. I never thought it would be me that would be sharing my story to create awareness on this issue.<\/p>\r\n

We as young women CANNOT let a man define who we are. We cannot let men change what we want to be and our dreams. So girls, there\u2019s ALWAYS something or someone better for you out there. There is a light at the end of that tunnel. Don\u2019t let a monster have your pretty little heart. Save it for your true Prince Charming. Know your worth.<\/p>\r\n

di Charlotte Andrews<\/b><\/p>\r\n

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