Your friends\u2014especially the ones who were never in that situation and who always had long-term relationships, labeled from the beginning\u2014will never understand that this hurts sometimes even more because you are left with the eternal questioning: \u201cIf we had been together properly, things might have been different now. He might have realized how great I was, and he might have even proposed to me already.\u201d<\/p>\n
Another thing that always kept me seriously questioning myself was: \u201cWhat did this new girl do exactly to make him commit?\u201d<\/b><\/p>\n
![\"Perch\u00e9](\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/07\/scott-warman-PggUV23z1fc-unsplash-1.jpg\")
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\u201cWhat were her techniques? She is not that much prettier, and I have heard that she is not that much smarter or funnier than me, according to his friends who actually liked me.\u201d<\/p>\n
Oh, il costante confronto che mi faceva impazzire. Continuavo a pensare e ripensare a ogni mia mossa e a ogni mia parola. Ho anche perseguitato lei e lui, e in realt\u00e0 ho persino finto di essere lei e che lui mi avrebbe trattato come aveva trattato lei.<\/p>\n
The day I decided it needed to stop was actually a really long time after that\u2014a year and a half to be exact.<\/p>\n
Mi sono resa conto che tutto ci\u00f2 che faceva era probabilmente mettere se stessa al primo posto e non pensare troppo a tutto. Avevo questo schema; ce l'ho ancora. Ogni volta che incontro qualcuno, continuo a chiedermi: \u201cWhen is he going to leave me for another one who is smarter and maybe even sneakier in her plans than me?\u201d<\/em> I don\u2019t care anymore if someone is going to leave and not commit to me anymore. I am done with it. I am turning myself over to my inner self. I want to become successful, and I no longer want to overthink and plan everything when it comes to men.<\/p>\n I am not pleasing anyone anymore, and I am not settling for breadcrumbs anymore. I would rather be alone and sleep tight because those \u201crelationships\u201d before always left great fear in me.<\/p>\n Non ho mai dormito bene. E se qualcuno mi dice ancora che devo fare un piano, essere un passo avanti, e che gli uomini sono in realt\u00e0 facili da capire, che ogni donna pu\u00f2 avere qualsiasi uomo che vuole se solo pianifica le cose con attenzione, beh, gli chiudo la bocca.<\/p>\n I don\u2019t want to be tactical about anything. I want to be a complete person with myself, and if someone shows up along the road, I want things straight and clear and honest from the beginning.<\/p>\n
E mi sembrava quasi che quegli uomini avessero fiutato la mia paura e quindi mi avessero abbandonato. <\/b><\/p>\n![\"Perch\u00e9](\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/07\/scott-683x1024.jpg\")
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