{"id":40043,"date":"2019-07-09T07:06:20","date_gmt":"2019-07-09T07:06:20","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=40043"},"modified":"2021-09-08T10:17:36","modified_gmt":"2021-09-08T10:17:36","slug":"5-modi-per-capire-se-lamore-e-reale-o-solo-unillusione-narcisistica","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/5-modi-per-capire-se-lamore-e-reale-o-solo-unillusione-narcisistica\/","title":{"rendered":"5 modi per sapere se \u00e8 amore vero o solo un'illusione narcisistica"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>L'amore \u00e8 una strada a doppio senso. Entrambi i partner devono dare tanto quanto si aspettano di ricevere se sono decisi a far funzionare la relazione. E se \u00e8 <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/love\/7-motivi-per-cui-le-donne-empatiche-hanno-difficolta-a-trovare-il-vero-amore\/\">amore vero<\/a>, that shouldn\u2019t be a problem. Not one bit.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Ma quando si tratta di narcisisti, le cose sono un po' diverse.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Quello che voi e io consideriamo amore, il narcisista lo vede come un'opportunit\u00e0 per attirare un'altra vittima nella sua rete di bugie affascinanti e manipolatrici e di false promesse.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>They don\u2019t see love the way we do, and they aren\u2019t capable of feeling it as deeply and profoundly as we are. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>They can fake it, and they are damn good at it. And that\u2019s the scariest thing of them all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>How do you know if you\u2019re experiencing real love or if it\u2019s all just a well thought-out scam, designed to suck you dry and leave you hopeless? How do you know if you\u2019re living a narcissistic illusion?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u00c8 uno schifo che spesso si arrivi a questo punto. \u00c8 uno schifo che le tue speranze e i tuoi sogni vengano distrutti a causa di un uomo manipolatore, carismatico e affascinante che non \u00e8 altro che un narcisista tossico. <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/relationship\/5-cose-che-esitano-in-un-travestimento-da-manipolatore-emotivo\/\">sotto mentite spoglie<\/a>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u00c8 cos\u00ec spiacevole quanto questi uomini siano disposti a spingersi oltre e come riescano a farla franca. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>E per cosa? Per aumentare il loro ego gi\u00e0 troppo gonfio e sentirsi in controllo. Per usare voi e tutte le vittime che seguiranno come loro sacco da boxe.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em>In a narcissist\u2019s mind, love is but a means to an end. It is a perfect opportunity to manipulate, lie, deceive and demean. It is a game of sex and power. And they always win, don\u2019t they?<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Quando un narcisista vi dice che vi ama, \u00e8 solo manipolatore e attento. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Le sue parole sono vuote come la sua incapacit\u00e0 di sentirle davvero. Per lui, significa meno di niente. Ed \u00e8 per questo che fa cos\u00ec male.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Knowing that you fell for the fake words of a controlling, sociopathic narcissist can be extremely discouraging. So here are 5 ways to know if you\u2019re experiencing real love or if it\u2019s all just a narcissistic illusion.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>1. Se fosse vero amore, lui sarebbe felice di vederti felice.<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/07\/affection-black-and-white-couple-2407492-1.jpg\" alt=\"5 modi per sapere se \u00e8 amore vero o solo un&#039;illusione narcisistica\" class=\"wp-image-40044\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/07\/affection-black-and-white-couple-2407492-1.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/07\/affection-black-and-white-couple-2407492-1-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/07\/affection-black-and-white-couple-2407492-1-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>Semplicemente. Le persone che tengono veramente a te saltano di gioia quando ti succedono cose belle. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>They just can\u2019t help it. But when it\u2019s an illusion, they will try to appear happy and proud, but you\u2019ll be able to tell that it\u2019s fake.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>They will put on a wide, fake smile, but their eyes won\u2019t be able to hide their emptiness. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I loro occhi vi diranno tutto ci\u00f2 che dovete sapere. L\u00ec vedrete il vuoto, il vuoto e la manipolazione.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>He will try to fool you, but if you look really closely, you\u2019ll be able to tell the difference. And at that moment, you\u2019ll know for sure what you\u2019ve been denying all this time. It\u2019s not love\u2026 just a carefully planted illusion.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>2. Se si trattasse di vero amore, la sua priorit\u00e0 sarebbe quella di trattarvi con gentilezza.<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"800\" height=\"533\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/07\/adults-affection-attractive-2612964.jpg\" alt=\"5 modi per sapere se \u00e8 amore vero o solo un&#039;illusione narcisistica\" class=\"wp-image-40045\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/07\/adults-affection-attractive-2612964.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/07\/adults-affection-attractive-2612964-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/07\/adults-affection-attractive-2612964-768x512.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>Quando si ama qualcuno, lo si tratta bene. Gli si augura il meglio e si fa di tutto per preservare il suo benessere e la sua felicit\u00e0.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>But when it\u2019s nothing but an illusion, things are way different. He will pretend he is doing something for your own good, but it will <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/relationship\/non-osare-ferire-una-ragazza-che-non-ti-farebbe-mai-del-male\/\">ferirti<\/a> e ti fanno sentire sbagliato. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Even though he will assure you that he means well, it won\u2019t feel that way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Le sue parole saranno una cosa, ma le sue azioni saranno qualcosa di completamente diverso. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Far\u00e0 costantemente cose che danneggiano il vostro benessere e le mascherer\u00e0 con le sue parole come una cosa necessaria per farvi crescere ed evolvere. Le sue parole saranno gentili, ma le sue azioni saranno meschine e avvilenti.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>3. Se si trattasse di vero amore, tratterebbe la vostra relazione come una partnership<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"800\" height=\"533\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/07\/beautiful-couple-denim-jacket-2612972.jpg\" alt=\"5 modi per sapere se \u00e8 amore vero o solo un&#039;illusione narcisistica\" class=\"wp-image-40046\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/07\/beautiful-couple-denim-jacket-2612972.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/07\/beautiful-couple-denim-jacket-2612972-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/07\/beautiful-couple-denim-jacket-2612972-768x512.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>Se il suo amore fosse sincero, vi considererebbe alla pari. Non vi farebbe mai sentire in debito con lui. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Non dovrete mai sentirvi meno di una persona, perch\u00e9 la partnership prosperer\u00e0 grazie al vostro amore e al vostro impegno reciproco.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>But when you\u2019re living in a narcissistic illusion, he\u2019s the one in control. He\u2019s the one making the decisions, and he\u2019s the one with the upper hand. It\u2019s never you, and deep down, you know you\u2019re being played.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Cercher\u00e0 di far credere che la vostra opinione sia importante, e potrebbe persino chiederla. Ma quando si arriva al dunque, le sue azioni e le sue parole sono l'unica cosa che conta. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Potete dire quello che volete, ma vi entra in un orecchio e vi esce dall'altro. Non \u00e8 altro che un'illusione e una finzione.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>4. Se fosse vero amore, non ti chiederebbe mai cose che ti fanno sentire a disagio.<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"800\" height=\"533\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/07\/adults-affection-attractive-2612967.jpg\" alt=\"5 modi per sapere se \u00e8 amore vero o solo un&#039;illusione narcisistica\" class=\"wp-image-40047\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/07\/adults-affection-attractive-2612967.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/07\/adults-affection-attractive-2612967-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/07\/adults-affection-attractive-2612967-768x512.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>Se vi amasse davvero, rispetterebbe voi e i vostri desideri. Non vi chiederebbe mai di fare qualcosa che vi faccia sentire a disagio. Vi rispetterebbe troppo per mettervi in queste posizioni orribili.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>But when it\u2019s an illusion, he will do whatever the hell he wants and make you believe that\u2019s what you want as well. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>He will be so charming and convincing that you\u2019ll actually believe him.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Ma in fondo, nel vostro intimo, sapete cosa vi fa stare bene e cosa vi fa rivoltare lo stomaco. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>If your guy causes the latter, you\u2019re living in an illusion that is slowly making you sick.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>5. Se fosse vero amore, non ti farebbe mai scegliere tra lui e la tua famiglia e i tuoi amici.<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"800\" height=\"572\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/07\/adorable-beautiful-child-1835927.jpg\" alt=\"5 modi per sapere se \u00e8 amore vero o solo un&#039;illusione narcisistica\" class=\"wp-image-40048\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/07\/adorable-beautiful-child-1835927.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/07\/adorable-beautiful-child-1835927-300x215.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/07\/adorable-beautiful-child-1835927-768x549.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>Se <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/relationship\/13-modi-per-far-durare-di-piu-il-vostro-uomo-a-letto\/\">il tuo uomo<\/a> se vi amasse davvero, saprebbe che i vostri cari sono un'estensione di voi. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Li amerebbe e li accetterebbe come parte di ci\u00f2 che siete. E sarebbe un piacere per lui farlo.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Ma vivere in un'illusione narcisistica significa perdere lentamente il contatto con le persone pi\u00f9 vicine. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The guy is slowly alienating you from your support system and making you believe you don\u2019t need them in the first place.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>In his mind, he is the only one you\u2019ll ever need. And he won\u2019t be happy until he has distanced you from every single person you cherish. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>That is his ultimate goal, and he won\u2019t stop until it\u2019s done. So MAKE him stop by realizing what he\u2019s doing, and choosing your family over a narcissistic egomaniac.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>That will be the best decision you will ever make, and it\u2019s not even close. Choose yourself, love yourself, and ALWAYS be your amazing self. Everybody else is already taken.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"683\" height=\"1024\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/07\/PINTEREST-2019-07-09T090556.940-683x1024.jpg\" alt=\"5 modi per sapere se \u00e8 amore vero o solo un&#039;illusione narcisistica\" class=\"wp-image-40051\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/07\/PINTEREST-2019-07-09T090556.940-683x1024.jpg 683w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/07\/PINTEREST-2019-07-09T090556.940-200x300.jpg 200w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/07\/PINTEREST-2019-07-09T090556.940.jpg 735w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 683px) 100vw, 683px\" \/><\/figure>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Love is a two-way street. Both partners need to give as much as they expect to receive if they are adamant to make it work. And if it is real love, that shouldn\u2019t be a problem. Not one bit. But when it comes to narcissists, things are a bit different. What you and I consider&#8230;<\/p>","protected":false},"author":53,"featured_media":40050,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29614],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-40043","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-love-talks"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29614,"label":"love talks"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/07\/shutterstock_501607234.jpg",800,534,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Ariel Quinn","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/author\/ariel\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29614,"name":"love talks","slug":"love-talks","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29614,"taxonomy":"category","description":"What is love? 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