{"id":4028,"date":"2025-01-10T13:30:00","date_gmt":"2025-01-10T12:30:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/herway.net\/?p=4028"},"modified":"2025-01-10T00:07:07","modified_gmt":"2025-01-09T23:07:07","slug":"le-cose-accadono-incontro-ragazzo-gentile-relazione-narcisistica","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/le-cose-accadono-incontro-ragazzo-gentile-relazione-narcisistica\/","title":{"rendered":"8 cose che succedono quando si incontra un bravo ragazzo dopo una relazione narcisistica"},"content":{"rendered":"

Liberarsi da una relazione narcisistica \u00e8 difficile.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ci si abitua a sopportarlo amando se stesso e nessun altro.<\/a> Ci si abitua a essere sempre la seconda scelta e a non ricevere l'attenzione che si merita.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You get used to that kind of behavior and, sadly, you don\u2019t do anything about it. Not until things go too far and beyond repair. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Nei momenti in cui vi concede briciole di attenzione, vi rendete conto che la vostra relazione avrebbe dovuto essere sempre cos\u00ec e, purtroppo, non \u00e8 cos\u00ec. L'unica cosa che avete in comune \u00e8 che amate la stessa persona.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That’s why being in a healthy relationship can feel completely strange to you. Here are some of the things that can happen to you when you meet a good guy after a narcissistic relationship:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

1. Sa che in voi c'\u00e8 molto di pi\u00f9 di quanto non appaia.<\/h2>\n\n\n
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Canva<\/em><\/figcaption><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n

\u00c8 una sensazione completamente nuova e strana. Lui ha fiducia in te. La tua ultima relazione ti ha fatto dubitare di te stessa e di tutte le scelte che hai fatto.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But now you\u2019ve met a person who knows you can do anything that you set your mind to.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This new feeling you\u2019re experiencing makes you feel awkward because you are not used to being treated the way you deserve.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

2. Vuole che vi fidiate di lui<\/h2>\n\n\n
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\"Vuole
Canva<\/em><\/figcaption><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n

He knows that you\u2019ve been in a relationship where your voice hasn\u2019t been heard. He knows that you are living with a fear of history repeating itself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That\u2019s why he is patient with you. That\u2019s why he gives you time to surrender to him and trust in him. It\u2019s no surprise that you lost the ability to trust people\u2014your ex made you believe that. This new guy knows that and he is working his way up to prove himself trustworthy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And what\u2019s more important, he\u2019s letting you learn to trust yourself again.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

3. Vi tratta come meritate<\/h2>\n\n\n
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\"Ti
Canva<\/em><\/figcaption><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n

\u00c8 sempre gentile con voi. Fa le cose pi\u00f9 semplici che non avete mai sperimentato prima.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You\u2019ve been intrappolati in una relazione egoistica<\/a> and you didn\u2019t even think about what it would be like if your guy did something for you for a change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But now that you have it, you don\u2019t know how to react.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

4. He pays attention to what you\u2019ve got to say<\/h2>\n\n\n
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\"Presta
Canva<\/em><\/figcaption><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n

In your last relationship, it was all about him. The only word you\u2019d been hearing all that time was \u2018I\u2019; I did that, I was there\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ma non questa volta. Avete il diritto di parlare quando volete e avete sicuramente il diritto di dire quello che volete senza paura di sentirvi dire che siete stupidi o di essere giudicati.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Your new boyfriend will listen to you. Your words will have meaning to him. He will be interested in what you\u2019ve got to say.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

He wants to hear all about you and your past. He wants to know what you like and don\u2019t like. He wants you to share your life with him.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

5. Si scusa<\/h2>\n\n\n
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\"Si
Canva<\/em><\/figcaption><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n

Siete abituati a chiedere scusa in continuazione<\/a> for pretty much anything just to avoid arguments\u2014although sometimes these things got out of control and you almost fought to the death until someone walked away. And when you or he cooled off, life continued.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That emotional roller coaster becomes normal\u2014you enter an endless routine from which you can\u2019t get out. But it\u2019s different with this guy. Of course, you will fight because everyone fights.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But the one thing that is going to leave you speechless is that he\u2019s going to say those three little words: \u201cI was wrong.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

6. Vi dar\u00e0 il mondo<\/h2>\n\n\n
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Canva<\/em><\/figcaption><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n

You were always going the extra mile to suit the narcissist\u2014but you got nothing in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ma ora c'\u00e8 qualcuno che vi sorprender\u00e0 con dei fiori senza motivo, che vi porter\u00e0 ad un appuntamento e vi tratter\u00e0 come una regina.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And all that with no hidden motives. He doesn\u2019t need anything from you. He just loves you. It\u2019s as simple as that.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

7. Non \u00e8 manipolatore<\/h2>\n\n\n
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\"Non
Canva<\/em><\/figcaption><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n

Narcissists are men who like to be in control. But no one can control every part of their life and that\u2019s when these guys lose it and take it out on others.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That leaves you walking on eggshells around him, being careful not to say something \u2018wrong\u2019.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you enter a normal, healthy relationship, you learn that such behavior is non-existent. You learn that relationships are all about compromise and that there are two voices to be heard\u2014not one.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

8. Vi insegna cos'\u00e8 veramente l'amore<\/h2>\n\n\n
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\"Vi
Canva<\/em><\/figcaption><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n

Vi rendete conto che amore vero<\/a> is mutual respect. You realize that real love is genuinely caring for someone. Then you realize that your last relationship wasn\u2019t about love. It was all a charade\u2014it was a trap. He made you think you loved him.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You realize what real love is when you wake up next to someone who treats you better\u2014someone who treats you the way you deserve.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ci si chiede come si possa aver tollerato qualcosa di meno del trattamento attuale.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

But you don\u2019t feel ashamed and you don\u2019t pity yourself. You are proud of yourself because it takes a strong woman to break free from a narcissistic relationship.<\/p>\n\n\n

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Breaking free from a narcissistic relationship is hard. You become used to putting up with him loving himself and no one else. You get used to always being the second choice and not getting nearly enough attention as you deserve. You get used to that kind of behavior and, sadly, you don\u2019t do anything about…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":21,"featured_media":176077,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29633],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-4028","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-narcissism"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29633,"label":"narcissism"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/01\/8-Things-That-Happen-When-You-Meet-A-Nice-Guy-After-A-Narcissistic-Relationship-1-1024x576.jpg",1024,576,true],"author_info":{"display_name":"Maria Parker","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/author\/maria\/"},"comment_info":7,"category_info":[{"term_id":29633,"name":"narcissism","slug":"narcissism","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29633,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Mind games and manipulations are narcissist's favorite controlling tactics. Learn how their mind operates so that you can protect yourself. ","parent":22911,"count":232,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29633,"category_count":232,"category_description":"Mind games and manipulations are narcissist's favorite controlling tactics. Learn how their mind operates so that you can protect yourself. ","cat_name":"narcissism","category_nicename":"narcissism","category_parent":22911}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4028","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/21"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=4028"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4028\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":188215,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4028\/revisions\/188215"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/176077"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=4028"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=4028"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=4028"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}