{"id":4090,"date":"2017-09-05T11:58:11","date_gmt":"2017-09-05T11:58:11","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/herway.net\/?p=4090"},"modified":"2022-01-17T23:51:34","modified_gmt":"2022-01-17T23:51:34","slug":"effettivamente-guadagnato-perdendo","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/effettivamente-guadagnato-perdendo\/","title":{"rendered":"Ecco cosa hai guadagnato perdendolo"},"content":{"rendered":"

Mentre stavate con lui, pensavate che il mondo intero fosse a portata di mano. Pensavate che quello che avevate con lui fosse un vero affare, perch\u00e9 aveva fatto tutto il possibile per farvi innamorare di lui. <\/span><\/p>\r\n

Unfortunately, after his \u201cMr. Darcy\u201d period, instead of rising to new heights together, your whole world fell apart. <\/span><\/p>\r\n

The truth is, you never really had him in the first place. You had an illusion of him and that\u2019s it. You fell for a side of him that wasn\u2019t truly his.<\/p>\r\n

You fell for the guy he chose to show you, but he wasn\u2019t that guy. He was totally the opposite of a good guy. He was toxic and you had no idea.<\/b><\/p>\r\n

Il problema con essere parte di una relazione tossica<\/a> is that you don’t even realize  that you\u2019re in one.<\/span><\/p>\r\n

Ricordate la storia della rana e dell'acqua bollente? <\/span><\/p>\r\n

Ebbene, la rana non aveva idea che l'acqua stesse diventando sempre pi\u00f9 calda, finch\u00e9 non fu troppo tardi. <\/span><\/p>\r\n

The same thing might\u2019ve happened to you\u2014you might have stayed in a toxic relationship till there was nothing left of you anymore. <\/span><\/h2>\r\n

Fortunatamente, sei saltato fuori dall'acqua bollente appena in tempo per salvarti.<\/span><\/p>\r\n

All'inizio, dopo averlo perso, vi \u00e8 sembrato di aver perso tutto ci\u00f2 che vi era familiare. <\/span>Sembrava che il pavimento sotto i piedi fosse scomparso e che fosse solo questione di tempo prima di cadere nel buco. Ma la realt\u00e0 era ben diversa.<\/span><\/p>\r\n

Yes, by losing him, you lost a few things as well. Luckily, none of those things was a good thing. It’s nothing you should cry for.<\/strong><\/p>\r\n

La vostra ansia vi ha abbandonato insieme a lui.<\/span><\/h2>\r\n

Entrambi ci hanno messo troppo tempo a fare le valigie e ad andarsene, ma \u00e8 stato un gran sollievo quando quegli ospiti hanno lasciato la vostra casa. <\/span><\/p>\r\n

Tremavi per ogni minima cosa che facevi perch\u00e9 anticipavi la sua reazione. <\/span><\/p>\r\n

Ogni cosa che facevate era seguita dalla paura che lui non approvasse, che non capisse e che vi mettesse nei guai. <\/span><\/p>\r\n

For a long time, you were the girl that didn\u2019t care for anyone’s opinion, but he made you feel insecure and scared, and for each and every thing you did or thought of doing, you felt like you needed his approval. <\/span><\/p>\r\n

You needed him to go along with your ideas otherwise you\u2019d live in hell with him withdrawing his attention and love from you. When you let him go, you let your anxiety go as well.<\/span><\/p>\r\n

Dopo averlo perso, avete perso la sensazione di avere qualcuno e di non essere amati. <\/span><\/h2>\r\n

After he\u2019d emotionally punish you for anything and everything, you\u2019d just sit there, next to the man you love, and you\u2019d feel like the loneliest person in the world. <\/span><\/p>\r\n

If you\u2019d just have stretched your arm, you could\u2019ve touched him, but what was the use of it? After the episodes he\u2019d put you through, he seemed more like your headsman than the man that loves and cares for you. <\/span><\/p>\r\n

Dopo averlo perso, vi siete liberati dalla tortura di averlo seduto accanto a voi pur essendo distanti un miglio. <\/span><\/p>\r\n

If it was really a loss, I\u2019d say it was a good loss.<\/em><\/h2>\r\n

You might think now that you\u2019re missing a lot since he\u2019s gone, but all the things that you\u2019re left without now are the things that were actually not good for you. <\/span><\/p>\r\n

Even if those things might have felt good, they were used for one sole purpose\u2014for a toxic man to make you stay with him. <\/span><\/p>\r\n

If you\u2019d free yourself from the idea that you need him, you\u2019d see that you\u2019re doing really fine. If you\u2019d just open your eyes, you\u2019d see that you gained a lot more than you lost.<\/em><\/p>\r\n

Hai guadagnato la tua libert\u00e0 perdendo lui.<\/span><\/h2>\r\n

There isn\u2019t a thing in this world holding you back now. There isn\u2019t a thing or a person that might stop you. Y<\/span><\/p>\r\n

ou are not going to hear a big fat \u2018NO\u2019 from anybody because nobody has that power over you, anymore. You finally took your freedom back in your hands\u2014the only place where it really belongs.<\/span><\/p>\r\n

Hai guadagnato il tuo<\/span> lo<\/span>vena<\/span> di perderlo.<\/span><\/h2>\r\n

You might think he\u2019s your love, but he isn\u2019t and he wasn\u2019t. You need to let go of that idea and only then you\u2019ll see where true love lies.<\/span><\/p>\r\n

Trovi l'amore al mattino, quando ti svegli e non hai pi\u00f9 paura. Trovi l'amore nel leggere quel libro o nel sorridere a un estraneo a caso. <\/span><\/p>\r\n

You find love in your family and your friends that you get to see now since he\u2019s no longer there to give you a hard time for making space in your heart for anybody else but him.<\/span><\/p>\r\n

Hai trovato la felicit\u00e0 dopo averlo perso.<\/span><\/h2>\r\n

You might not see it yet, but you are happier now. The wrinkles that you have around your eyes are not from frowning or crying, but from those happy moments you\u2019re living now. <\/span><\/p>\r\n

You are a different person\u2014you resemble the girl that you were before he made you change.<\/span><\/p>\r\n

Hai riacquistato fiducia in te stessa dopo averlo perso.<\/span><\/h2>\r\n

You might think that you were confident because you had him sitting with you at the table or because you never had to walk into a room full of people alone, but that\u2019s not what confidence is about. <\/span><\/p>\r\n

You might have been confident when he was around, but the moment he left you alone, you’d start panicking and screaming inside. <\/span><\/p>\r\n

You’d feel like there is a part of you missing and that you can’t do anything on your own. Luckily, that changed as well. <\/span><\/p>\r\n

Ora potete entrare in una stanza piena di gente e sentirvi sicuri di voi stessi. Ora potete vedervi allo specchio e sentirvi belle. <\/span><\/p>\r\n

Non c'\u00e8 nessun altro che possa dirvi il contrario. Ora potete sostenere quel colloquio di lavoro e vedere se otterrete il posto, perch\u00e9 non c'\u00e8 nessuno che vi impedisca di farlo facendovi sentire incompetenti. <\/span><\/p>\r\n

Now, you get to become whoever you want because there is nobody to tell you you can’t.<\/span><\/p>\r\n

Hai riacquistato la tua vita dopo averlo perso<\/a>.<\/span><\/h2>\r\n

Anche se ha lasciato una cicatrice nel vostro cuore e forse avete pianto quando avete chiuso l'ultima pagina del vostro libro con lui. <\/span><\/p>\r\n

Ora c'\u00e8 spazio per le novit\u00e0. Potrete ancora scrivere un altro libro e questa volta assicuratevi che abbia un lieto fine. <\/span><\/p>\r\n\r\n

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