{"id":41159,"date":"2019-07-29T07:53:49","date_gmt":"2019-07-29T07:53:49","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=41159"},"modified":"2021-08-11T13:18:48","modified_gmt":"2021-08-11T13:18:48","slug":"smettila-di-dirmi-che-devo-trovare-un-ragazzo","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/smettila-di-dirmi-che-devo-trovare-un-ragazzo\/","title":{"rendered":"Smettetela di dirmi che devo trovare un fidanzato"},"content":{"rendered":"

Ieri sera stavo messaggiando con la mia amica che si \u00e8 sposata l'anno scorso. \u00c8 una mia compagna di universit\u00e0 e all'epoca ci siamo divertite da matti, ma in qualche modo \u00e8 cambiata. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

I remember we used to make fun of those women who got married and completely forgot who they were, all of a sudden turning into these Stepford wives. It seems now that she\u2019s become one of them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Mi stavo lamentando di qualcosa, sottolineando quanto fosse ingiusto e quanto mi facesse arrabbiare. Mi ha mandato un messaggio: that’s all rubbish, the best thing for you is to find yourself a boyfriend!<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Really? That is your answer, to find myself a boyfriend? All of a sudden you know better because you\u2019re married, and all of my work and accomplishments are rubbish because I don\u2019t have a man?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

People, relatives, friends in a relationship \u2013 stop telling me I need to find a boyfriend! <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Maybe I don\u2019t want anyone. Maybe I am so involved in my career, charity work, and paying off a student loan that I don\u2019t have time or energy for anyone. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Perch\u00e9 presume che io sia infelice se sono sola? <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why do you think that all my activities and the extra effort I put in at work is because I don\u2019t know what else to do with my life due to the fact that I am single and therefore \u201chave no purpose\u201d? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

According to my friend who used to be a cool person and would also get pissed at some unjust issues like me, I am faking and distracting myself from the real issue that\u2019s bugging me, and that is my single status. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Chi ti d\u00e0 il diritto di invalidare tutti i miei risultati e le mie convinzioni sulla base delle tue opinioni ristrette?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\"Smettetela<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

And don\u2019t get me started on family meetings and family in general. I spent my entire high school listening to them nagging how I need to get into a good college. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Poi ho trascorso tutta l'universit\u00e0 concentrandomi sul fatto di laurearmi in tempo, di non rimanere incinta e di non abbandonare l'universit\u00e0 per poter trovare un lavoro decente. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Dopo essermi finalmente rimessa in piedi, hanno iniziato a tormentarmi dicendo che sono single e che tutto quello che ho fatto ora \u00e8 irrilevante. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Quando finalmente accetterete le mie scelte e mi lascerete vivere? Perch\u00e9 ragazzi, io sto bene con la mia vita. Sono felice, ho fatto tutto da sola e sono finalmente libera e indipendente.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

I spend my money on travelling, handbags. I am also involved in volunteering I can cook whatever I want and I don\u2019t need to prepare dinner for anyone. I can go out at midnight and get myself a McDonalds burger if that\u2019s what I want. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

I really, truly am satisfied. And if I am okay with your lives and happy for your marriage and kids or relationships, why can\u2019t you be happy for me? <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Se fossi infelice e avessi dichiarato chiaramente di desiderare una relazione, mi sarei trovata qualcuno, chiunque. Quindi, per favore, rispettate me, le mie decisioni e le mie convinzioni e smettete di pensare e dire che devo trovare un ragazzo. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

E alla mia amica, se sta leggendo questo articolo, se avessi un fidanzato e le stesse convinzioni che ho ora, le rispetteresti? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

According to you, would I then be a complete person, or would you still think they are rubbish? Because if you can validate my opinion only if I have a man, we really can\u2019t be friends anymore. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

\"Smettetela<\/figure>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

So, last night I was texting my friend who got married last year. She\u2019s my college friend and we had a crazy time back then, but somehow, she changed.  I remember we used to make fun of those women who got married and completely forgot who they were, all of a sudden turning into these…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":22,"featured_media":41165,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29645],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-41159","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-being-single"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29645,"label":"being single"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/07\/shutterstock_1233157888.jpg",800,502,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Tina Navarro","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/author\/tatiana\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29645,"name":"being single","slug":"being-single","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29645,"taxonomy":"category","description":"How to rock being single? Or how to (and why you should) stop worrying about what others will think of your love status? Here's exactly how.","parent":29643,"count":114,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29645,"category_count":114,"category_description":"How to rock being single? Or how to (and why you should) stop worrying about what others will think of your love status? Here's exactly how.","cat_name":"being single","category_nicename":"being-single","category_parent":29643}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/41159","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/22"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=41159"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/41159\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/41165"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=41159"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=41159"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=41159"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}