{"id":41559,"date":"2019-08-06T08:34:01","date_gmt":"2019-08-06T08:34:01","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=41559"},"modified":"2021-08-11T13:10:20","modified_gmt":"2021-08-11T13:10:20","slug":"cosa-ho-imparato-dalla-mia-amica-che-e-stata-maltrattata-dal-suo-partner","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/cosa-ho-imparato-dalla-mia-amica-che-e-stata-maltrattata-dal-suo-partner\/","title":{"rendered":"Quello che ho imparato dalla mia amica che ha subito abusi dal suo partner"},"content":{"rendered":"

I have a friend whom I\u2019ve known practically my entire life. We knew each other from school and we lived close to each other, so we always hung out together. It wasn\u2019t until college that we became great friends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u00c8 super intelligente, sarcastica, spiritosa e bellissima. Ha sempre avuto una lingua tagliente ed era la ragazza pi\u00f9 divertente ad ogni incontro. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Inoltre, aveva una relazione stabile a lungo termine. La sua vita era tutto ci\u00f2 che avevo sempre desiderato per me.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

I remember one day we were having a latt\u00e9 in our favourite cafe and she said that her boyfriend is near, driving around in his car and that she is just going to give him kiss hello. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

I remember thinking and saying to her,\u201cOmg, that\u2019s super cute.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

As time passed, we started becoming really close friends. I told her that she has the greatest life ever: \u201cYou are beautiful, finishing up college, everyone likes you, and you are in this great relationship full of understanding and trust.\u201d She kind of smirked when I said that.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

On another occasion, we went for a jog and her boyfriend, whom I still hadn\u2019t met, called her and asked where we were going. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

I made a joke and took her phone and said, \u201cWe\u2019re going out with these handsome guys from university.\u201d I noticed how uncomfortable she was.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

I don\u2019t recall what happened in between; she graduated and I still had two more semesters, so I went back to university and she called me,saying they\u2019d broken up. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Mi ha detto tutto in una specie di codice, come se avesse paura di parlare al telefono.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Quando sono tornato a casa mi ha confessato tutto. Tutta la sua relazione era una menzogna. Era una persona estremamente gelosa e aggressiva. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Remember the time he stopped by to \u201ckiss\u201d her, well he was just controlling her. And that time I made a joke about the guys from uni, well, he didn\u2019t believe her and slapped her because of it.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\"Quello<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Mi ha raccontato di tonnellate di situazioni in cui lui era geloso e paranoico e la picchiava a sangue solo perch\u00e9 lo riteneva giusto. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Le chiesi come facesse ad apparire cos\u00ec bella e felice davanti ai nostri amici e lei rispose che quando era tra noi, viveva la vita che voleva.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

La sua relazione \u00e8 durata a lungo. Ha detto che aveva paura di rompere con lui perch\u00e9 minacciava di uccidere se stesso o la sua famiglia e lei.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Le ha fatto il lavaggio del cervello e lei aveva paura di dirlo a qualcuno. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

At one point she was afraid to ask him to go to the movies and see the new James Bond film just because he might think that she is \u201cin love with the actor,\u201d then freak out and hurt her physically.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Eventually, he broke up with her although she played by his rules. He was obviously mental and he couldn\u2019t cope with himself anymore. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

She was finally saved although she wanted to even get back together with him \u2013 classical Stockholm syndrome. Luckily, he moved away and she realized that freedom is the most important thing in life for her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She thought she\u2019d never find anyone again. Her self esteem was shot and she\u2019d completely lost faith in men, but she fell in love again with the greatest guy ever to whom I introduced her. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Finalmente \u00e8 felice e vive la vita che ha sempre desiderato.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

A volte mi sorprendo a lamentarmi di qualche ragazzo a caso che mi ha ferito e ha abbassato la mia autostima, poi penso a lei e smetto di lamentarmi. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u00c8 una persona cos\u00ec buona e forte ed \u00e8 riuscita a superare tutto questo solo perch\u00e9 credeva nell'amore e nel fatto che ci sono persone buone l\u00e0 fuori.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\"Quello<\/figure>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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