{"id":42193,"date":"2019-08-19T10:21:24","date_gmt":"2019-08-19T10:21:24","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=42193"},"modified":"2021-08-11T13:01:02","modified_gmt":"2021-08-11T13:01:02","slug":"una-lettera-al-terzo-incomodo-in-ogni-appuntamento-la-mia-ansia-da-appuntamento","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/una-lettera-al-terzo-incomodo-in-ogni-appuntamento-la-mia-ansia-da-appuntamento\/","title":{"rendered":"Lettera al terzo incomodo di ogni appuntamento: La mia ansia da appuntamento"},"content":{"rendered":"

Hey, old friend. You might be surprised that I’m writing you like this, since you and I are rarely apart and you\u2019ve been a piece of me for ages.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, I’m not sure about the first time I met you. I can’t tell how, when, and why you entered my life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So solo che nella mia memoria non esiste un solo appuntamento in cui tu non sia il terzo incomodo. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

I can’t remember any of my romantic relationships of which you weren’t a part, including those in my teenage years.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Let’s face it, you’ve made my life hell harder. But with time, I got used to you and even accepted you to a certain extent.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Nevertheless, it doesn’t mean I like you. It doesn’t mean that I’m comfortable with all of these fears and overthinking you’re causing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Dopo tutto, chi sarebbe felice di avere sempre una vocina in testa? Una vocina che dice loro che le cose si svolgeranno nel peggiore dei modi e che nulla andr\u00e0 bene per loro.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Innanzitutto, inizia quando incontro un nuovo ragazzo.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Fa <\/em>Gli piaccio davvero<\/em><\/a>? O forse mi sta solo prendendo in giro?<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Perhaps he had a bet with his friends about whether he’ll be able to score my number? Maybe he\u2019s trying to get to my friend through me?<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Perch\u00e9 a chi potrei piacere? Chi sarebbe sinceramente interessato a me?<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

E soprattutto, perch\u00e9? Cosa vede questo ragazzo in me?<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Dopo avermi permesso di avanzare in qualche modo da questa fase iniziale, la lotta continua.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\"Lettera<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Come devo rispondere al suo messaggio? Come rispondo alla sua telefonata senza che mi tremi la voce?<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

How can I hide the fact that I\u2019m terrified of something so ordinary and everyday like going out on a date?<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Naturalmente, il <\/strong>primo appuntamento<\/strong><\/a> \u00e8 un vero incubo.<\/strong> I\u2019m not just talking about some random stuff that goes through almost every girl\u2019s mind when she\u2019s about to go out with a guy for the first time, like what she should wear or whether she\u2019ll like him.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

No, I\u2019m talking about real panic attacks that stop me from functioning properly. I\u2019m talking about the fact that I feel like someone is forcing me to go out with this guy I\u2019m really attracted to.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Mi dar\u00e0 buca? Passeremo l'intera serata in un silenzio imbarazzante?<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sar\u00e0 deluso dal mio aspetto? Noter\u00e0 che ho difficolt\u00e0 a respirare e che mi sudano continuamente i palmi delle mani?<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once I manage to enter a relationship (which rarely happens), that\u2019s when my real battles start and when I notice that everything up to that point was just a piece of cake.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

What if he grows tired of me? What if he\u2019s still thinking about his ex?<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

What if I\u2019m not good enough in bed? What if he\u2019s just playing with me?<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Mi ama o sta solo fingendo? Sono troppo bisognosa?<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why did he kiss me differently this morning? Why isn\u2019t he holding my hand right now?<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sta diventando pi\u00f9 freddo? O mi sto immaginando le cose?<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Does he want to end things but can\u2019t find a way to do so? Is he staying with me out of pity?<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sono disperato perch\u00e9 do troppo di me stesso? Dovrei mostrare meno emozioni?<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Did he say \u201cI love you\u201d because it was time or did he really feel it? Would he care if he lost me?<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sounds pretty exhausting, right? Well, this is just the tip of the iceberg and something I\u2019ve been living with ever since I can remember.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, this isn\u2019t only a hate letter for everything you\u2019re putting me through. Believe it or not, I also want to thank you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Thank you for all those times you chased away the men who couldn\u2019t handle me <\/strong>al mio peggio<\/strong><\/a>, showing me that they didn\u2019t deserve my best either.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

For all those times you saved me from those superficial fuckboys who didn\u2019t even try looking past my trauma. For every time my overthinking and not wanting to rush things helped me avoid guys who only wanted to get me in bed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Thank you for being my shield and my defense mechanism from all the men who don\u2019t deserve to meet the real me.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Grazie per avermi dato questo forte intuito che mi permette di percepire le cattive intenzioni a un miglio di distanza. Per non avermi permesso di saltare da una relazione all'altra e per avermi fatto aspettare che arrivasse l'uomo giusto.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

A guy who will see that I\u2019m much more than my anxiety. A guy who will be patient enough to uncover the layers of my personality. The guy who will love me for who I am.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\"Lettera<\/figure>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Hey, old friend. You might be surprised that I’m writing you like this, since you and I are rarely apart and you\u2019ve been a piece of me for ages. However, I’m not sure about the first time I met you. I can’t tell how, when, and why you entered my life. All I know is…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":21,"featured_media":42197,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29634],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-42193","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-anxiety"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29634,"label":"anxiety"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/shutterstock_1127629844.jpg",800,534,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Maria Parker","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/author\/maria\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29634,"name":"anxiety","slug":"anxiety","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29634,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Learning how to control your anxiety or help and understand your partner struggling with anxious thoughts will improve the quality of your life.","parent":22911,"count":30,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29634,"category_count":30,"category_description":"Learning how to control your anxiety or help and understand your partner struggling with anxious thoughts will improve the quality of your life.","cat_name":"anxiety","category_nicename":"anxiety","category_parent":22911}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/42193","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/21"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=42193"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/42193\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/42197"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=42193"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=42193"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=42193"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}