{"id":43467,"date":"2020-08-25T20:02:55","date_gmt":"2020-08-25T20:02:55","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=43467"},"modified":"2022-02-27T10:26:56","modified_gmt":"2022-02-27T10:26:56","slug":"quando-smetterai-di-inseguire-i-ragazzi-sbagliati-quello-giusto-ti-trovera","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/quando-smetterai-di-inseguire-i-ragazzi-sbagliati-quello-giusto-ti-trovera\/","title":{"rendered":"Quando smetterai di inseguire i ragazzi sbagliati, quello giusto ti trover\u00e0"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Ero nella mia stanza ad aspettare la sua chiamata quando ho imparato la lezione pi\u00f9 preziosa della mia vita.<\/p>\n<p>Stavo impazzendo, aspettavo disperatamente per ore che mi chiamasse, ma ancora niente.<\/p>\n<p>La mia mente era occupata da diversi pensieri come: <i>E se gli fosse successo qualcosa? E se <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/ragazza-ha-segnato-il-territorio-es\/\">he\u2019s with another girl<\/a> (forse la sua ex)? <\/i><\/p>\n<p><i>What if he doesn\u2019t even like me anymore because this is not the first time I\u2019m waiting for him to move his ass and send me some proof of his existence?<\/i><\/p>\n<p>\u201cWhat if\u201d \u2013 two words with such a large amount of uncertainty and expectation, that it can kill even the toughest ones.<\/p>\n<p>My family and friends didn\u2019t even recognize me anymore. From a <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/life\/a-tutte-le-donne-forti-la-fuori-che-va-bene-non-essere-a-posto\/\">donna felice e forte<\/a>Sono diventata una creatura frustrata e infelice.<\/p>\n<p>Ho iniziato a odiarmi ancora di pi\u00f9.<\/p>\n<p>Chiedo a Dio di mandarmi le risposte a queste famose domande: <i>Perch\u00e9 proprio io? Perch\u00e9 devo sempre essere io a finire per essere infelice con l'uomo sbagliato?<\/i><\/p>\n<p>E poi ho vissuto un momento di vera epifania.  Mi sono resa conto che per tutto questo tempo avevo finito per essere disperata perch\u00e9 stavo inseguendo i ragazzi sbagliati.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-110476\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/woman-sitting-in-bus-alone.jpg\" alt=\"donna seduta in autobus da sola\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/woman-sitting-in-bus-alone.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/woman-sitting-in-bus-alone-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/woman-sitting-in-bus-alone-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/woman-sitting-in-bus-alone-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/woman-sitting-in-bus-alone-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/woman-sitting-in-bus-alone-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/woman-sitting-in-bus-alone-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/woman-sitting-in-bus-alone-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>I was CHASING them, even though I knew they didn\u2019t deserve it.<\/p>\n<p>Ero alla ricerca cieca di essere ferita e data per scontata perch\u00e9 ero pi\u00f9 preoccupata del loro benessere e della loro felicit\u00e0 che della mia.<\/p>\n<p>I\u2019ve neglected myself because all this time, I was busy chasing something that would never be mine.<\/p>\n<p>Qualcuno che non mi render\u00e0 mai felice.<\/p>\n<p>Mentre ero impegnato a fare tutto questo, ignoravo l'unica verit\u00e0 che dovrebbe essere scritta sui muri in ogni angolo del mondo:<\/p>\n<p><b>Quando <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/smettere-di-inseguirlo-e-vedere-cosa-succede-6-possibili-esiti\/\">smettete di inseguire le persone sbagliate<\/a>, quello giusto vi trover\u00e0! <\/b>S\u00ec.<\/p>\n<p>Quando <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/relationship\/stop-wasting-time-man-doesnt-deserve\/\">smettete di sprecare il vostro tempo aspettando che inizino a trattarvi nel modo in cui meritate<\/a>, you will open the doors to the right one to whom you\u2019ll be number one priority.<\/p>\n<p>Questa \u00e8 l'unica bella verit\u00e0 che dovrebbe essere sempre conservata in uno scomparto speciale del nostro cervello.<\/p>\n<p>Chasing someone who doesn\u2019t give a damn about you will only result in you getting more and more hurt.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-110485\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/woman-sitting-by-the-sea-alone.jpg\" alt=\"donna con lunghi capelli biondi seduta in riva al mare da sola\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/woman-sitting-by-the-sea-alone.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/woman-sitting-by-the-sea-alone-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/woman-sitting-by-the-sea-alone-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/woman-sitting-by-the-sea-alone-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/woman-sitting-by-the-sea-alone-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/woman-sitting-by-the-sea-alone-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/woman-sitting-by-the-sea-alone-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/woman-sitting-by-the-sea-alone-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>It\u2019s the only logical conclusion of which I\u2019ve been ignorant for years.<\/p>\n<p>Why in the world would we ever think that if stay determined in chasing someone, that they\u2019d somehow suddenly change their mind and finally notice us, our efforts, our tears?<\/p>\n<p><b>Perch\u00e9 mai dovremmo scegliere di vivere in questa illusione quando nel profondo della nostra anima sappiamo che nulla cambier\u00e0 mai?<\/b><\/p>\n<p>Because of fear. We fear that we\u2019ll never find someone better and we think that this is how things are supposed to be.<\/p>\n<p>We think that we deserve to be treated poorly because no one has convinced us to believe otherwise. We believe that we\u2019re not <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/love\/a-woman-hard-to-love-is-worthy-of-love\/\">degno di amore<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>We blindly chase those who are wrong for us because we\u2019re convinced that we\u2019ll never find someone who will treat us the way we deserve.<\/p>\n<p>Ma la verit\u00e0 \u00e8 che quando smettiamo di farlo, quello giusto ci trover\u00e0!<\/p>\n<p><b>Quando smetterete di perdere tempo aspettando che vi chiamino, quello giusto busser\u00e0 alla vostra porta!<\/b><\/p>\n<p>When we\u2019re only focused on chasing things that are bad for us, we\u2019re multiplying our chances to receive more shit in our lives.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-110481\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/sad-blond-woman-sitting-alone.jpg\" alt=\"donna bionda triste seduta da sola\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/sad-blond-woman-sitting-alone.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/sad-blond-woman-sitting-alone-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/sad-blond-woman-sitting-alone-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/sad-blond-woman-sitting-alone-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/sad-blond-woman-sitting-alone-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/sad-blond-woman-sitting-alone-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/sad-blond-woman-sitting-alone-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/sad-blond-woman-sitting-alone-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Every time we wait for their call, we\u2019re deliberately hurting ourselves by wasting our time on someone who doesn\u2019t appreciate ours.<\/p>\n<p>Ma quando finalmente smettiamo di farlo, ci liberiamo di tutta la tossicit\u00e0 e l'energia negativa.<\/p>\n<p>We start seeing things differently. We start noticing those who were in the shadows the entire time \u2013 the right ones.<\/p>\n<p>E l'unica cosa che dovete fare per accoglierli nella vostra vita \u00e8 smettere di inseguire quelli sbagliati.<\/p>\n<p>The only thing you need to do is to stop paying attention to those who wrong you, stop anticipating their calls, stop waiting for them to notice you, stop hanging on in the hopes that they\u2019ll change!<\/p>\n<p><b>Because the more you chase them, the more you\u2019re going to hurt yourself! The more you chase them, the longer you\u2019ll stay away from true happiness!<\/b><\/p>\n<p>The more you chase the wrong ones, the more power you\u2019re giving them.<\/p>\n<p>Pi\u00f9 li inseguite, pi\u00f9 loro si <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/relationship\/4-motivi-brutalmente-onesti-per-cui-vi-sta-dando-per-scontati\/\">darvi per scontati<\/a>. E perch\u00e9 dovresti sopportarlo?<\/p>\n<p>Perch\u00e9 lasciare che qualcuno interferisca con la vostra felicit\u00e0 e si prenda gioco di voi?<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-110479\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/woman-sitting-on-the-bench-in-park.jpg\" alt=\"donna seduta su una panchina nel parco\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/woman-sitting-on-the-bench-in-park.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/woman-sitting-on-the-bench-in-park-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/woman-sitting-on-the-bench-in-park-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/woman-sitting-on-the-bench-in-park-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/woman-sitting-on-the-bench-in-park-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/woman-sitting-on-the-bench-in-park-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/woman-sitting-on-the-bench-in-park-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/woman-sitting-on-the-bench-in-park-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Why would you let someone keep you living in fear and the hope that they\u2019ll eventually change?<\/p>\n<p><i>Meriti di essere trattata come una signora!<\/i><\/p>\n<p><i>Meritate di sorridere fino a farvi male la faccia, invece di asciugarvi continuamente le lacrime!<\/i><\/p>\n<p><i>Meritate di prendervi cura di voi, non di sentirvi trascurati!<\/i><\/p>\n<p><i>You deserve to be someone\u2019s dream instead of just an option! <\/i><i>Meritate di sperimentare la vera felicit\u00e0!<\/i><\/p>\n<p><b>Quindi, smettetela di sprecare il vostro tempo inseguendo le persone sbagliate, in modo che <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/trovare-quella-giusta-in-ritardo-e-meglio-che-trovare-quella-sbagliata-adesso\/\">quello giusto<\/a> pu\u00f2 trovarvi!<\/b><\/p>\n<p>Quando deciderete di essere padroni della vostra felicit\u00e0, accoglierete tante possibilit\u00e0 nella vostra vita.<\/p>\n<p>When you decide to stop chasing those who do you wrong, you\u2019ll make space for the right ones to find you.<\/p>\n<p>When you stop accepting bad things, you\u2019ll start receiving the great ones. When you <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/ha-smesso-di-scegliere-i-ragazzi-sbagliati\/\">smettete di inseguire le persone sbagliate<\/a>, you\u2019ll meet <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/relationship\/7-cose-che-proverete-quando-incontrerete-quella-giusta\/\">quello giusto<\/a>!<\/p>\n<p>Vedi anche: <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/life\/its-time-to-stop-trying-to-be-perfect-for-the-wrong-man\/\">It\u2019s Time To Stop Trying To Be Perfect For The Wrong Man<\/a><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-110469\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/When-You-Stop-Chasing-The-Wrong-Guys-The-Right-One-Will-Find-You-pinterest.jpg\" alt=\"Quando smetterai di inseguire i ragazzi sbagliati, quello giusto ti trover\u00e0\" width=\"683\" height=\"1024\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/When-You-Stop-Chasing-The-Wrong-Guys-The-Right-One-Will-Find-You-pinterest.jpg 683w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/When-You-Stop-Chasing-The-Wrong-Guys-The-Right-One-Will-Find-You-pinterest-200x300.jpg 200w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/When-You-Stop-Chasing-The-Wrong-Guys-The-Right-One-Will-Find-You-pinterest-150x225.jpg 150w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 683px) 100vw, 683px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>I was in my room waiting for his call when I learned the most valuable lesson in my life. I was freaking out, desperately waiting for hours for him to call me and still nothing. My mind was occupied with different thoughts like: What if something happened to him? What if he\u2019s with another girl&#8230;<\/p>","protected":false},"author":41,"featured_media":110475,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29653],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-43467","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-letters"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29653,"label":"letters"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/When-You-Stop-Chasing-The-Wrong-Guys-The-Right-One-Will-Find-You-1024x684.jpg",1024,684,true],"author_info":{"display_name":"Martha Sullivan","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/author\/martha-sullivan\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29653,"name":"letters","slug":"letters","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29653,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Regardless if you're looking for moving on, romantic, emotional, or open letters on various topics, you can be sure that you'll find it all here. 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