{"id":43715,"date":"2020-09-30T12:22:20","date_gmt":"2020-09-30T12:22:20","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=43715"},"modified":"2021-08-11T12:42:30","modified_gmt":"2021-08-11T12:42:30","slug":"7-pensieri-che-vi-passano-per-la-testa-quando-avete-una-relazione-ptsd","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/7-pensieri-che-vi-passano-per-la-testa-quando-avete-una-relazione-ptsd\/","title":{"rendered":"7 pensieri che attraversano la vostra mente quando avete una relazione PTSD"},"content":{"rendered":"

Le relazioni traumatiche possono essere basate su traumi psicologici, verbali, fisici o sessuali, oppure possono essere una combinazione di tutti questi elementi.<\/p>\n

If you\u2019re coming out of such a relationship, you\u2019re probably experiencing post-traumatic relationship syndrome, where you feel like no one understands you and you feel vulnerable, hurt and unable to trust anyone.<\/p>\n

Il corpo e la mente soffrono e si perde la speranza in giorni migliori e nella guarigione.<\/p>\n

You feel afraid of making another commitment because you\u2019re convinced that someone will hurt you again.<\/p>\n

Or you feel utterly helpless and you don\u2019t see the point in trying to do anything about it or seeking help from others.<\/p>\n

While it\u2019s totally understandable that victims of a traumatic relationship feel that way, certain attitudes can prolong your pain and make you even more vulnerable.<\/p>\n

I seguenti 7 atteggiamenti possono farvi rimanere bloccati in un relazione traumatica <\/a> e per questo \u00e8 di fondamentale importanza iniziare a lavorarci in tempo!<\/p>\n

\u201cI don\u2019t see the point in trying\u2026\u201d<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

This one reflects the syndrome called \u2018learned helplessness\u2019.<\/p>\n

When you don\u2019t see the point in trying and dealing with the current situation, it means you\u2019re being overly pessimistic, you don\u2019t believe that things will change and you give up because you have no motivation to keep pushing forward in life.<\/p>\n

This attitude can become ingrained (especially if you\u2019ve experienced a few traumas in a row) but it\u2019s really important that you fight it with all of your strength.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s important to find a silver lining and understand the need to push forward in life instead of giving up immediately.<\/p>\n

\u201cNo one ever made it, so why should I try?\u201d<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

When we\u2019re trying to find an excuse for not doing something, we reflexively refer to other people who haven\u2019t succeeded in overcoming something and not those who did.<\/p>\n

Proprio come i bambini a scuola.<\/p>\n

When they get a bad grade, they instantly point to others who got a bad grade too, just to prove that it should be so and the majority didn\u2019t succeed in getting a good grade.<\/p>\n

Whenever this sentence \u2018No one ever made it, so why should I try?\u2019 comes to your mind, just convert it into a statement: \u201cIf I never try, I\u2019ll never make it!\u201d<\/p>\n

E voi stessi sapete che ci sono persone che ce l'hanno fatta e ce l'hanno fatta grazie alla loro determinazione, al loro ottimismo e alla convinzione che i loro sforzi daranno frutti.<\/p>\n

\u201cWhy me?\u201d<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

This is one of the most frequent questions when we\u2019re dealing with post-traumatic experiences.<\/p>\n

We ask ourselves, \u201cWhy me?\u201d when things don\u2019t go as we would like them to.<\/p>\n

Ma la verit\u00e0 \u00e8 che nella vita nulla va come vorremmo e prima lo accettiamo, meglio \u00e8.<\/p>\n

Invece di maledire il vostro destino, capite che c'\u00e8 un'altra persona (o migliaia) nel mondo che si pone la stessa domanda.<\/p>\n

We can\u2019t influence what will happen to us but we can influence its consequences.<\/p>\n

Ricordate che l'accettazione della nostra realt\u00e0 \u00e8 la prima passo verso la guarigione! <\/a><\/p>\n

\u201cI will just forget that anything happened and make the best of it!\u201d<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Un altro atteggiamento pericoloso \u00e8 quello di trascurare gli eventi passati e decidere di continuare a vivere come se non fosse successo nulla.<\/p>\n

Denial can cause ten times more serious consequences and that is why we should never try to suppress our emotions or something we\u2019ve gone through.<\/p>\n

Come gi\u00e0 detto, il primo passo verso la guarigione \u00e8 accettare ci\u00f2 che \u00e8 successo e comprenderlo, invece di dimenticare tutto e andare avanti come se nulla fosse.<\/p>\n

\u00c8 la cosa peggiore che possiate fare per voi stessi e soffermarvi troppo a lungo su questo atteggiamento vi si ritorcer\u00e0 contro con enormi conseguenze.<\/p>\n

Vedi anche: Se reprimete le vostre emozioni, dovreste leggere questo articolo <\/a><\/p>\n

\u201cNothing hurts me. I\u2019m strong. I don\u2019t cry.\u201d<\/h2>\n

\"bruna<\/p>\n

Sometimes we\u2019re afraid to be vulnerable and we think that if we don\u2019t show any sign of being hurt, we will win the battle.<\/p>\n

Ma questo non \u00e8 affatto vero. Questo tipo di atteggiamento non fa altro che prolungare il dolore e le conseguenze del trauma, invece di farvi sentire meglio.<\/p>\n

Ricordate che forzarsi a provare certe emozioni non \u00e8 la stessa cosa che sentirle veramente dentro di s\u00e9.<\/p>\n

Pretending that you\u2019re tough and strong will only result in wasting your time and avoiding the inevitable, which is dealing with your emotions instead of neglecting them.<\/p>\n

\u201cI will never open myself up to anyone again.\u201d<\/h2>\n

\"giovane<\/p>\n

It\u2019s normal to feel scared of opening yourself up to someone new after a traumatic relationship but constantly repeating to yourself that you will never open yourself up to anyone again is not really healthy and it will bring you more harm than good.<\/p>\n

You need to understand that if something happened to you once, twice or three times, it doesn\u2019t mean that it will happen the fourth time as well.<\/p>\n

Non tutte le relazioni sono destinate a essere etichettate come traumatiche e non tutte le persone sono potenziali abusatori emotivi.<\/p>\n

Per guarire da una relazione traumatica, uno dei passi da compiere \u00e8 anche l'apertura a nuove relazioni, perch\u00e9 se si ha paura di qualcosa, significa che le ferite hanno ancora bisogno di tempo per guarire.<\/p>\n

But this doesn\u2019t mean that you should force yourself to enter a new relationship only to prove to others that you\u2019re over your past one.<\/p>\n

Come ogni cosa, anche questa dovrebbe venirvi naturale.<\/p>\n

\u201cMaybe if I hadn\u2019t done (sth.), this wouldn\u2019t have happened to me.\u201d<\/h2>\n

\"giovane<\/p>\n

Anche il senso di colpa \u00e8 uno degli atteggiamenti pi\u00f9 velenosi dopo una relazione traumatica.<\/p>\n

You start thinking about too many possible outcomes and your actions and by doing that, you refuse to cope with the current situation you\u2019re in.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s important to understand that you can\u2019t go back and you cannot change things and you need to understand that it\u2019s not your fault that you\u2019re going through this.<\/p>\n

Everything happens for a reason and this doesn\u2019t mean that you deserved it.<\/p>\n

Bad things happen to us to make us stronger, not weaker, and it\u2019s up to you to either choose to keep running in circles or choose to be a winner!<\/p>\n

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Traumatic relationships can be based on psychological, verbal, physical or sexual trauma or they can be a combination of all of the above-mentioned. If you\u2019re coming out of such a relationship, you\u2019re probably experiencing post-traumatic relationship syndrome, where you feel like no one understands you and you feel vulnerable, hurt and unable to trust anyone….<\/p>","protected":false},"author":21,"featured_media":114995,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29632],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-43715","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-abuse-and-trauma"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29632,"label":"abuse & trauma"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/7-Thoughts-That-Cross-Your-Mind-When-You-Have-A-Relationship-PTSD-1024x684.jpg",1024,684,true],"author_info":{"display_name":"Maria Parker","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/author\/maria\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29632,"name":"abuse & trauma","slug":"abuse-and-trauma","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29632,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Learn the signs of emotional and physical abuse and how to protect yourself from toxic patterns in relationships with your partner, friends or family.","parent":22911,"count":138,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29632,"category_count":138,"category_description":"Learn the signs of emotional and physical abuse and how to protect yourself from toxic patterns in relationships with your partner, friends or family.","cat_name":"abuse & trauma","category_nicename":"abuse-and-trauma","category_parent":22911}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/43715","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/21"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=43715"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/43715\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/114995"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=43715"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=43715"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=43715"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}