{"id":44571,"date":"2019-10-08T13:16:25","date_gmt":"2019-10-08T13:16:25","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=44571"},"modified":"2022-03-07T16:19:33","modified_gmt":"2022-03-07T16:19:33","slug":"6-cose-che-avrei-voluto-sapere-sullabuso-prima-di-viverlo","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/6-cose-che-avrei-voluto-sapere-sullabuso-prima-di-viverlo\/","title":{"rendered":"6 cose che avrei voluto sapere sull'abuso prima di sperimentarlo"},"content":{"rendered":"

Trust me when I tell you that you have no clue about abuse (whether it\u2019s physical, verbal, emotional, or sexual) and abusive relationships until you\u2019ve dealt with one.<\/p>\n

That is why you should take advice from an expert: from a woman who\u2019s been attraverso questo inferno<\/a> e che fortunatamente ne \u00e8 uscito vivo.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m not saying that my experience can save every woman in this world from getting abused.<\/p>\n

Tuttavia, posso dirvi alcune cose che vorrei mi fossero state dette prima di diventare una vittima.<\/p>\n

1. Tutto inizia come un sogno<\/h2>\n

\"Coppia<\/p>\n

Una delle idee sbagliate pi\u00f9 comuni sull'abuso \u00e8 che inizia subito.<\/p>\n

People think that abusers begin with their violent behavior as soon as they enter your life, so naturally, everyone wonders how the victim didn\u2019t notice the alarming red flags in time.<\/p>\n

Ebbene, quello che nessuno vi dice \u00e8 che le relazioni abusive iniziano quasi sempre come il pi\u00f9 bel sogno e nulla lascia presagire quello che accadr\u00e0 in futuro. <\/p>\n

You see, abusers have a way of pretending to be someone they\u2019re not until they drag you into their net.<\/p>\n

Spesso sono affascinanti, educati, seducenti e troppo belli per essere veri.<\/p>\n

2. Ma finisce come il vostro peggior incubo<\/h2>\n

An abuser will not start with his toxic behavior until he\u2019s certain that you\u2019ve fallen for him.<\/p>\n

He needs to be sure that he\u2019s managed to get under your skin and deep inside your heart before he shows you his true colors.<\/p>\n

Sadly, when this happens, it\u2019s usually too late for the victim to lasciare la sua relazione abusiva<\/a>.<\/p>\n

You\u2019re already manipulated to the point where you wouldn\u2019t walk away from this man, no matter what he does to you.<\/p>\n

This is when the real nightmare starts \u2013 when the bitter reality hits you.<\/p>\n

Tuttavia, ci si aggrappa ancora ai ricordi felici, sperando che questa non sia altro che una brutta fase e che le cose tornino presto come prima, cosa che ovviamente non accade mai.<\/p>\n

3. Pu\u00f2 accadere a chiunque<\/h2>\n

\"Uomo<\/p>\n

When you hear about abuse, you always think that it\u2019s happening somewhere far away from you, to someone else.<\/p>\n

Subconsciously, you think that you could never fall into this trap because you\u2019re wiser and smarter than that.<\/p>\n

Let me tell you that this can\u2019t be further from the truth.<\/p>\n

In realt\u00e0, gli abusi sono molto pi\u00f9 comuni di quanto si possa pensare e non hanno nulla a che fare con l'aspetto, lo status sociale, l'istruzione o la storia sentimentale.<\/p>\n

4. Non \u00e8 mai colpa tua<\/h2>\n

What many victims seem to forget is that they should never blame themselves for the hell they\u2019re going through.<\/p>\n

Tuttavia, questo \u00e8 ancora il pensiero numero uno che ognuno di noi ha quando subisce un abuso.<\/p>\n

You can\u2019t help but wonder if you did something to deserve this kind of treatment. <\/p>\n

Avreste dovuto saperlo meglio? Avreste dovuto scegliere pi\u00f9 saggiamente?<\/p>\n

Se queste sono alcune delle cose che vi passano per la testa, ricordate che la vittima non \u00e8 mai quella che deve sentirsi in colpa.<\/p>\n

Siete stati manipolati e abusati da quest'uomo orribile e lui \u00e8 l'unico a portare tutta la responsabilit\u00e0.<\/p>\n

5. Potete amare chi vi maltratta<\/h2>\n

\"Moglie<\/p>\n

Uno dei pi\u00f9 grandi tab\u00f9 legati all'abuso sono i sentimenti che le vittime provano nei confronti dei loro abusatori.<\/p>\n

Anche se la psicologia ha dimostrato che il fatto di voler bene al proprio maltrattatore, nonostante tutto quello che ci sta facendo, \u00e8 abbastanza comune e normale, molte vittime si vergognano di queste emozioni e quindi si rifiutano di ammetterle.<\/p>\n

When you\u2019re in this type of situation, you are perfectly aware that there is nothing to be loved about this guy.<\/p>\n

In fact, your mind is telling you that you\u2019re crazy for feeling this way \u2013 that something is definitely wrong with you.<\/p>\n

Tuttavia, la verit\u00e0 \u00e8 che \u00e8 possibile amare il proprio abusatore<\/a>, even after you get the courage to walk away from him, and that you need a lot of time before accepting it as something you shouldn\u2019t be ashamed of.<\/p>\n

Dopo tutto, quest'uomo vi ha fatto il lavaggio del cervello, facendovi credere di essere quello giusto per voi e l'unico uomo che potreste mai amare.<\/p>\n

Inoltre, ironia della sorte, con il tempo i suoi abusi sono diventati la tua zona di comfort da cui avevi troppa paura di uscire.<\/p>\n

Vedi anche: Un truffatore pu\u00f2 innamorarsi della sua vittima? La verit\u00e0 svelata<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n

6. But he can\u2019t love you<\/h2>\n

Despite what he might keep telling you, a man who abuses you in any way doesn\u2019t love you nor does he have the ability to love you.<\/p>\n

Forget about how he treats you after his violent episodes are done, forget about his sweet words and presents, don\u2019t pay attention to his false excuses.<\/p>\n

A uomo che ti ama<\/a> non penser\u00e0 mai di insultarvi, colpirvi o farvi del male.<\/p>\n

Even though this seems obvious to women who have never been through something like this, it can\u2019t be stressed enough to victims of abuse because it\u2019s actually one of the most common reasons they stay in these relationships.<\/p>\n

Molti si illudono che i loro abusatori li amino nel loro strano modo e usano le loro inesistenti emozioni come scusa per non allontanarsi da loro.<\/p>\n

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