{"id":44658,"date":"2019-10-09T13:44:09","date_gmt":"2019-10-09T13:44:09","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=44658"},"modified":"2021-08-11T11:15:20","modified_gmt":"2021-08-11T11:15:20","slug":"5-modi-a-prova-di-bomba-per-smettere-di-uscire-con-i-faccendieri","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/5-modi-a-prova-di-bomba-per-smettere-di-uscire-con-i-faccendieri\/","title":{"rendered":"5 modi a prova di bomba per smettere di uscire con gli \"aggiustatori\"."},"content":{"rendered":"

Da sempre, nelle vostre relazioni sentimentali, vi siete comportate come una super donna. <\/span><\/p>\n

Per quanto cerchi di opporti, continui a imbatterti in uomini che hanno bisogno di essere salvati o sistemati in un modo o nell'altro.<\/span><\/p>\n

Well, these men are called \u201cfixed-uppers\u201d and these are the steps you should follow if you finally want to stop getting yourself involved with them.<\/span><\/p>\n

1. Mettere se stessi al primo posto<\/h2>\n

\"Ritratto<\/p>\n

Se volete salvarvi dai ragazzi che hanno bisogno di essere salvati, la prima cosa da fare \u00e8 mettere voi stessi al primo posto e concentrarvi sul vostro benessere. <\/span><\/p>\n

Dovete capire che nessun'altra persona, e soprattutto nessun uomo, pu\u00f2 essere pi\u00f9 prezioso di voi stessi.<\/span><\/p>\n

Quando si ha a che fare con i \"fixer-upper\", essi sottraggono tutte le energie. <\/span><\/p>\n

Trovarsi in questa situazione ti svuota completamente sia fisicamente che emotivamente.<\/span><\/p>\n

Having to take care of another human being (who is an adult and not your child) and having the entire responsibility for his life rest on your shoulders while you receive nothing in return can\u2019t be good for your mental health. <\/span><\/p>\n

Raising someone who is already a formed person is everything but easy \u2013 in most cases, impossible.<\/span><\/p>\n

Allora, perch\u00e9 continuate a farvi questo?<\/span><\/p>\n

Perch\u00e9 date la priorit\u00e0 all'aiutare gli altri anche se questo significa distruggere voi stessi? <\/span><\/p>\n

Why don\u2019t you focus on becoming the best possible version of yourself instead of trying to push some guy forward?<\/span><\/p>\n

Why don\u2019t you redirect all of this energy you\u2019re wasting on him and invest it in yourself? <\/span><\/p>\n

Why don\u2019t you start <\/span>amare se stessi<\/span><\/a> con la stessa intensit\u00e0 con cui amate il vostro appartamento da ristrutturare?<\/span><\/p>\n

2. Scegliere uomini maturi<\/h2>\n

\"Una<\/p>\n

The only type of guy who needs fixing is an immature mama\u2019s boy who\u2019s got used to someone holding his hand and leading him through life. <\/span><\/p>\n

This guy clearly didn\u2019t grow up on time and he\u2019s accustomed to someone else resolving his problems and living his life on his behalf.<\/span><\/p>\n

Fondamentalmente, uno dei problemi maggiori risiede nel tipo di uomini che scegliete come partner romantico. <\/span><\/p>\n

If you find a man who knows what he wants and is capable of taking care of himself, he won\u2019t need your guidance and assistance.<\/span><\/p>\n

Yes,the two of you will help each other when needed, but you won\u2019t have to mother him. <\/span><\/p>\n

You two will be completely equal and he\u2019ll benefit you in the same way you\u2019ll benefit him.<\/span><\/p>\n

Ed \u00e8 proprio questo il senso della vera partnership.<\/span><\/p>\n

3. Smettere di innamorarsi del potenziale<\/h2>\n

\"Donna<\/p>\n

One of the most common problems for all girls involved with fixer-uppers is that they don\u2019t actually fall in love with the man standing in front of them. <\/span><\/p>\n

Instead, they fall for his possibilities \u2013 for the person he might become. <\/span><\/p>\n

Invece di innamorarsi di un uomo vero, fatto di carne e ossa, si sono innamorate di un uomo vero, fatto di carne e ossa. <\/span>caduta per il potenziale<\/span><\/a>.<\/span><\/p>\n

This is exactly what you\u2019re doing too, and it\u2019s the type of behavior that has to come to an end if you want to get rid of men who need fixing.<\/span><\/p>\n

Devi smettere di immaginare come sarebbe questo ragazzo se tu potessi modificarlo e se lui potesse eliminare alcuni dei suoi difetti.<\/span><\/p>\n

Invece di amare la versione migliorata di lui e di pensare a quello che potrebbe essere, affrontate la realt\u00e0 e vedetelo per quello che \u00e8 veramente.<\/span><\/p>\n

4. Remember that you can\u2019t change anyone<\/h2>\n

\"Donna<\/p>\n

L'errore numero uno che commette la maggior parte delle donne che hanno una relazione \u00e8 quello di convincersi di poter cambiare l'uomo a cui tengono. <\/span><\/p>\n

Credono che il loro amore sia cos\u00ec forte da ispirare un uomo a diventare una versione migliore e aggiornata di se stesso.<\/span><\/p>\n

Ebbene, lasciate che vi dica che questa non \u00e8 altro che un'idea sbagliata. <\/span><\/p>\n

S\u00ec, le persone si adattano l'una all'altra per amore fino a un certo punto, ma non cambiano mai essenzialmente a causa di qualcun altro.<\/span><\/p>\n

Ricordate che <\/span>you can\u2019t save a man who doesn\u2019t want to be saved<\/span><\/a> and you can\u2019t heal someone who refuses to be cured, as much as you try. <\/span><\/p>\n

Yes, you can give this man your hand, but if he doesn\u2019t accept it, all of your efforts are in vain.<\/span><\/p>\n

5. Scegliere la pace piuttosto che le sfide<\/h2>\n

\"Una<\/p>\n

Whether you\u2019d like to admit it or not, men who need fixing represent a challenge. <\/span><\/p>\n

At first, they bring excitement and thrill to your life and before you know it, you\u2019re hooked.<\/span><\/p>\n

Will you be the only girl to make him change his ways \u2013 the girl who\u2019ll save him from himself? <\/span><\/p>\n

Sarete voi a sconfiggere con la vostra luce le sue tenebre?<\/span><\/p>\n

Will you succeed where every other woman\u2019s failed? <\/span><\/p>\n

Anche se tutto questo pu\u00f2 sembrare impegnativo, credetemi, di solito porta pi\u00f9 mal di testa che felicit\u00e0.<\/span><\/p>\n

Quindi, invece di lasciarvi trascinare sempre nello stesso caso, per una volta scegliete la pace al posto di tutto il resto. <\/span><\/p>\n

Choose a consistent man with whom you\u2019ll always know where you stand \u2013 a man whose behavior won\u2019t threaten your mental health.<\/span><\/p>\n

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For as long as you can remember, you\u2019ve always behaved like a super woman in your romantic relationships. As much as you try to fight it, you keep running into men who need saving or fixing in one way or another. Well, these men are called \u201cfixed-uppers\u201d and these are the steps you should follow…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":25,"featured_media":44666,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29622],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-44658","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-relationship-advice"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29622,"label":"relationship advice"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/shutterstock_488521804.jpg",800,534,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Amy Nicholson","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/author\/amy\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29622,"name":"relationship advice","slug":"relationship-advice","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29622,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Making all aspects of your relationship work is one of the biggest challenges. Here, you can find advice for most of the issues you might encounter. ","parent":29620,"count":544,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29622,"category_count":544,"category_description":"Making all aspects of your relationship work is one of the biggest challenges. Here, you can find advice for most of the issues you might encounter. ","cat_name":"relationship advice","category_nicename":"relationship-advice","category_parent":29620}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/44658","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/25"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=44658"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/44658\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/44666"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=44658"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=44658"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=44658"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}