{"id":44669,"date":"2019-10-09T14:01:33","date_gmt":"2019-10-09T14:01:33","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=44669"},"modified":"2021-08-11T11:14:28","modified_gmt":"2021-08-11T11:14:28","slug":"i-narcisisti-non-cambiano-colore-cambiano-solo-le-loro-vittime","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/i-narcisisti-non-cambiano-colore-cambiano-solo-le-loro-vittime\/","title":{"rendered":"I narcisisti non cambiano colore: cambiano solo le loro vittime"},"content":{"rendered":"

Quando <\/span>amare un narcisista<\/span><\/a>, you never see him for who he really is, even though deep down you\u2019re perfectly aware of his flaws and toxic personality.<\/span><\/p>\n

Your feelings prevent you from truly accepting that this guy is an evil sociopath who can never give you back the love he\u2019s been getting from you, that he is manipulating you and everyone around him and that he won\u2019t hesitate to hurt you.<\/span><\/p>\n

Instead, you perceive him as a troubled young boy who needs you to help him, as someone who has the potential of becoming better and as a vulnerable human being who isn\u2019t that bad under the surface.<\/span><\/p>\n

So, you don\u2019t walk away from him, despite knowing you should and despite everything he\u2019s doing. <\/span><\/p>\n

You don\u2019t do it because you think you\u2019re the only one who can give him a helping hand and the only one who has the capacity to see underneath the layers of his toxicity.<\/span><\/p>\n

You don\u2019t run for your life even when you see that he\u2019s started destroying you and even when you get scared that he\u2019ll drag you to the bottom together with him. <\/span><\/p>\n

You don\u2019t turn your back on this man because for you, that would mean betraying him, abandoning him and leaving him hanging.<\/span><\/p>\n

\"bella<\/p>\n

However, you have to do something, right? You can\u2019t just sit there and watch his narcissism damage both of you to the point of no repair.<\/span><\/p>\n

Cos\u00ec vi impegnate a fondo per cercare di curarlo. Dopo tutto, chi potrebbe essere pi\u00f9 adatto di voi per questo lavoro?<\/span><\/p>\n

Cercate di fargli dimenticare le sue vecchie abitudini e di costringerlo a diventare una persona migliore e pi\u00f9 sana. <\/b><\/p>\n

Voi credete in lui e volete solo aiutarlo a guarire.<\/b><\/p>\n

Well, let me tell you one thing you probably don\u2019t want to hear: <\/span>You will fail! It doesn\u2019t matter how much you love him or how much you think he loves you back\u2014you will not succeed.<\/b><\/p>\n

Lasciate che questo sia chiaro e cercate di accettarlo perch\u00e9 \u00e8 l'unica verit\u00e0. <\/span><\/p>\n

You don\u2019t have to believe me but I can assure you that sooner or later, you\u2019ll see everything for yourself and you\u2019ll remember my harsh words.<\/span><\/p>\n

You see, a narcissist will never become different\u2014at least not under someone else\u2019s influence.<\/b><\/p>\n

\"Sicuro<\/p>\n

This man needs professional help and you\u2019re not the one who can give it to him.<\/b><\/p>\n

S\u00ec, potrebbe collaborare in questo momento. Potrebbe comportarsi come se chiedesse la vostra guida, ma \u00e8 solo una cosa temporanea.<\/span><\/p>\n

Fidatevi di me quando vi dico che non ha alcuna intenzione di cambiare i suoi veri colori.<\/b><\/p>\n

In fact, he is thrilled because he sees how much effort you\u2019re putting in with him and that helps him feel important.<\/span><\/p>\n

Tuttavia, una volta che si sar\u00e0 stancato dei vostri tentativi di migliorarlo e che si sar\u00e0 reso conto che lo vedete bene, passer\u00e0 a qualcun altro. <\/span><\/p>\n

He will move on to another girl he can fool and play with\u2013to a girl who doesn\u2019t know him like you do and to a girl who will believe his lies and deceptions.<\/span><\/p>\n

Perch\u00e9 <\/span>narcissists never change their personality\u2014they just change their victims. <\/b><\/p>\n

Inoltre, <\/span>you\u2019re not the first girl he tried to crush, not the first girl who tried to help him and not the first girl who will fail in doing so.<\/b><\/p>\n

\"Giovane<\/p>\n

And I can assure you that you won\u2019t be the last one either.<\/b><\/p>\n

Per quanto faccia male, bisogna semplicemente accettare il fatto che questo <\/span>man doesn\u2019t give a damn about you<\/span><\/a>. <\/span><\/p>\n

It is not because of something you did or because you didn\u2019t try enough\u2014he doesn\u2019t care about anyone in this world except himself.<\/span><\/p>\n

He is not looking for a compatible life partner\u2014he is in the constant search for a <\/b>vittima adatta<\/b><\/a> e finch\u00e9 vi considerer\u00e0 tali, rester\u00e0 al vostro fianco. <\/span><\/p>\n

Tuttavia, <\/span>as soon as he notices that you can\u2019t satisfy his sick impulses and as soon as he notices that he has lost control over you, he will move on to someone else.<\/b><\/p>\n

I hate to break it to you but you\u2019re not special to this maniac and he won\u2019t appreciate your sacrifices and attempts to help him.<\/span><\/p>\n

Invece, ti scaricher\u00e0 come ha fatto con tante altre ragazze prima di te.<\/span><\/p>\n

\"I<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

When you love a narcissist, you never see him for who he really is, even though deep down you\u2019re perfectly aware of his flaws and toxic personality. Your feelings prevent you from truly accepting that this guy is an evil sociopath who can never give you back the love he\u2019s been getting from you, that…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":21,"featured_media":44673,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29633],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-44669","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-narcissism"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29633,"label":"narcissism"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/shutterstock_439431064.jpg",800,534,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Maria Parker","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/author\/maria\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29633,"name":"narcissism","slug":"narcissism","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29633,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Mind games and manipulations are narcissist's favorite controlling tactics. Learn how their mind operates so that you can protect yourself. ","parent":22911,"count":232,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29633,"category_count":232,"category_description":"Mind games and manipulations are narcissist's favorite controlling tactics. Learn how their mind operates so that you can protect yourself. ","cat_name":"narcissism","category_nicename":"narcissism","category_parent":22911}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/44669","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/21"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=44669"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/44669\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/44673"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=44669"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=44669"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=44669"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}