{"id":45576,"date":"2019-10-22T15:13:42","date_gmt":"2019-10-22T15:13:42","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=45576"},"modified":"2021-08-11T10:33:10","modified_gmt":"2021-08-11T10:33:10","slug":"un-promemoria-che-vi-ricorda-che-potete-perdonarlo-senza-riprendervelo","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/un-promemoria-che-vi-ricorda-che-potete-perdonarlo-senza-riprendervelo\/","title":{"rendered":"Un promemoria per ricordare che si pu\u00f2 perdonare senza riprendersi lui"},"content":{"rendered":"

Quando l'uomo a cui pensavi di poter affidare la tua vita e l'uomo con cui avevi progettato il tuo futuro ti tradisce in qualsiasi modo, una cosa del genere ti lascia devastato. <\/span><\/p>\n

It doesn\u2019t matter whether this guy cheated on you, if he abused you or if he abandoned you when you needed his support more than anything\u2014betrayal is betrayal and it is never something you can easily get over.<\/span><\/p>\n

A prescindere da ci\u00f2 che si pu\u00f2 dire, la dura verit\u00e0 \u00e8 che una cosa del genere lascia l'amaro in bocca. <\/span><\/p>\n

Vi lascia delusi dall'amore e dalle persone in generale e vi provoca profondi problemi di fiducia, traumi emotivi e <\/span>relazione PTSD<\/span><\/a>.<\/span><\/p>\n

Not only that\u2014it also changes the essence of your personality. <\/span><\/p>\n

Vi rende una persona negativa, risentita, che si aspetta sempre il peggio dalle persone.<\/span><\/p>\n

All'inizio, dopo tutto quello che ti ha fatto quell'idiota, tutto quello che vuoi \u00e8 vendicarti e fargli assaggiare la sua stessa medicina. <\/span><\/p>\n

Volete che soffra e che si senta esattamente come voi.<\/span><\/p>\n

Tuttavia, tutti quelli con cui parli ti consigliano di trovare la forza in te stessa per perdonarlo.<\/span><\/p>\n

\"Preoccupato<\/p>\n

La gente continua a dirvi che dovete lasciar andare tutto il dolore che vi ha causato e che l'unico modo per farlo \u00e8 lasciare andare l'amarezza, il rancore e i pensieri di vendetta.<\/span><\/p>\n

After a while, after the initial anger goes away, you realize that they\u2019re absolutely right, despite whatever you\u2019re feeling right now. <\/span><\/p>\n

Capite che il perdono \u00e8 davvero liberatorio ed \u00e8 qualcosa che dovete fare, per il vostro bene.<\/span><\/p>\n

You figure out that you don\u2019t want all these negative emotions to keep eating you alive and to haunt you for the rest of your life. <\/span><\/p>\n

Cos\u00ec, dopo aver riflettuto a lungo e aver lottato interiormente, decidete di perdonarlo per tutte le sue malefatte.<\/span><\/p>\n

However, this doesn\u2019t mean that you should justify this man\u2019s actions. <\/b><\/p>\n

It doesn\u2019t mean that you should put in any effort to understand him or to <\/b>trovare scuse<\/b><\/a> per il suo comportamento di merda.<\/b><\/p>\n

Most importantly\u2014it doesn\u2019t mean you should forget about everything he\u2019s done to you.<\/b><\/p>\n

Accettare che le cose siano andate esattamente nel modo in cui erano destinate ad accadere. <\/b><\/p>\n

Accept that he probably didn\u2019t know better and that you\u2019re lucky that you got rid of someone who obviously never appreciated you.<\/b><\/p>\n

\"Giovane<\/p>\n

Perdonate voi stessi per le vostre scelte sbagliate e perdonate lui per avervi spezzato il cuore, perch\u00e9 \u00e8 l'unico modo per guarire completamente, l'unico modo per scacciare i demoni del passato e l'unico modo per andare davvero avanti con la vostra vita, senza alcun bagaglio emotivo che vi appesantisca.<\/span><\/p>\n

However, always remember that forgiving someone doesn\u2019t mean it is OK to take them back.<\/span><\/p>\n

It doesn\u2019t mean that this person is worthy of having a place in your life and it certainly isn\u2019t equal to giving them your unlimited trust once again.<\/span><\/p>\n

Ricordate che essere una brava persona e una persona pi\u00f9 grande \u00e8 una cosa, ma essere sciocchi o ingenui \u00e8 qualcosa di completamente diverso. <\/b><\/p>\n

Having the capacity to accept the apologies you never got and forgiving the ones who didn\u2019t deserve it are not the same as giving them the green light to keep on hurting you.<\/b><\/p>\n

\"Convinzione<\/p>\n

When you forgive a man for treating you badly and for crushing you, it doesn\u2019t magically erase all the pain he caused you. <\/b><\/b><\/p>\n

Il vostro perdono<\/b><\/a> doesn\u2019t annul the fact that he is still an asshole who didn\u2019t care about how he\u2019d make you feel, it doesn\u2019t erase any of the sleepless nights you spent because of him and it certainly doesn\u2019t wipe away all of the tears you cried for him.<\/b><\/p>\n

I know that you two had some beautiful memories together as well and that he didn\u2019t always act like this toxic man he turned out to be.<\/span><\/p>\n

I know that once you forgive him, deep down, you\u2019ll start hoping that he won\u2019t repeat his mistakes.<\/span><\/p>\n

You\u2019ll hope your heart will soften up and that you\u2019ll start missing him. <\/span><\/p>\n

That you\u2019ll want to believe his lies and empty promises and that you\u2019ll probably want to give your relationship another chance.<\/span><\/p>\n

Tuttavia, voi due vi siete lasciati per un motivo che esiste ancora. <\/span><\/p>\n

So, trust me when I tell you that your forgiveness doesn\u2019t change the fact that he is not the guy for you.<\/span><\/p>\n

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When the man you thought you could trust with your life and the man you planned your future with betrays you in any way, something like that leaves you devastated. It doesn\u2019t matter whether this guy cheated on you, if he abused you or if he abandoned you when you needed his support more than…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":23,"featured_media":45580,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29631],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-45576","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-getting-over-him"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29631,"label":"getting over him"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/shutterstock_196923761.jpg",800,533,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Leah Lee","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/author\/leah\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29631,"name":"getting over him","slug":"getting-over-him","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29631,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Getting over someone you still care about is one of the biggest challenges, but nothing is impossible when you know you're not alone, so check out our brilliant advice.","parent":29627,"count":124,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29631,"category_count":124,"category_description":"Getting over someone you still care about is one of the biggest challenges, but nothing is impossible when you know you're not alone, so check out our brilliant advice.","cat_name":"getting over him","category_nicename":"getting-over-him","category_parent":29627}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/45576","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/23"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=45576"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/45576\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/45580"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=45576"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=45576"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=45576"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}