{"id":45704,"date":"2019-10-24T17:48:10","date_gmt":"2019-10-24T17:48:10","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=45704"},"modified":"2021-08-11T10:23:40","modified_gmt":"2021-08-11T10:23:40","slug":"6-consigli-per-imparare-a-essere-single-dopo-una-relazione-violenta","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/6-consigli-per-imparare-a-essere-single-dopo-una-relazione-violenta\/","title":{"rendered":"6 consigli per imparare a essere single dopo una relazione violenta"},"content":{"rendered":"

Anche se abbandonare una relazione violenta \u00e8 senza dubbio una delle cose pi\u00f9 coraggiose che si possano fare, la verit\u00e0 \u00e8 che, purtroppo, gli incubi non finiscono nel momento in cui si scarica il proprio maltrattatore. <\/span><\/p>\n

In effetti, quando ci\u00f2 accade, \u00e8 necessario un po' di tempo per imparare a continuare la propria vita. <\/span><\/p>\n

You need a survival guide on how to be single again and this is exactly what you\u2019re about to get!<\/span><\/p>\n

1. Remember that you\u2019re more than someone\u2019s ex fidanzata<\/a><\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Il primo passo per riprendere in mano la propria vita \u00e8 guardarsi allo specchio e vedere che si \u00e8 abbastanza forti da farcela da soli, a dispetto di ci\u00f2 che quest'uomo ha cercato di convincere. <\/span><\/p>\n

This might sound like a clich\u00e9, but before taking any concrete action, you really have to remind yourself that you\u2019re not put on this earth just to be part of a couple.<\/span><\/p>\n

You\u2019re much more than someone\u2019s (ex) girlfriend. You\u2019re an individual and a woman who is in charge of her own happiness.<\/span><\/p>\n

Il vostro ex si \u00e8 impegnato molto per farvi credere che non avreste mai potuto farcela senza di lui. <\/span><\/p>\n

L'ha fatto perch\u00e9 era il modo migliore per manipolarla affinch\u00e9 restasse con lui e non provasse nemmeno ad andarsene. <\/span><\/p>\n

Dopo un po', che vi piaccia o no, avete iniziato a credergli. <\/span><\/p>\n

Well, now it\u2019s time to prove both of you wrong, to show everyone that you\u2019re a complete person on your own and that you don\u2019t need \u201cyour other half\u201d (which was clearly not him) to keep on living. <\/span><\/p>\n

2. Focus on other relationships in your life\u2026<\/h2>\n

\"amici<\/p>\n

Once you have all of this figured out, it\u2019s time to refocus all the energy you keep giving to this guy to all the other people in your life. <\/span><\/p>\n

Per molto tempo, quest'uomo \u00e8 stato il centro del vostro mondo e una persona attorno alla quale ruotava ogni giorno.<\/span><\/p>\n

This is exactly what he wanted \u2013 to isolate you from everyone else so it\u2019s easier for him to brainwash you into thinking that your relationship was perfectly normal and healthy. <\/span><\/p>\n

Per legarvi a s\u00e9 facendovi perdere tutte le altre persone della vostra vita. <\/span><\/p>\n

However, now, all of a sudden, you have so much time on your hands, and you don\u2019t know what to do with yourself. <\/span><\/p>\n

Questo \u00e8 il momento perfetto per ravvivare alcune vecchie amicizie e dare di pi\u00f9 alla famiglia.<\/span><\/p>\n

You might be embarrassed to ask the people whom you\u2019ve forgotten all about because of your ex-relationship to accept you once again, but give it a try! <\/span><\/p>\n

Vi assicuro che la maggior parte di loro capir\u00e0 la vostra onest\u00e0 e vi aiuter\u00e0 a rimettervi in piedi.<\/span><\/p>\n

3. \u2026and especially on the relationship you have with yourself<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Tuttavia, la relazione pi\u00f9 importante su cui dovete concentrarvi \u00e8 quella con voi stessi.<\/span> because that\u2019s the most precious one. <\/span><\/p>\n

It\u2019s time to start taking care of yourself the same way you took care of him and to start believing in yourself the way you believed in him.<\/span><\/p>\n

Soprattutto, questo \u00e8 il momento in cui dovete imparare ad amare voi stessi con la stessa intensit\u00e0 con cui avete amato lui.<\/span><\/p>\n

Time to finally put yourself in the place that you deserve and shower yourself with all the affection and attention you\u2019ve been giving away to this wrong guy. <\/span><\/p>\n

\u00c8 ora di viziarsi e di iniziare finalmente a trattarsi come la principessa che \u00e8.<\/span><\/p>\n

Trust me, after going through abuse and being convinced that you\u2019re not worthy of your own self-love, this is exactly what your mental and emotional health need in order to recover. <\/span><\/p>\n

4. Prendere tempo per guarire<\/a><\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Another thing you need to do when you\u2019re single after getting out of an abusive relationship is to give yourself enough time to heal. <\/span><\/p>\n

Instead of repressing your emotions, get in touch with them \u2013 this is the only way to deal with them in a healthy way.<\/span><\/p>\n

If you feel like crying, cry, and if you feel like screaming, scream at the top of your lungs. Don\u2019t worry, nobody will think you\u2019re a lunatic.<\/span><\/p>\n

After all, you\u2019ve been through some serious trauma and it\u2019s perfectly natural that you can\u2019t get rid of all this pain, resentment, anger, and fear in a blink of an eye. <\/span><\/p>\n

Just don\u2019t call your ex in these times of despair. <\/span><\/p>\n

Don\u2019t think that going back to him would ease your pain because, trust me, it would only make things worse.<\/span><\/p>\n

5. Don\u2019t do anything you\u2019re not ready for<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

The most important rule about learning to be single again is only to do the things you\u2019re ready for, not those that others expect you to do or that would make your ex jealous.<\/span><\/p>\n

Questo vale soprattutto per chi si rimette in gioco con gli appuntamenti. <\/span><\/p>\n

Ricordate che andare avanti \u00e8 molto pi\u00f9 che <\/span>saltare in una nuova relazione<\/span><\/a>.<\/span><\/p>\n

There isn\u2019t a deadline by which you have to find someone new.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00c8 perfettamente normale che tu abbia profondi problemi di fiducia dopo tutto quello che hai vissuto. <\/span><\/p>\n

\u00c8 perfettamente normale che abbiate bisogno di tempo per aprirvi a un nuovo uomo e che siate pronte a lasciarlo entrare fino in fondo. <\/span><\/p>\n

So, if you don\u2019t feel like dating just yet, don\u2019t do it. If you don\u2019t feel like going on blind dates your friends are trying to set you up on, don\u2019t go.<\/span><\/p>\n

It\u2019s as simple as that: Do only the things you\u2019re comfortable with doing and don\u2019t let anyone dictate your pace because nobody\u2019s walked a mile in your shoes.<\/span><\/p>\n

6. But start doing everything you\u2019ve always wanted to do<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Tuttavia, questo \u00e8 anche il momento in cui dovreste realizzare tutti i vostri sogni pi\u00f9 sfrenati.<\/span><\/p>\n

Per anni, come vittima di abusi, avete dovuto fare tutto il possibile per rendere felice il vostro ex, senza mai pensare ai vostri desideri. <\/span><\/p>\n

Era quello dominante e quello che prendeva pi\u00f9 decisioni.<\/span><\/p>\n

Nevertheless, now, all of that is a part of the past. Now you\u2019re on your own, and you can do whatever you want, however you want, whenever you want.<\/span><\/p>\n

Remember that road trip you\u2019ve dreamt of taking for so long, but your ex preferred taking a flight? <\/span><\/p>\n

That new language you\u2019ve wanted to start learning, but you were afraid you wouldn\u2019t have enough time to see him if you did?<\/span><\/p>\n

Che ne dite di cose pi\u00f9 piccole e sciocche?<\/span><\/p>\n

That girl\u2019s TV show you planned on binge-watching, but you two always ended up watching something he liked? <\/span><\/p>\n

The way you wanted to paint your bedroom walls pink, but he wouldn\u2019t hear of it?<\/span><\/p>\n

Well, now\u2019s the time to do all of those things and enjoy each one of them! You deserve it!<\/span><\/p>\n

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Even though walking away from an abusive relationship is without doubt one of the bravest things you could ever do, the truth is that, sadly, your nightmares don\u2019t end the moment you dump your abuser.  In fact, when this happens, you need some time to learn how to continue with your life. You need a…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":21,"featured_media":45712,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29632],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-45704","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-abuse-and-trauma"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29632,"label":"abuse & trauma"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/tim-foster-xyGfJ2cKCl4-unsplash.jpg",800,533,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Maria Parker","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/author\/maria\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29632,"name":"abuse & trauma","slug":"abuse-and-trauma","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29632,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Learn the signs of emotional and physical abuse and how to protect yourself from toxic patterns in relationships with your partner, friends or family.","parent":22911,"count":138,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29632,"category_count":138,"category_description":"Learn the signs of emotional and physical abuse and how to protect yourself from toxic patterns in relationships with your partner, friends or family.","cat_name":"abuse & trauma","category_nicename":"abuse-and-trauma","category_parent":22911}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/45704","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/21"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=45704"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/45704\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/45712"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=45704"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=45704"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=45704"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}