{"id":45860,"date":"2020-10-29T01:09:19","date_gmt":"2020-10-29T01:09:19","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=45860"},"modified":"2022-05-11T20:03:49","modified_gmt":"2022-05-11T20:03:49","slug":"7-verita-non-censurate-sullessere-matrigna","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/7-verita-non-censurate-sullessere-matrigna\/","title":{"rendered":"7 verit\u00e0 non censurate sull'essere una matrigna"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Essere matrigna \u00e8 un ruolo che non tutte le donne sono in grado di svolgere. Se volete accettare questo ruolo, dovete essere pronte ad affrontarlo, sia mentalmente che fisicamente.<\/p>\n<p>Because once you accept it, there\u2019s no going back. You can\u2019t enter someone\u2019s life and simply get out because you don\u2019t like it.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>You can\u2019t make someone love you and then disappear. That\u2019s why you need to think about entering this kind of relationship.<\/p>\n<p>You need to accept the fact that you will always be under the lens. You\u2019ll always be the one who is expected to solve problems and douse fires.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>My dear, you\u2019ll always be a peacemaker. And no matter if you are doing your part well or not, you\u2019ll be exhausted.<\/p>\n<p>And that will last until you learn to organize everything properly. And that\u2019s not all.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Ecco alcune verit\u00e0 sull'essere matrigna che forse avete dimenticato.<\/p>\n<p>I\u2019m here to show you once more what <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/love\/questo-e-cio-che-e-diventato-dopo-che-lhai-rotta\/\">la tua vita si trasformer\u00e0 in<\/a> after you accept taking care of kids who aren\u2019t yours.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>So, I\u2019m asking you\u2013 are you ready for this?<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">You\u2019ll constantly overthink whether you are giving your best&nbsp;<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-113887\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/girl-hugging-her-mother.jpg\" alt=\"ragazza che abbraccia la madre\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/girl-hugging-her-mother.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/girl-hugging-her-mother-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/girl-hugging-her-mother-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/girl-hugging-her-mother-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/girl-hugging-her-mother-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/girl-hugging-her-mother-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/girl-hugging-her-mother-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/girl-hugging-her-mother-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>When you get into a game you have never played before,&nbsp; you\u2019ll have to think of rules you haven\u2019t yet used.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>You\u2019ll be with the man who is your whole world and be happy. But that same man will have someone else who is his world besides you.<\/p>\n<p>And that is something you can\u2019t beat.&nbsp; His love for his kids will always be stronger than his love for you.<\/p>\n<p>And even if you get along well with his kids and see that they like you, you\u2019ll overthink a lot.<\/p>\n<p>You will wonder about what might happen if they get up tomorrow and tell you they don\u2019t love you anymore.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Tanti brutti pensieri si affolleranno nella vostra testa, ma accadr\u00e0 perch\u00e9 vi interessa.<\/p>\n<p>You want everything to be perfect and it\u2019ll mean a lot to you if your husband sees your effort and the kids show you they are happy.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">You don\u2019t want to mix in the relationship of your husband and his ex&nbsp;<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-113888\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/couple-sitting-on-the-beach.jpg\" alt=\"coppia seduta sulla spiaggia\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/couple-sitting-on-the-beach.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/couple-sitting-on-the-beach-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/couple-sitting-on-the-beach-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/couple-sitting-on-the-beach-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/couple-sitting-on-the-beach-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/couple-sitting-on-the-beach-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/couple-sitting-on-the-beach-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/couple-sitting-on-the-beach-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>What your husband and his ex have, is their thing. You don\u2019t want to mix in their decisions and you don\u2019t want to make their rules.<\/p>\n<p>If you try to do it, you\u2019ll get hurt.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>That\u2019s why it\u2019s better to leave them alone so they can talk and decide what\u2019s best for the kids. In the end, you all have the same goal \u2013 to ensure the kids\u2019 happiness.<\/p>\n<p>Volete essere felici nella vostra nuova relazione e volete che i bambini vi accettino.  Si tratta di un processo lungo, ma che vale la pena di intraprendere.<\/p>\n<p>You can\u2019t imagine how much love exists in those little human beings.<\/p>\n<p>But if you give them all you got, you\u2019ll find out.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">You\u2019ll need some time to start loving your stepkids&nbsp;<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-113889\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/a-person-holding-hands-with-girl.jpg\" alt=\"una persona che tiene per mano una ragazza\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/a-person-holding-hands-with-girl.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/a-person-holding-hands-with-girl-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/a-person-holding-hands-with-girl-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/a-person-holding-hands-with-girl-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/a-person-holding-hands-with-girl-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/a-person-holding-hands-with-girl-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/a-person-holding-hands-with-girl-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/a-person-holding-hands-with-girl-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Since you just started something new with kids who aren\u2019t yours, it\u2019s normal that you\u2019ll need some time.<\/p>\n<p>Quei bambini stanno attraversando un periodo doloroso perch\u00e9 i loro genitori hanno divorziato e il padre ha una nuova moglie.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>No matter how young or old they are, they\u2019ll need some time to accept it. So, give them that, but don\u2019t forget to give time to yourself as well.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>It\u2019s normal that feelings won\u2019t be so intense at the beginning, but as time passes, you could become each other\u2019s best friend.<\/p>\n<p>La cosa pi\u00f9 importante \u00e8 il rispetto reciproco e l'augurio di successo. Tutto il resto verr\u00e0 da s\u00e9.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">A volte i vostri figliastri saranno difficili da gestire&nbsp;<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-113890\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/Stressed-young-woman-sitting-on-sofa.jpg\" alt=\"Giovane donna stressata seduta sul divano da sola\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/Stressed-young-woman-sitting-on-sofa.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/Stressed-young-woman-sitting-on-sofa-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/Stressed-young-woman-sitting-on-sofa-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/Stressed-young-woman-sitting-on-sofa-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/Stressed-young-woman-sitting-on-sofa-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/Stressed-young-woman-sitting-on-sofa-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/Stressed-young-woman-sitting-on-sofa-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/Stressed-young-woman-sitting-on-sofa-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>If your stepkids are small, you\u2019ll have your hands full \u2013 cleaning, preparing them for kindergarten, ironing and washing all the time.<\/p>\n<p>You\u2019ll barely have time for yourself. It will be a completely new lifestyle from the one you used to run before.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/relationship\/8-ruoli-falsi-che-in-realta-vi-rendono-infelici\/\">It\u2019s be a new role<\/a> you\u2019ll have to play perfectly well. And that is where the pressure attacks.<\/p>\n<p>You\u2019ll sometimes feel like you are giving too much but not getting anything in return.<\/p>\n<p>It can become hard because you want to let someone know how you suffer and what kind of problems you have, but nobody\u2019s there.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>You can\u2019t say anything about it to your husband and if you tell your friends, they\u2019re bound to tell you that it was your decision.<\/p>\n<p>During those days, just be strong and know it won\u2019t last forever. And trust me, it will all pay off one day.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">You\u2019ll want it all to be perfect, but that\u2019s pretty tough<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-113891\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/sad-woman-holding-hands-on-her-head.jpg\" alt=\"donna triste che si tiene le mani sulla testa\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/sad-woman-holding-hands-on-her-head.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/sad-woman-holding-hands-on-her-head-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/sad-woman-holding-hands-on-her-head-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/sad-woman-holding-hands-on-her-head-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/sad-woman-holding-hands-on-her-head-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/sad-woman-holding-hands-on-her-head-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/sad-woman-holding-hands-on-her-head-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/sad-woman-holding-hands-on-her-head-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>When you\u2019re a stepmom, you want to have everything under control.<\/p>\n<p>But it\u2019s sometimes hard to organize it all for it to work as you want it. A happy husband and stepkids that love you all the time is something that\u2019s hard to get.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>People go through different changes and those changes affect you. So, it\u2019s okay if you sometimes give yourself a break.<\/p>\n<p>It\u2019s okay to stop for a second and breathe. It\u2019s totally all right to think about yourself and put your happiness first.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>That is not selfish. It\u2019s something you need to feel alive. You\u2019re already in a situation many women couldn\u2019t stand and you\u2019re doing just fine.<\/p>\n<p>Ricordiamo che.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">No matter what you do, you\u2019ll never be their mom&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-113892\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/lonely-pensive-young-woman-standing-alone.jpg\" alt=\"giovane donna solitaria e pensierosa\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/lonely-pensive-young-woman-standing-alone.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/lonely-pensive-young-woman-standing-alone-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/lonely-pensive-young-woman-standing-alone-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/lonely-pensive-young-woman-standing-alone-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/lonely-pensive-young-woman-standing-alone-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/lonely-pensive-young-woman-standing-alone-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/lonely-pensive-young-woman-standing-alone-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/lonely-pensive-young-woman-standing-alone-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Your stepkids may have a great relationship with you, but at the end of the day, when they need advice, they\u2019ll turn to their biological mother.<\/p>\n<p>And that\u2019s something that shouldn\u2019t surprise you.&nbsp; You would do the same thing.<\/p>\n<p>In the end, you\u2019d want your kids to do the same if they were in the same situation, right?<\/p>\n<p>That\u2019s why you shouldn\u2019t sweat the small stuff. All that you\u2019re doing for your stepkids is enough.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>All the love, affection, and care you\u2019re providing them with is amazing and you should continue doing so.<\/p>\n<p>I know you\u2019ll never be their mom, but who says you can\u2019t be their best friend.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Don\u2019t care about what others say<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-113893\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/beautiful-sad-young-woman-sitting-in-bedroom.jpg\" alt=\"bella donna giovane e triste seduta in camera da letto\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/beautiful-sad-young-woman-sitting-in-bedroom.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/beautiful-sad-young-woman-sitting-in-bedroom-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/beautiful-sad-young-woman-sitting-in-bedroom-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/beautiful-sad-young-woman-sitting-in-bedroom-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/beautiful-sad-young-woman-sitting-in-bedroom-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/beautiful-sad-young-woman-sitting-in-bedroom-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/beautiful-sad-young-woman-sitting-in-bedroom-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/beautiful-sad-young-woman-sitting-in-bedroom-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>People will always talk. Period. But you know what? You shouldn\u2019t even care about what they\u2019re saying.<\/p>\n<p>There will always be those who\u2019ll judge you for accepting this kind of lifestyle, but it\u2019s your life and if it makes you happy and fulfilled, just bring it on.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>So che a volte questi commenti possono far male, ma basta tenere la testa alta e vivere la vita che si vuole.<\/p>\n<p>Don\u2019t feel bad because someone can\u2019t see how great it is to be a mom to kids you haven\u2019t birthed.<\/p>\n<p>Just enjoy your new role and don\u2019t try to satisfy <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/perche-non-piaccio-alla-gente\/\">people who don\u2019t like you<\/a> in ogni caso.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Utilizzate invece questa energia per migliorare la vostra vita e trovare un equilibrio nella vostra nuova famiglia.<\/p>\n<p>That will mean so much to you and you\u2019ll finally be happy for getting the credit for all the great things you\u2019ve done.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-113884\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/7-Uncensored-Truths-About-Being-A-Stepmom-pinterest.jpg\" alt=\"7 verit\u00e0 non censurate sull&#039;essere una matrigna\" width=\"724\" height=\"1024\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/7-Uncensored-Truths-About-Being-A-Stepmom-pinterest.jpg 724w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/7-Uncensored-Truths-About-Being-A-Stepmom-pinterest-212x300.jpg 212w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/7-Uncensored-Truths-About-Being-A-Stepmom-pinterest-150x212.jpg 150w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 724px) 100vw, 724px\" \/><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Being a stepmom is a role not every woman is capable of fulfilling. If you want to take this role, you need to be ready for it, both mentally and physically. Because once you accept it, there\u2019s no going back. You can\u2019t enter someone\u2019s life and simply get out because you don\u2019t like it.&nbsp; You&#8230;<\/p>","protected":false},"author":25,"featured_media":113886,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29624],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-45860","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-friends-and-family"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29624,"label":"friends&amp;family"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/7-Uncensored-Truths-About-Being-A-Stepmom-1024x684.jpg",1024,684,true],"author_info":{"display_name":"Amy Nicholson","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/author\/amy\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29624,"name":"friends&amp;family","slug":"friends-and-family","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29624,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Do you want to improve your relationship with friends and family? Following these tips will help you boost your connection with your favorite people.","parent":29620,"count":316,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29624,"category_count":316,"category_description":"Do you want to improve your relationship with friends and family? Following these tips will help you boost your connection with your favorite people.","cat_name":"friends&amp;family","category_nicename":"friends-and-family","category_parent":29620}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/45860","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/25"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=45860"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/45860\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/113886"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=45860"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=45860"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=45860"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}