{"id":47447,"date":"2019-11-13T14:50:00","date_gmt":"2019-11-13T14:50:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=47447"},"modified":"2021-08-11T08:48:38","modified_gmt":"2021-08-11T08:48:38","slug":"alla-ragazza-che-ha-confuso-labuso-con-lamore","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/alla-ragazza-che-ha-confuso-labuso-con-lamore\/","title":{"rendered":"Alla ragazza che ha confuso l'abuso con l'amore"},"content":{"rendered":"

Quando hai incontrato quest'uomo per la prima volta, sei rimasta incantata dal suo amore eterno per te. O almeno, da qualcosa che vedevate come amore, ma che non si avvicinava mai a questo.<\/span><\/p>\n

Let\u2019s be honest\u2014at first, <\/span>eri pi\u00f9 che felice di esserti finalmente imbattuta in un uomo che ti voleva tutta per s\u00e9; <\/b>a man who was ready to do everything in his power to keep you by his side and who wasn\u2019t ready to give up on you just like that.<\/span><\/p>\n

After all those guys who couldn\u2019t make up their minds about you and refused to <\/span>etichettare la vostra relazione<\/span><\/a>Sei stata messa al tappeto dall'uomo che era orgoglioso di chiamarti \"sua\".<\/span><\/p>\n

Anche quando ha iniziato a trattarti come una sua propriet\u00e0, ti \u00e8 piaciuto questo senso di appartenenza che non avevi mai provato prima.<\/span><\/p>\n

After all those guys who didn\u2019t give a damn whether you were seeing other people as long as you were always available to them, <\/span>eri entusiasta di trovare un uomo che si comportava come se volesse morire se tu posassi gli occhi su un altro maschio.<\/b><\/p>\n

Hai visto la sua gelosia come una prova del suo profondo amore e come un modo per dimostrarti quanto avesse paura di perderti.<\/span><\/p>\n

Anche quando ha iniziato a chiederle di tagliare i ponti con tutti i suoi amici e colleghi maschi, anche quando le ha chiesto di cancellare tutti i suoi profili sui social media e anche quando ha iniziato a fare scenate quando lei parlava con un altro uomo, <\/span>you didn\u2019t see it as a <\/b>pericolosamente possessivo<\/b><\/a> comportamento<\/b>.<\/span><\/p>\n

\"Solitario<\/p>\n

Instead, deep down, you were actually honored by the fact that he was clearly so crazy over you and that he wouldn\u2019t stand sharing your heart and thoughts with anyone else.<\/span><\/p>\n

After all those guys who weren\u2019t interested in your life, you didn\u2019t mind him talking trash about your closest friends.<\/span><\/p>\n

Pensavate che volesse solo allontanarvi dal loro impatto negativo, invece lo vedevate come il suo modo di isolarvi dal resto del mondo.<\/span><\/p>\n

Dopo tutti quei ragazzi che ti hanno dato briciole della loro attenzione, <\/span>siete state felici di trovare un uomo completamente concentrato su di voi<\/b>. <\/span><\/p>\n

Even when he started calling you every fifteen minutes, even when he started showing up at your doorstep unannounced, and even when he wasn\u2019t allowing you to spend a second of your free time without him, <\/span>you didn\u2019t see it as a red flag<\/b>.<\/span><\/p>\n

You didn\u2019t see it as his way of caging you and limiting you. Instead, you couldn\u2019t believe that you were so lucky to run into a man who was so in love with you that he didn\u2019t want to spend a moment apart.<\/span><\/p>\n

Dopo tutti quei ragazzi che erano completamente indifferenti nei vostri confronti e non si sono mai preoccupati del futuro della vostra relazione, siete state sorprese da un uomo che si \u00e8 battuto per essa, anche a costo di litigare con voi. <\/span><\/p>\n

You didn\u2019t see all the arguments he provoked as a sign of violence\u2014you saw them as his way of improving your relationship, working on your issues.<\/span><\/p>\n

\"Giovane<\/p>\n

You didn\u2019t see the insults he kept telling you as his attempts to put you down\u2014you saw them as his way of inspiring you to become better.<\/span><\/p>\n

Dopo tutti quei ragazzi che non ti hanno mai fatto entrare nel loro cuore, \u00e8 stato facile per te rimanere accecata e scambiare l'abuso per amore.<\/b><\/p>\n

Yes, the truth is that you enjoyed this man\u2019s sick behavior at first\u2014<\/span>fino a quando non \u00e8 diventato troppo per voi da gestire.<\/b><\/p>\n

Vi ha fatto sentire speciali e unici, e invece di fuggire per la vostra vita, eravate lusingati e convinti di aver fatto centro. <\/span><\/p>\n

Finch\u00e9 non hai capito la terribile verit\u00e0: niente di tutto questo \u00e8 stato amore.<\/b>\u2014<\/span>\u00e8 stato <\/b>abuso emotivo<\/b><\/a> sempre.<\/b><\/p>\n

E in qualche modo sei riuscito a confondere le due cose.<\/span><\/p>\n

It doesn\u2019t matter that he never actually hit you<\/b>\u2014<\/span>Era dispotico, possessivo, tossico e, soprattutto, violento. Ma non ti ha mai amato davvero.<\/b><\/p>\n

Even if you still don\u2019t see it, I promise you that one day, you will. <\/span><\/p>\n

Once true love enters your life, you\u2019ll see the difference.<\/span><\/p>\n

Once you experience a healthy relationship which is based on mutual respect and trust, you\u2019ll see that this man never truly cared for you because this is not the way you treat the people you care for.<\/span><\/p>\n

\"Alla<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

When you first met this man, you were enchanted by his undying love for you. Or at least, something you saw as love but was never near that. Let\u2019s be honest\u2014at first, you were more than happy that you finally ran into a man who wanted you all for himself; a man who was ready…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":21,"featured_media":47452,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29632],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-47447","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-abuse-and-trauma"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29632,"label":"abuse & trauma"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/shutterstock_344500055.jpg",800,534,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Maria Parker","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/author\/maria\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29632,"name":"abuse & trauma","slug":"abuse-and-trauma","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29632,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Learn the signs of emotional and physical abuse and how to protect yourself from toxic patterns in relationships with your partner, friends or family.","parent":22911,"count":138,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29632,"category_count":138,"category_description":"Learn the signs of emotional and physical abuse and how to protect yourself from toxic patterns in relationships with your partner, friends or family.","cat_name":"abuse & trauma","category_nicename":"abuse-and-trauma","category_parent":22911}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/47447","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/21"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=47447"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/47447\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/47452"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=47447"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=47447"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=47447"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}