{"id":47859,"date":"2019-11-18T23:11:14","date_gmt":"2019-11-18T23:11:14","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=47859"},"modified":"2021-08-12T13:18:23","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T13:18:23","slug":"6-modi-per-spegnere-un-gaslighter-in-una-relazione-di-coppia","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/6-modi-per-spegnere-un-gaslighter-in-una-relazione-di-coppia\/","title":{"rendered":"6 modi per spegnere una relazione che parla a vanvera"},"content":{"rendered":"

Il gaslighting \u00e8 un tipo di abuso emotivo <\/a>che si verifica soprattutto nelle relazioni sentimentali.<\/p>\n

Utilizzandolo, l'abusante vuole convincere la sua vittima che non \u00e8 mentalmente stabile.<\/p>\n

He uses different tactics to prove he\u2019s right. <\/p>\n

In many romantic relationships, one partner, mostly the dominant one, would convince his victim that she didn\u2019t see or hear something correctly.<\/p>\n

He would tell her that she\u2019s exaggerating or that she\u2019s too clingy. <\/p>\n

He\u2019d do so many nasty things to the woman he swore he is in love with.<\/p>\n

Men like that are mostly good actors because they\u2019ll always make things work for them. <\/p>\n

\"i<\/p>\n

Saranno le vittime agli occhi dei loro amici e familiari.<\/p>\n

Nobody will ever think that they\u2019re evil or that they\u2019re capable of doing bad things. <\/p>\n

But their victims know too well that they\u2019re ready for anything.<\/p>\n

The catch is, it\u2019s really hard to prove that.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s extremely hard to fight alone and try to let another know that you\u2019re going through hell. <\/p>\n

Ma, se vi interessa, ci sono diversi modi in cui potete spegnere un gaslighter nella vostra relazione.<\/p>\n

Vi chiedete come? Continuate a leggere!<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t let them brainwash you <\/h2>\n

The first thing you need to remember is to be strong, and don\u2019t let them do whatever they want with you.<\/p>\n

They\u2019ll try to brainwash you and make you think in a way that suits them well. <\/p>\n

Ma il vostro obbligo \u00e8 di non permettere che ci\u00f2 accada.<\/p>\n

Un buon modo per farlo \u00e8 ricordare ci\u00f2 che \u00e8 realmente accaduto.<\/p>\n

If you\u2019re 100 percent sure that something happened, don\u2019t let your abuser convince you of the opposite. <\/p>\n

If you let them brainwash you the first time, they will do it again and again, and you will end up totally losing yourself over someone who couldn\u2019t care less for you. <\/p>\n

Ma avere una buona memoria \u00e8 una salvezza in situazioni come questa, quindi assicuratevi di sapere sempre cosa \u00e8 successo. <\/p>\n

Siate abbastanza forti da combattere per voi stessi <\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Il vostro abusatore vuole che siate voi a essere sottomessi.<\/p>\n

Vuole che ascoltiate tutto ci\u00f2 che dice.<\/p>\n

Vuole che tu obbedisca alle sue regole.<\/p>\n

\u00c8 giusto parlare con il proprio partner e decidere su alcune cose che riguardano la relazione. <\/p>\n

Ma lasciare che qualcuno prenda tutto il controllo in una relazione non \u00e8 affatto sano.<\/p>\n

\u00c8 una cosa che non dovreste mai permettere a nessun uomo.<\/p>\n

If he tries to fight with you, convincing you that you are the crazy one, don\u2019t let him get away with that.<\/p>\n

Invece, siate forti e combattete per voi stessi. <\/p>\n

Rispetta te stessa perch\u00e9 solo cos\u00ec lui ti rispetter\u00e0, anche solo un po'.<\/p>\n

At least, he\u2019ll know that you are not a doormat and that he can\u2019t behave as he wants. <\/p>\n

Walk away from a conversation you don\u2019t feel comfortable with <\/h2>\n

If you don\u2019t feel good having a conversation with your partner, you should walk away.<\/p>\n

If he is rude toward you or if he doesn\u2019t want to listen to what you have to say, it is okay to leave.<\/p>\n

You shouldn\u2019t be a part of something you don\u2019t like.<\/p>\n

You shouldn\u2019t let anyone push you to do things that you don\u2019t feel good doing.<\/p>\n

If you show him that you won\u2019t put up with any of his shit and that you will walk away, he will change the way he treats you. <\/p>\n

He will realize you are not so easy to handle and that you\u2019re a true fighter who knows how much you bring to the table.<\/p>\n

I know it takes a lot of time and courage for this, but once you try it, you\u2019ll be so proud of yourself. <\/p>\n

Prestate attenzione al suo modello di comportamento <\/h2>\n

\"uomo<\/p>\n

Molte donne subiscono il gaslighting perch\u00e9 non hanno visto tutte le bandiere rosse.<\/p>\n

They didn\u2019t see that their partner has been using them all the time while he was swearing that he loves them. <\/p>\n

They simply believed him and didn\u2019t think anything bad would ever happen.<\/p>\n

Ma nella maggior parte dei casi, quando ci si rilassa troppo, possono accadere cose brutte. <\/p>\n

That\u2019s why \u00e8 necessario prestare attenzione<\/a> al suo modello di comportamento.<\/p>\n

Cosa fa ogni volta che lo accusate di qualcosa?<\/p>\n

\u00c8 aggressivo o vi parla con un tono normale?<\/p>\n

Cose del genere possono dire molto sulla verit\u00e0 della situazione. <\/p>\n

La maggior parte delle persone inizia a litigare quando viene accusata di qualcosa che ha fatto.<\/p>\n

L'attacco \u00e8 la miglior difesa, ricordate?<\/p>\n

Se il vostro partner si comporta in modo aggressivo quando gli dite che ha fatto qualcosa di male, \u00e8 probabile che sia colpevole. <\/p>\n

Prima lo riconoscerete, pi\u00f9 facile sar\u00e0 entrare nella sua testa.<\/p>\n

Once you do that, you\u2019ll know that it\u2019s time to shut him off and to walk away. <\/p>\n

Don\u2019t let him switch the topic <\/h2>\n

When the abuser sees that you have the upper hand, he\u2019ll try to switch the conversation.<\/p>\n

He\u2019ll try to calm you down, telling you that you have right.<\/p>\n

\u00c8 in quel momento che dovreste spegnerlo.<\/p>\n

\u00c8 il momento giusto per batterlo al suo gioco.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t let him get away with all his shit he has been serving in front of you for so many years. <\/p>\n

Tell him that you don\u2019t want to talk about other things but about the issue, you are fighting about right now.<\/p>\n

Attenetevi al vostro piano di dirgli tutto quello che volete per dimostrargli che avete ragione.<\/p>\n

When he sees that you\u2019re not easy to handle, he\u2019ll change his mind. <\/p>\n

He\u2019ll realize that he can\u2019t behave as he thought he could.<\/p>\n

After you show him that you\u2019re stronger than he thinks, he won\u2019t act like that toward you anymore.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t argue with him, but talk normally <\/h2>\n

\"coppia<\/p>\n

If you show your abuser that you\u2019re overwhelmed by the situation, he will use it against you.<\/p>\n

If he sees that you are angry or frustrated, he\u2019ll call you crazy. <\/p>\n

He\u2019ll tell you everything is in your head and that it never happened.<\/p>\n

Quindi, quando cerca di litigare con voi, mantenete la calma e cercate di parlargli con un tono di voce normale. <\/p>\n

Don\u2019t let him transform you into a monster you\u2019re not.<\/p>\n

If you don\u2019t get along about something, you can advise him to talk about it but not to fight.<\/p>\n

Se si rifiuta di parlarvi con calma, dovreste semplicemente andarvene.<\/p>\n

He knows that he can\u2019t piss you off, so he\u2019ll try using all the tactics he can in order to escape that conversation.<\/p>\n

Questo \u00e8 solo un motivo in pi\u00f9 per non fidarsi pi\u00f9 di lui e per stargli lontano.<\/p>\n

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Gaslighting is a kind of emotional abuse that mostly happens in romantic relationships. By using it, the abuser wants to convince his victim that she is not mentally stable. He uses different tactics to prove he\u2019s right.  In many romantic relationships, one partner, mostly the dominant one, would convince his victim that she didn\u2019t see…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":25,"featured_media":47935,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29621],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-47859","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-healthy-relationship"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29621,"label":"healthy relationship"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/shutterstock_14214209271.jpg",800,533,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Amy Nicholson","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/author\/amy\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29621,"name":"healthy relationship","slug":"healthy-relationship","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29621,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Explore this part of our site to learn how to recognize and nourish healthy patterns in your relationships and let go of the negative ones with ease.","parent":29620,"count":254,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29621,"category_count":254,"category_description":"Explore this part of our site to learn how to recognize and nourish healthy patterns in your relationships and let go of the negative ones with ease.","cat_name":"healthy relationship","category_nicename":"healthy-relationship","category_parent":29620}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/47859","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/25"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=47859"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/47859\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/47935"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=47859"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=47859"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=47859"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}