{"id":47882,"date":"2019-11-18T20:53:56","date_gmt":"2019-11-18T20:53:56","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=47882"},"modified":"2022-02-27T02:56:00","modified_gmt":"2022-02-27T02:56:00","slug":"6-modi-per-superare-la-paura-dopo-una-violenza-domestica","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/6-modi-per-superare-la-paura-dopo-una-violenza-domestica\/","title":{"rendered":"6 modi per superare la paura dopo una violenza domestica"},"content":{"rendered":"

Abuso domestico<\/span><\/a> is a hot topic nowadays. Even if you think it doesn\u2019t happen a lot, the numbers tell a different story. <\/span><\/p>\n

Secondo una ricerca, negli Stati Uniti ogni nove secondi una donna viene uccisa dal proprio partner. <\/span><\/p>\n

I don\u2019t need to mention that there are women who never ask for help and who are not even in the system. <\/span><\/p>\n

Detto questo, il numero di donne maltrattate \u00e8 ancora pi\u00f9 alto.<\/span><\/p>\n

E sapete cosa? \u00c8 devastante. Le vittime di violenza domestica e di abusi emotivi hanno bisogno di molto tempo per rimettersi in carreggiata. <\/span><\/p>\n

Hanno bisogno di tutto l'aiuto possibile per riuscirci. <\/span><\/p>\n

Quindi, prima di giudicare qualcuno o di pensare negativamente a lui, informatevi sulla sua vita. <\/span><\/p>\n

We all cope up with our problems in different ways and the last thing we should do is judge each other. If you can\u2019t help, don\u2019t do anything at all. <\/span><\/p>\n

Violenza domestica<\/a> Le vittime sono persone che sono state spezzate sia fisicamente che emotivamente.<\/span><\/p>\n

\"Sagoma<\/p>\n

They believe they\u2019ll never be the old version of themselves again and that it was their fault or at least partly. <\/span><\/p>\n

Molte donne che sono fuggite da relazioni di abuso mi hanno detto che erano convinte di aver fatto qualcosa di male. <\/span><\/p>\n

They each thought that their partner\u2019s behavior was bad because they didn\u2019t know how to make him happy. But that\u2019s not true. <\/span><\/p>\n

Your partner shouldn\u2019t beat the hell out of you if you didn\u2019t make lunch.<\/span><\/p>\n

He shouldn\u2019t yell at you and gaslight you just because you don\u2019t agree with what he thinks.<\/span><\/p>\n

He shouldn\u2019t make you addicted to him and isolate you from your family and friends. <\/span><\/p>\n

Because that\u2019s not love. That is abuse. And it\u2019s not healthy. <\/span><\/p>\n

If you are familiar with all that\u2019s written above and if you have gone through the hell of domestic violence, I\u2019ll try to comfort you and give you some advice on how to overcome the fear.<\/span><\/p>\n

Spero che alcune di queste cose vi aiutino ad andare avanti e a iniziare un nuovo capitolo della vostra vita.<\/span><\/p>\n

1. It wasn\u2019t your fault <\/h2>\n

\"Donne<\/p>\n

The very first thing you need to remember is that it wasn\u2019t your fault. <\/span><\/p>\n

The abuse you\u2019ve gone through only says something about your abuser and not about you. You were just a victim, a woman in love who couldn\u2019t leave for a large amount of reasons. <\/span><\/p>\n

Just know that you gave everything to make it work. But it was in vain because the other side didn\u2019t want to collaborate. <\/span><\/p>\n

You need to know that you weren\u2019t the guilty one and you shouldn\u2019t let anyone convince you of the opposite. <\/span><\/p>\n

Once you accept the fact that you couldn\u2019t do anything but leave, you\u2019ll be one step closer to healing.<\/span><\/p>\n

2. Perdonarli <\/h2>\n

\"Giovane<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t do it because they deserve it but because you deserve peace. Once you let go of all that toxic energy, you\u2019ll be ready to move on. <\/span><\/p>\n

Dovete decidere fermamente che volete una vita migliore per voi stessi. <\/span><\/p>\n

Dovreste mettere voi stessi al primo posto e iniziare a lavorare sulla vostra felicit\u00e0. <\/span><\/p>\n

Once you forgive your abuser, you won\u2019t think about them so much. By forgiving them, you\u2019ll let go of all the demons that were a part of your life for such a long time. <\/span><\/p>\n

And trust me, once you are able to do this, you\u2019ll feel much better in your own skin. You will get nothing from revenge or from wishing them the worst. <\/span><\/p>\n

Don\u2019t worry, they\u2019ll get what they deserve. There is someone up there who sees it all. And He\u2019ll give us all what we deserve.<\/span><\/p>\n

3. Cercare una protezione <\/span><\/h2>\n

\"Vista<\/p>\n

Un buon modo per superare la paura dopo essere sopravvissuti a una violenza domestica \u00e8 ottenere una protezione. <\/span><\/p>\n

You can ask for legal help and a restraining order. That way, you\u2019ll be much calmer because you\u2019ll know you\u2019re safe. <\/span><\/p>\n

Your abuser won\u2019t be able to get close to you and you\u2019ll be able to move on with your life.<\/span><\/p>\n

Maybe you\u2019ll be so scared<\/span><\/a> that you\u2019ll think he\u2019ll pop up from behind every corner but he won\u2019t. <\/span><\/p>\n

Once you show him that you have taken all the action you can to protect yourself, he\u2019ll stop fighting it. <\/span><\/p>\n

He\u2019ll probably move on to another victim and do the same things to her. <\/span><\/p>\n

Abusers don\u2019t change so don\u2019t think that he\u2019ll ever become a good man. <\/span><\/p>\n

4. Provare la terapia <\/h2>\n

\"Psicologo<\/p>\n

Another good way to overcome the fear is to find a professional therapist who\u2019ll help you get rid of it. <\/span><\/p>\n

That way, you\u2019ll have someone to talk to, someone who\u2019ll listen to you without judging. <\/span><\/p>\n

You\u2019ll get all the knowledge you need to heal. This process might take longer than you thought but that\u2019s not so important. <\/span><\/p>\n

You\u2019re working on yourself<\/a> and you\u2019re allowed to take as much time as you need. You\u2019ll see that every time you go to therapy, you\u2019ll feel much better. <\/span><\/p>\n

That\u2019ll be your safe place where you can totally expose yourself. <\/span><\/p>\n

That\u2019s the place where you can be as vulnerable as you want. It\u2019s a place where nobody will judge you or do you any harm. <\/span><\/p>\n

That\u2019s a place where you will only get the help that you need to start healing so you can move on. <\/span><\/p>\n

5. Iscriversi a un corso di arti marziali per l'autodifesa. <\/h2>\n

\"Donna<\/p>\n

Un ottimo modo per superare la paura dopo una violenza domestica \u00e8 quello di iscriversi a un corso di arti marziali. <\/span><\/p>\n

Ci sono sport come la kickboxing, il jiu-jitsu, il krav maga e altri che possono aiutarvi ad avere fiducia in voi stessi. <\/span><\/p>\n

After you start training, you\u2019ll be more enthusiastic and you\u2019ll know you did something good for yourself. <\/span><\/p>\n

Also, you\u2019ll feel more powerful and you\u2019ll know that you can defend yourself if someone attacks you. <\/span><\/p>\n

Anche se si tratta solo di un piccolo passo avanti, per voi sar\u00e0 un passo da gigante.<\/span><\/p>\n

You\u2019ll see that after some time you won\u2019t feel any fear and that you\u2019ll be surprised how much better you feel mentally. <\/span><\/p>\n

Inoltre, \u00e8 possibile che durante la formazione si incontrino altre vittime di violenza domestica. <\/span><\/p>\n

Potete aiutarvi ed essere presenti l'uno per l'altro. Questo significher\u00e0 molto per ognuno di voi. <\/span><\/p>\n

6. Circondarsi di persone di cui ci si fida <\/h2>\n

\"Foto<\/p>\n

Once you escape a domestic violence relationship, it\u2019ll be hard for you to trust someone after that. <\/span><\/p>\n

That\u2019s why you should surround yourself with people you trust the most. If you have the need, you can ask your best friend to stay at your place for a couple of days. <\/span><\/p>\n

That\u2019ll help you feel safer. You\u2019ll know someone is always there for you and that nothing bad can happen to you. <\/span><\/p>\n

After some time, you\u2019ll feel better and you\u2019ll be able to live on your own. <\/span><\/p>\n

You won\u2019t be scared that he\u2019ll come and do you harm. You\u2019ll be totally recovered and<\/span> you\u2019ll never let any man treat you like that.<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n

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Domestic abuse is a hot topic nowadays. Even if you think it doesn\u2019t happen a lot, the numbers tell a different story. According to research, every nine seconds, a woman gets killed by her partner in the USA.  I don\u2019t need to mention that there are women who never ask for help and who are…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":21,"featured_media":47890,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29632],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-47882","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-abuse-and-trauma"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29632,"label":"abuse & trauma"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/shutterstock_312380828.jpg",800,534,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Maria Parker","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/author\/maria\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29632,"name":"abuse & trauma","slug":"abuse-and-trauma","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29632,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Learn the signs of emotional and physical abuse and how to protect yourself from toxic patterns in relationships with your partner, friends or family.","parent":22911,"count":138,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29632,"category_count":138,"category_description":"Learn the signs of emotional and physical abuse and how to protect yourself from toxic patterns in relationships with your partner, friends or family.","cat_name":"abuse & trauma","category_nicename":"abuse-and-trauma","category_parent":22911}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/47882","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/21"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=47882"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/47882\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/47890"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=47882"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=47882"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=47882"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}