{"id":48221,"date":"2019-11-20T15:15:23","date_gmt":"2019-11-20T15:15:23","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=48221"},"modified":"2022-05-18T22:18:58","modified_gmt":"2022-05-18T22:18:58","slug":"smettete-di-scendere-a-compromessi-per-farli-restare","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/smettete-di-scendere-a-compromessi-per-farli-restare\/","title":{"rendered":"Smettete di scendere a compromessi per farli restare"},"content":{"rendered":"

La vita \u00e8 piena di compromessi, <\/span><\/i>isn\u2019t it?<\/span><\/p>\n

And if life is full of compromises, the only thing that seems fair is to split those compromises, don\u2019t you think?<\/span><\/p>\n

S\u00ec, gli appuntamenti sono disordinati, cercare di mantenere i legami in questo mondo folle e veloce richiede molta energia e a volte ci sono cose che non sono prioritarie e quindi si rinuncia a farle. <\/span><\/p>\n

That\u2019s okay. <\/span><\/p>\n

Dovreste rinunciare alle cose che non sono importanti. <\/span><\/p>\n

But you have to be careful with what you\u2019re giving up on. <\/span><\/p>\n

Please don\u2019t ever put yourself in that basket. <\/span><\/p>\n

Don\u2019t ever put yourself in the <\/span>non prioritario<\/span><\/i> cestino. <\/span><\/p>\n

Il modo in cui vi trattate crea un precedente per gli altri su come trattarvi. Loro imparano da voi. <\/span><\/p>\n

You\u2019re the one showing them what you\u2019re willing to tolerate and what not. Don\u2019t teach them that their choices are much more important than yours. <\/span><\/p>\n

Don\u2019t teach them that their time is more valuable than yours. <\/b><\/p>\n

If you respond to their texts immediately and don\u2019t keep them waiting, you should get just as much in return. <\/span><\/p>\n

Don\u2019t treat their <\/span>3 ore dopo<\/span><\/i> reply as something normal. Don\u2019t be happy they decided to text back at least. No. It\u2019s not enough. <\/span><\/p>\n

Se si riorganizzano i propri piani per vederli e loro ti disdicono all'ultimo minuto<\/a>, don\u2019t be all thrilled and happy when they invite you out the next time. <\/span><\/p>\n

If the pattern is constantly repeated, it\u2019s not okay. Seeing them only on their terms is not okay.  No. It\u2019s not enough. <\/span><\/p>\n

Voi siete importanti.<\/span><\/p>\n

I vostri progetti sono importanti.<\/span><\/p>\n

\"Ritratto<\/p>\n

I vostri desideri sono importanti quanto i loro. <\/span><\/p>\n

Your job, your ambitions, desires, hobbies are as big and as important as anyone else’s. Don\u2019t let them take that from you.<\/b><\/p>\n

L'unica persona che dovete tenere nella vostra vita siete voi. <\/span><\/p>\n

The only person you\u2019re supposed to hold on tightly to and not let go of is yourself. <\/span><\/p>\n

Trust me, you can live without them, but you can\u2019t live without yourself, and you care about yourself the least. <\/span><\/p>\n

Le persone vanno e vengono. Gli amanti si separano. Gli amici scelgono strade diverse e si allontanano. <\/span><\/p>\n

Those who swore to stay together forever suddenly change their minds and leave, and as sad as it may sound, it\u2019s okay. It\u2019s life.<\/span><\/p>\n

Succede cos\u00ec. Con il tempo si perdono le persone. Ma per favore, non perdete mai voi stessi. <\/span><\/p>\n

You can\u2019t force people to stay in your life. Staying is a choice, so be thankful for people who choose you.<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n

You must\u2019ve seen people leave a 5-10 year relationship, turn around and get married to someone they\u2019ve known for 6 months, and do all the things their ex always begged them to do. Stop preaching to people. Stop compromising for them. <\/span><\/p>\n

They hear you. They\u2019re never going to be the people you want them to be because you\u2019re not the one they want in their life. <\/span><\/p>\n

Le persone cambiano per chi vogliono. \u00c8 cos\u00ec semplice. <\/span><\/p>\n

When you have to start compromising yourself or your morals for the people around you, it\u2019s probably time to change the people around you. <\/span><\/i><\/p>\n

You are supposed to love people and compromise but only to the point where you\u2019re not choosing them over yourself, to the point where you\u2019re not compromising your happiness for their presence.<\/span><\/p>\n

\"Donna<\/p>\n

Cercate di trovare un equilibrio tra il compromettere i vostri desideri e il rendere voi stessi una priorit\u00e0. E fatelo solo con persone che sono disposte a fare lo stesso con voi. <\/span><\/p>\n

Essere innamorati in questa generazione \u00e8 terrificante. La fedelt\u00e0 \u00e8 cos\u00ec rara e le persone sono pronte a scegliere un buon momento piuttosto che una buona cosa.<\/span><\/p>\n

So I\u2019ll make you a deal. Hear me out.<\/span><\/p>\n

Stop letting them touch you and kiss you and take up your time if they don\u2019t want anything serious. <\/span><\/p>\n

Stop checking up on them if they\u2019re not checking up on you. Stop rescheduling your life when they can\u2019t fit you in their schedule at all. <\/span><\/p>\n

Smettere di rendersi infelici per renderli felici. Smettete di implorare la loro presenza. <\/span><\/p>\n

Turn the game around. Dedicate all the time you were wasting on people who don\u2019t deserve it to yourself. Build yourself up. Talk nicely to yourself. Take yourself out. Treat yourself. Be your own privilege. <\/span><\/p>\n

E cosa succeder\u00e0? <\/span><\/p>\n

All those you were \u2018begging\u2019 to stay will slowly start disappearing from your life. <\/span><\/p>\n

Because the only person who was putting in the effort for that relationship will stop and then what\u2019s left? <\/span><\/p>\n

Sarete voi, circondati da poche persone, ma poche degne del vostro tempo. Sar\u00e0 come se un elefante vi avesse tolto una zampa dal petto. <\/span><\/p>\n

There will be plenty of life\u2019s battles to fight, but at least you\u2019ll know who you can count on.<\/span><\/p>\n

\"Smettete<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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