{"id":48719,"date":"2019-11-28T02:32:44","date_gmt":"2019-11-28T02:32:44","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=48719"},"modified":"2021-08-12T13:35:05","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T13:35:05","slug":"5-motivi-per-cui-quelluomo-distrutto-non-e-tuo-e-non-puoi-aggiustarlo","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/5-motivi-per-cui-quelluomo-distrutto-non-e-tuo-e-non-puoi-aggiustarlo\/","title":{"rendered":"5 motivi per cui quell'uomo distrutto non \u00e8 il vostro da riparare"},"content":{"rendered":"

Vi \u00e8 mai capitato di trovarvi in una situazione in cui avete incontrato un <\/span>uomo emotivamente danneggiato<\/span><\/a> che aveva un sacco di bagagli e problemi? <\/span><\/p>\n

Tuttavia, invece di scappare da lui e lasciare che affronti i suoi problemi da solo, avete deciso di fare l'esatto contrario: avete fatto in modo che il vostro compito fosse quello di sistemarlo.<\/span><\/p>\n

Se questo \u00e8 un caso che vi riguarda, ecco 5 motivi per cui questa \u00e8 stata la peggiore decisione della vostra vita.<\/span><\/p>\n

1. You\u2019re not a superwoman<\/h2>\n

\"Ritratto<\/p>\n

Quando si incontra per la prima volta un uomo emotivamente danneggiato o in difficolt\u00e0, si vede lui e la sua situazione come una sfida. <\/span><\/p>\n

After all, you\u2019ve achieved things that seemed way more impossible than this one.<\/span><\/p>\n

You are not a quitter, and you know how capable you are, so why couldn\u2019t you <\/span>sistemare quest'uomo<\/span><\/a> anche? <\/span><\/p>\n

Therefore, you convinced yourself that you\u2019re the only one who can open his heart to love, the only one who has the ability to chase away his demons, and the only one who can help him.<\/span><\/p>\n

Well, let me break your bubble\u2014you\u2019re not. <\/span><\/p>\n

You\u2019re a strong, powerful girl\u2014nobody can argue with that. However, that doesn\u2019t give you superpowers, and it doesn\u2019t make you omnipotent when it comes to others.<\/span><\/p>\n

You probably don\u2019t want to give up on this guy because you would see that as your personal defeat. <\/span><\/p>\n

However, instead of looking at things this way, remember that you can\u2019t do everything you set your mind to.<\/span><\/p>\n

2. You weren\u2019t the one who damaged him<\/h2>\n

\"Ritratto<\/p>\n

Tutti noi dovremmo assumerci la responsabilit\u00e0 delle nostre azioni e dei nostri errori. Quest'uomo \u00e8 rotto per un motivo. <\/span><\/p>\n

He was probably hurt by a woman from his past or he has some traumas, issues and emotional baggage he keeps carrying around and can\u2019t seem to get rid of.<\/span><\/p>\n

Tuttavia, ci\u00f2 che dovreste chiedervi \u00e8 se siete stati voi a far s\u00ec che lui si sentisse cos\u00ec. <\/span><\/p>\n

\u00c8 stata lei a spezzare il suo cuore e a cambiarlo per sempre?<\/span><\/p>\n

Of course, the answer is NO! You\u2019re not responsible for his wounds, so how can it be your duty to cure them?<\/span><\/p>\n

Remember: you can\u2019t repair what you didn\u2019t break. <\/span><\/p>\n

Yes, you can give him a hand in the process, but you can\u2019t be the one who does the healing instead of him.<\/span><\/p>\n

3. You can\u2019t save anyone<\/h2>\n

\"Coppia<\/p>\n

La dura verit\u00e0 che molti si rifiutano di affrontare \u00e8 che <\/span>you can\u2019t save<\/span><\/a> anyone, especially if they don\u2019t want to be saved. <\/span><\/p>\n

So che \u00e8 difficile da capire, ma ci sono persone che si sono abituate al loro dolore. \u00c8 diventato una parte cos\u00ec inseparabile di loro che hanno smesso di riconoscerlo come un male.<\/span><\/p>\n

There are people whose toxicity became their comfort zone and who actually don\u2019t have the desire to get rid of it. <\/span><\/p>\n

If your man is one of those people, sorry, but there is no point in trying to do his dirty work for him because you\u2019ll achieve nothing.<\/span><\/p>\n

Inoltre, se questo ragazzo, per esempio, ha bisogno di chiudere, deve ottenerlo dalla ragazza che lo ha fatto sentire cos\u00ec. <\/span><\/p>\n

Se ha bisogno di tempo per elaborare alcune cose e allontanarsi dal suo dolore, \u00e8 lui che deve farlo con o senza di voi nella sua vita.<\/span><\/p>\n

You can\u2019t take over his burden, as much as you want to, and you can\u2019t magically erase his scars. Well, technically you can try, but that would only be temporary.<\/span><\/p>\n

4. He\u2019ll only pull you down with him<\/h2>\n

\"Giovane<\/p>\n

Quando avete iniziato a pensare a come aiutare quest'uomo, probabilmente avete immaginato lo scenario migliore. <\/span><\/p>\n

Your love, honesty, and devotion would soften his heart. He\u2019d get rid of the shields which kept him guarded, and he\u2019d show you his true, vulnerable self.<\/span><\/p>\n

Se ci riuscirete, lo porterete alla luce e tutti i suoi demoni e i suoi traumi saranno solo un ricordo lontano. <\/span><\/p>\n

Sounds great, I know\u2014almost too great to be true.<\/span><\/p>\n

However, what you didn\u2019t take into consideration is for things to happen the other way around. <\/span><\/p>\n

Vedete, c'\u00e8 sempre la possibilit\u00e0 che vi trascini gi\u00f9 con lui e che vi danneggi, proprio come lui.<\/span><\/p>\n

There\u2019s a very real possibility for his negativity and toxicity to overweigh your positive energy and the love you\u2019re bringing to the table; a possibility for you both to end up completely messed up.<\/span><\/p>\n

5. Bisogna concentrarsi su se stessi<\/h2>\n

\"Gustare<\/p>\n

For as long as you can remember, you\u2019ve been a selfless person who has taken care of other people\u2019s needs. <\/span><\/p>\n

You were everyone\u2019s shoulder to cry on, the wind to their wings, and the person who never gave up on her closest ones.<\/span><\/p>\n

And that is an awesome quality. You\u2019re obviously an <\/span>empatico<\/span><\/a> che \u00e8 pronta a smuovere le montagne per le persone che ama.<\/span><\/p>\n

However, instead of taking over someone else’s problems, it is about time for you to focus on yourself. <\/span><\/p>\n

It is about time to give yourself the place which belongs to you\u2014a place on the top of your own priority list.<\/span><\/p>\n

E non c'\u00e8 nulla di egoistico in questo. Al contrario, \u00e8 l'unico modo in cui le cose dovrebbero funzionare.<\/span><\/p>\n

Don\u2019t get me wrong\u2014I\u2019m not advising you to become an egocentric maniac who only cares for her own wellbeing. <\/span><\/p>\n

However, I\u2019m begging you not to get yourself in a situation where you\u2019ll drain all of your energy on trying to help others and end up with no strength to lift yourself up when you need it.<\/span><\/p>\n

Please, redirect all of the effort and time you\u2019ve been giving to this man to yourself. <\/span><\/p>\n

Assicuratevi di diventare la migliore versione possibile di voi stesse e la donna che sapete di essere destinata a diventare prima di andare l\u00e0 fuori e concentrarvi sugli altri.<\/span><\/p>\n

Sounds kind of ruthless, I know. Nevertheless, it is the only way in which your own life won\u2019t suffer because of others.<\/span><\/p>\n

Because the truth is that no matter how deeply you care for another person, you have to put yourself first because you\u2019re the one who matters the most. <\/span><\/p>\n

E bisogna sempre amare se stessi prima di amare gli altri.<\/span><\/p>\n

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