{"id":48920,"date":"2019-11-29T18:54:08","date_gmt":"2019-11-29T18:54:08","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=48920"},"modified":"2022-02-27T10:50:15","modified_gmt":"2022-02-27T10:50:15","slug":"perdonare-te-stessa-per-tutti-gli-uomini-sbagliati-che-hai-amato","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/perdonare-te-stessa-per-tutti-gli-uomini-sbagliati-che-hai-amato\/","title":{"rendered":"Perdonarsi per tutti gli uomini sbagliati che si sono amati"},"content":{"rendered":"

Siamo onesti. Quando si guarda alla propria storia di appuntamenti, non si pu\u00f2 fare a meno di notare che si sono avuti dei partner a dir poco schifosi. Ma chi di noi non ne ha avuti?<\/span><\/p>\n

It doesn\u2019t matter if you were involved with a serial cheater, a manipulative narcissist, an <\/span>emotionally immature mama\u2019s boy<\/span><\/a>, a player who led you on, a possessive jealous man, or any other type of toxic guy who made your existence a living hell and ended up breaking your heart in million pieces \u2013 the bottom line is the same: Choosing these men wasn\u2019t the best decision of your life.<\/span><\/p>\n

After everything you\u2019ve been through, it is perfectly natural that you\u2019d like to have the ability to go back in time and do everything different. <\/span><\/p>\n

You wish you never had met this guy who destroyed you and changed your life for good, or at least that you could get yourself a magic stick that\u2019d magically erase this man from your past.<\/span><\/p>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

However, sadly, that\u2019s not possible. And even if it were, it shouldn\u2019t be something you desire, despite all the pain you experienced.<\/span><\/p>\n

And you know why? Because each one of these men \u2013 these heartbreakers \u2013 shaped you into the woman you are today.<\/span><\/p>\n

They served as a valuable lesson, helped you grow, and made you discover some things about yourself you didn\u2019t even know existed. <\/span><\/p>\n

Most importantly, they showed you your strength, made you realize everything you\u2019re capable of, and made you understand what you don\u2019t want from relationships and life in general.<\/span><\/p>\n

Quindi, <\/span>perch\u00e9 continui a incolparti per aver fatto tutte queste scelte sbagliate?<\/b> Dopo tutto, si trattava di decisioni che ritenevate giuste in un determinato momento e che dovreste sostenere.<\/span><\/p>\n

Perch\u00e9 vi considerate colpevoli per il modo in cui vi hanno trattato? Perch\u00e9 vi ritenete responsabili delle loro malefatte?<\/b><\/p>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t get me wrong. It\u2019s not that I judge you for feeling this way. In fact, I know exactly what kind of thoughts go through your mind.<\/span><\/p>\n

I know you still can\u2019t believe you were that foolish and didn\u2019t know better. <\/span><\/p>\n

Vi rimproverate di non aver ascoltato il vostro istinto e di aver seguito il vostro intuito, quando invece stavano cercando di dirvi di correre per la propria vita<\/a>.<\/span><\/p>\n

You can\u2019t get over the fact that you didn\u2019t see the signs staring right there in front of you all along. <\/span><\/p>\n

Che vi siete rifiutati di togliervi gli occhiali da sole colorati di rosa e di affrontare la verit\u00e0, per quanto dolorosa fosse.<\/span><\/p>\n

You can\u2019t help but blame yourself for all the endless second chances you gave away, even though you knew none of these men deserved it in the first place.<\/span><\/p>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

For believing they\u2019ll change, despite knowing very well that was utterly impossible.<\/span><\/p>\n

You regret all the effort you put into relationships that had no future, all the sacrifices you made, and all the times you attempted to stop things from going downhill, regardless of it being crystal clear that they couldn\u2019t be saved.<\/span><\/p>\n

Ti rimproveri ancora per esserti ingannato e per aver creduto alle loro bugie, alle loro vuote scuse e alle loro false promesse. Per esserti accontentato di meno di quanto meriti.<\/span><\/p>\n

Per aver sprecato anni della vostra vita con qualcuno che non avreste mai dovuto far entrare. Per averli amati pi\u00f9 di quanto amassi te stesso. Per essere stata una sciocca a permettergli di trattarti come ha fatto.<\/span><\/p>\n

Tuttavia, <\/span>I\u2019m here to tell you that you really are not guilty of anything.<\/b><\/p>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

After all, you never had bad intentions and everything you did was led by your heart. That\u2019s something you should be proud of.<\/span><\/p>\n

At the end of the day, you know that you gave your best to everyone who\u2019s ever been a part of your life. <\/span><\/p>\n

You know you put all of your efforts into making things work and that relationship failures aren\u2019t your fault.<\/span><\/p>\n

Quindi, per favore, abbiate la forza di perdonare voi stessi per le vostre scelte sbagliate e smettete di permettere al vostro passato di influenzarvi ulteriormente. <\/b><\/p>\n

Don\u2019t think of yourself as predestined for a life of misery when it comes to romance just because you made some mistakes before. <\/span><\/p>\n

Don\u2019t consider yourself <\/b>unworthy of another man\u2019s love<\/b><\/a> just because your douchebag of an ex wasn\u2019t giving you enough attention.<\/b><\/p>\n

If you were the bigger man and managed to let go of resentment against the ones who\u2019ve done you harm, why are you so hard on yourself?<\/b><\/p>\n

\"uomo<\/p>\n

If you mustered the strength to forget about taking revenge against the ones who broke your heart, why can\u2019t you give yourself a break too?<\/b><\/p>\n

After all, you couldn\u2019t have known what was going to happen. <\/span><\/p>\n

You\u2019re no magician and you don\u2019t have the ability to predict the future, so the truth is that you couldn\u2019t have known what would happen and protect yourself in time.<\/span><\/p>\n

Inoltre, sei tu che sei stato <\/span>tradito<\/span><\/a>controllati, manipolati, mentiti e abusati in vari modi.<\/span><\/p>\n

Remember that you were the victim here. And no matter what, it\u2019s never the victim’s fault!<\/b><\/p>\n

\"Perdonarsi<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Let\u2019s be honest. When you look at your dating history, you can\u2019t help but notice that you\u2019ve had some, to say at least, shitty partners. But who of us haven\u2019t? It doesn\u2019t matter if you were involved with a serial cheater, a manipulative narcissist, an emotionally immature mama\u2019s boy, a player who led you on,…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":40,"featured_media":48923,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29617],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-48920","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-heartbreak"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29617,"label":"heartbreak"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/woman-open-arms-while-closed-eyes-smiling-photo-712413-1.jpg",800,533,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Tara Brown","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/author\/tara-brown\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29617,"name":"heartbreak","slug":"heartbreak","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29617,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Recovering after having your heart broken is tough. That's why I've decided to collect different stories of heartbreak - to help everyone going through the same.","parent":38,"count":146,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29617,"category_count":146,"category_description":"Recovering after having your heart broken is tough. That's why I've decided to collect different stories of heartbreak - to help everyone going through the same.","cat_name":"heartbreak","category_nicename":"heartbreak","category_parent":38}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/48920","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/40"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=48920"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/48920\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/48923"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=48920"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=48920"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=48920"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}