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<\/p>\nI\u2019ve become reflective as I approach my last year in my thirties. It\u2019s been a hell of a decade, and I\u2019ve still got a year to go. Maybe it\u2019s just life in general; clarity finally settling in since I\u2019ve let myself heal from a terrible experience. Either way, let me share my top seven (because that\u2019s my favorite number) lessons I\u2019ve learned in my almost thirty-nine years. I\u2019ve been there, done that, and this is what I\u2019ve learned\u2026<\/p>\n
1. No one, except you, has a responsibility to love you. No one will love, care or feel exactly like you do, AND that\u2019s okay.<\/p>\n
I used to get so upset when someone didn\u2019t do for me what I\u2019d do for them. I thought they were a bad friend. Maybe they are doing what they think is right, or they just don\u2019t care like I do. Either way, I don\u2019t have any control over it. It\u2019s a waste of time and energy to think you can change it. You are responsible for loving yourself. You must love yourself enough so much that when others don\u2019t see your awesomeness, it doesn\u2019t matter. Just keep being awesome.<\/p>\n
2. Siete responsabili di ci\u00f2 che diventate. Non potete incolpare il vostro passato per il vostro futuro.<\/p>\n
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I\u2019m sure each of us has our own Hell we\u2019ve lived through and survived. What is important is that it doesn\u2019t define what your future holds. I once had a boss tell me, \u201cOnce you make a decision, you can\u2019t go back; that\u2019s not where you are or where you\u2019re going anymore.\u201d He was\/is right. Your past is behind you. You can\u2019t change it. You must move forward.<\/p>\n
3. If it sounds like a lie and feels like a lie, it\u2019s a lie. Walk away.<\/p>\n
Trust your gut. First impressions can say so much. Don\u2019t short a person a second impression, but if it\u2019s the same as the first, don\u2019t hesitate to remember that. Don\u2019t fall victim to a liar. Liars are out there. They will use you and twist the story to their advantage. Why? Because they are liars. Keep up. Also, be prepared to lose some \u201cfriends\u201d along the way. They will believe the liars. It\u2019s okay, you\u2019re bigger than them and will still succeed. It\u2019s a blip on the radar. It sounds insensitive, but so are they.<\/p>\n
4. DO NOT – I repeat – DO NOT let your pride keep you in a situation that is wrong. Admit you messed up, and move on.<\/p>\n
I\u2019m a pretty prideful person, and I HATE losing. With that said, I\u2019m also pretty quick to admit I\u2019m wrong. Learn your lesson, and move on. I\u2019ve stayed in a bad situation far too long because my pride was hurt. You won\u2019t win. You\u2019ll stay too long in a toxic situation and lose yourself. I\u2019ve been there. I compromised a huge belief of mine and paid the ultimate price, and I\u2019m still healing. I may never be 100%, but that\u2019s on me. But, I also finally walked away. It still hurts, but my perspective on the entire situation has now changed. Refer back to 1-3 here. But DON\u2019T stay. Get out and get perspective.<\/p>\n
5. La vita \u00e8 bella. Guardatevi intorno. Concentratevi sul bene. Il male\/negativo ci sar\u00e0 sempre, ma il bene prevale. Assicuratevi di vederlo.<\/p>\n
I have a beautiful daughter. I have a loving, devoted, honest husband (who also happens to be my best friend). My husband and I started dating when I was almost 17, so you could say we\u2019ve grown up together. He\u2019s seen me at my worst (and my worstest {without even knowing why}) and has stood by my side; his love never wavering. I choose to focus on the good I have surrounding me. I\u2019ve got some great friends. I keep in touch. I\u2019m a good person with some MAJOR mistakes under my belt. But I choose to focus on the good…my circle, my people. And I\u2019m SO MUCH MORE SELECTIVE of who fits in that group now. Focus on the good. Refer back to 1-4, we\u2019re building as you go if you haven\u2019t caught on.<\/p>\n
6. If someone says you can\u2019t; prove that you can. Never let someone influence your dreams.<\/p>\n
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Be YOU and be AWESOME. My Mom was an amazing person. I, unfortunately, didn\u2019t realize how awesome until she was gone. We had a complicated relationship, but my final opinion is that she fought her entire life to be independent, self sufficient, and STRONG. I\u2019ve worked hard. I\u2019ve been told \u2018no\u2019 during my career. It\u2019s pissed me off, BUT, it\u2019s also pushed me to work harder and achieve the goals I knew I deserved to accomplish. Don\u2019t let them tell you \u2018no\u2019. Pass them, and don\u2019t look back. I\u2019m not done. Show others (but mainly yourself) what you are capable of. Don\u2019t stop until you want to.<\/p>\n
7. Essere. A volte \u00e8 importante essere e basta. Mia madre l'ha scritto nel suo diario anni fa e l'ho scoperto mentre stavamo ripulendo il suo appartamento dopo la sua morte. Essere. Sembra cos\u00ec semplice, eppure tutti noi facciamo fatica a farlo.<\/p>\n
This last year I\u2019ve reflected a lot. I\u2019ve re-lived some bad shit in my head several times over and over. I can\u2019t hate the person involved as much as I\u2019ve tried. I can only assume they hate me. We don\u2019t talk anymore. This makes me unbelievably sad, but I also have to remind myself that sometimes you don\u2019t get closure. I\u2019ve spent time being. I\u2019ve spent time reflecting. I\u2019ve spent time reflecting. I\u2019ve been SUPER MOM. I\u2019ve longed for my Mom to be here, so I could talk to her about all of the shit I\u2019m going thru. If anyone would understand, she would. I used to get so FRUSTRATED with her when she thought of her past, but I\u2019ve come to realize that sometimes BAD SHIT happens, and you\u2019ve got to deal…and live on. Mom\u2019s message to me \u201cBe\u201d makes me focus on today. I can\u2019t go back and make changes. I\u2019ve got to move forward. I\u2019ve got to be awesome. Because she was. I had someone tell me how much like her I was not too long ago. When I was younger, that would have been an insult. Today, let me tell you, I\u2019d fucking walk thru hot coals because I\u2019m badass, just like she was.<\/p>\n
di Gwen Kielman<\/strong><\/p>\n I\u2019ve become reflective as I approach my last year in my thirties. It\u2019s been a hell of a decade, and I\u2019ve still got a year to go. Maybe it\u2019s just life in general; clarity finally settling in since I\u2019ve let myself heal from a terrible experience. Either way, let me share my top seven (because…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":40,"featured_media":49194,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29618],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-49132","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-moving-on"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29618,"label":"moving on"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/12\/shutterstock_1193205121.jpg",800,531,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Tara Brown","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/author\/tara-brown\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29618,"name":"moving on","slug":"moving-on","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29618,"taxonomy":"category","description":"When nothing else works - inspiring stories about moving on are bound to help you let go of people and situations you never thought you could live without.\r\n","parent":38,"count":200,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29618,"category_count":200,"category_description":"When nothing else works - inspiring stories about moving on are bound to help you let go of people and situations you never thought you could live without.\r\n","cat_name":"moving on","category_nicename":"moving-on","category_parent":38}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/49132","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/40"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=49132"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/49132\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/49194"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=49132"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=49132"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=49132"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}![\"Gi\u00e0](\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/12\/Uncertainty-Is-Inevitable-So-Flexibility-Is-Essential-1-683x1024.jpg\" "\\"Gi\u00e0")
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