{"id":51650,"date":"2020-01-20T23:46:51","date_gmt":"2020-01-20T23:46:51","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=51650"},"modified":"2022-01-24T16:12:43","modified_gmt":"2022-01-24T16:12:43","slug":"quando-si-rifiuta-di-essere-esclusivo","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/quando-si-rifiuta-di-essere-esclusivo\/","title":{"rendered":"6 severi promemoria per farvi ragionare quando lui rifiuta l'esclusiva"},"content":{"rendered":"

Vi \u00e8 mai capitato di avere una relazione con un uomo che non ha la decenza di scegliervi davvero, nonostante tutto quello che avete passato insieme, tutto il tempo che avete trascorso insieme e tutto quello che gli avete dato? <\/span><\/p>\n

Vi \u00e8 mai capitato di essere attratti da un uomo che <\/span>can\u2019t make up his mind about you<\/span><\/a> e continua a trovare scuse per evitare di dare un'etichetta ufficiale alla vostra relazione?<\/span><\/p>\n

If you have, this one’s for you. It is for all the girls who need their eyes opened and to be faced with the harsh reality of their almost relationships. <\/span><\/p>\n

1. You shouldn\u2019t be anyone\u2019s option<\/h2>\n

\"Giovane<\/p>\n

First and foremost, what you need to know is that you should either be with a man who treats you like his first and only choice or you shouldn\u2019t have a boyfriend at all. <\/span><\/p>\n

Il peggiore scenario possibile \u00e8 essere uno di questi <\/span>man\u2019s options<\/span><\/a>. <\/span><\/p>\n

You shouldn\u2019t compete with anyone. To be in a situation where he likes you more than other girls he\u2019s seeing is not something you should be content with, because these girls shouldn\u2019t even exist. <\/span><\/p>\n

You shouldn\u2019t compete to win the first place in his life because there shouldn\u2019t be any other places to begin with. <\/span><\/p>\n

Even though you fail to see it now, you\u2019re worth so much more than being merely one of the women this guy is involved with. He is not some kind of a trophy you should run for.<\/span><\/p>\n

Instead, what you need is a man who has his eyes for you only. A man who wouldn\u2019t be with anyone else even if he loses you and doesn\u2019t even notice other women, let alone have anything to do with them.<\/span><\/p>\n

Everything else is bullshit and settling for less. I know that looking at things from your point of view, all of this seems unrealistic, but trust me, you shouldn\u2019t accept anything other than this kind of treatment. <\/span><\/p>\n

2. He\u2019s not the only man in the world<\/h2>\n

\"Amici<\/p>\n

When you\u2019ve been in love with one guy for a long period of time, he becomes the centre of your world. <\/span><\/p>\n

For you, no other man exists and you couldn\u2019t picture yourself next to anyone else. <\/span><\/p>\n

Well, this is where you\u2019re wrong. Even though you don\u2019t see it now, there are many other better men in the world who are luckily nowhere near this douchebag. <\/span><\/p>\n

C'\u00e8 un uomo l\u00e0 fuori che vi tratter\u00e0 come una principessa, che \u00e8 l'unico modo in cui meritate di essere trattate. <\/span><\/p>\n

Un uomo che non abbia dubbi su di voi, che non vi faccia mai mettere in dubbio il vostro valore e che vi dia tutto il suo cuore, senza trattenere alcuna parte di esso. <\/span><\/p>\n

However, you can\u2019t meet this man as long as you\u2019re fully focused on this asshole, can you? <\/span><\/p>\n

You can\u2019t give a nice guy like this a chance to approach you while you keep on giving all of your energy away to someone who doesn\u2019t give a damn about you.<\/span><\/p>\n

\"Ragazza<\/p>\n

The worst part is that this guy we\u2019re talking about knows all of this.<\/span><\/p>\n

He knows that you\u2019re completely faithful to him, even though he hasn\u2019t given you the title of his girlfriend, and he is very well aware that you\u2019re not going anywhere, despite his awful behavior.<\/span><\/p>\n

Well, let me open your eyes and tell you that nothing will change as long as he is certain that you\u2019ll be there patiently waiting for him to make up his mind about you. <\/span><\/p>\n

And while I\u2019m not saying that you should drag someone third in your rollercoaster just to <\/span>farlo ingelosire<\/span><\/a> e per dimostrare una tesi, provate almeno a mettervi in gioco.<\/span><\/p>\n

No, don\u2019t go looking for a rebound; don\u2019t force yourself for something you\u2019re not ready for. <\/span><\/p>\n

Espandi i tuoi orizzonti e dai almeno la possibilit\u00e0 ad altri uomini di conoscerti e di mostrarti quello che hanno da offrire, invece di perdere altro tempo ad aspettarti qualcosa che non arriver\u00e0 mai.  <\/span><\/p>\n

3. You\u2019re allowing him to treat you this way<\/h2>\n

\"ritratto<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t get me wrong: I\u2019m not claiming that you\u2019re to blame for everything that is going on in your almost relationship. <\/span><\/p>\n

In fact, you\u2019re the victim here and your <\/span>quasi fidanzato<\/span><\/a> \u00e8 uno stronzo che ti sta consapevolmente illudendo e facendo giochi mentali con te. <\/span><\/p>\n

However, you have to admit that you\u2019re the one who is letting him get away with everything he\u2019s doing. <\/span><\/p>\n

You\u2019re the one who is allowing him to treat you this way and the one who never made him suffer the consequences of his actions.<\/span><\/p>\n

You see, every time you take this guy back, fall for his lies and empty promises, and give him a little more time, you\u2019re actually telling him that you\u2019re perfectly fine with being in this position. <\/span><\/p>\n

Every time you decide to wait for him to make up his mind and hand him another chance, you\u2019re giving him a green light to keep up with the good work and to continue with his toxic behavior patterns. <\/span><\/p>\n

Because if you were so hurt by his actions, you would have walked away on him ages ago, wouldn\u2019t you?<\/span><\/p>\n

\"Scatto<\/p>\n

If you\u2019re so bothered by the things he\u2019s doing and if this relationship has been making you so miserable, you wouldn\u2019t have remained in it for a minute longer, right? <\/span><\/p>\n

On the other hand, you and I both know that you\u2019re heartbroken and unhappy. <\/span><\/p>\n

You\u2019re aware of all the pain that this entire situationship has been causing you and of the hell it turned your life into.<\/span><\/p>\n

So, why don\u2019t you change something about it, instead of just complaining in vain? <\/span><\/p>\n

Why don\u2019t you actually do something to make a difference in your life, instead of blabbing empty words? <\/span><\/p>\n

Trust me, he won\u2019t take you seriously as long as you threaten to leave him but keep on staying right where you are. <\/span><\/p>\n

4. He doesn\u2019t care for you enough<\/h2>\n

\"Una<\/p>\n

Let\u2019s be straight here: this guy is not emotionally unavailable, this is not the wrong timing, he doesn\u2019t carry past traumas that prevent him from having a healthy relationship. <\/span><\/p>\n

And this is not his weird and unique way of showing love. In fact, these are all excuses you and women in similar situations to yours use to justify the douchebags they\u2019re involved in.<\/span><\/p>\n

L'unica verit\u00e0 \u00e8 che this man is an asshole who won\u2019t change<\/a> in un milione di anni. <\/span><\/p>\n

As much as this hurts to admit, the fact is that he doesn\u2019t love you, never did, and never will.<\/span><\/p>\n

At least, he doesn\u2019t love you enough to make you his girlfriend. <\/span><\/p>\n

He might like you or care for you to a certain extent, but he doesn\u2019t care about you the way men care about women they want to be in a relationship with. <\/span><\/p>\n

You see, when a guy loves you, he never second guesses you. He doesn\u2019t treat you like one of his options, put you on hold, and lead you on for ages. <\/span><\/p>\n

\"coppia<\/p>\n

Quando un <\/span>l'uomo ti ama<\/span><\/a> per davvero, si assicura che lo sappiate e sfrutta ogni occasione possibile per dimostrarvelo. <\/span><\/p>\n

He doesn\u2019t need time to make a decision and he labels your relationship right from the start.<\/span><\/p>\n

Tutto il resto \u00e8 una scusa vuota. <\/span><\/p>\n

So please, stop lying to yourself and face the painful reality, as much as it hurts. I know it\u2019s difficult, but trust me, it\u2019s way better to do it now before it becomes too late. <\/span><\/p>\n

Dopo tutto, potrebbe essere pi\u00f9 facile per voi dimenticarlo una volta che iniziate a vedere le cose come sono veramente. <\/span><\/p>\n

Questa presa di coscienza potrebbe aiutarvi a perdere tutte le vostre speranze e servirvi come punto di partenza nel vostro processo di avanzamento. <\/span><\/p>\n

5. Le altre ragazze non sono da biasimare<\/h2>\n

\"Donna<\/p>\n

When the guy they\u2019re in love keeps on texting or seeing other girls, many women have the habit of blaming those girls for their misfortune. This is actually not so surprising. <\/span><\/p>\n

It is much easier to accuse all those other women for hitting on their man who was innocent enough to fall into their trap than to admit that their partner doesn\u2019t respect them enough to be loyal and faithful.<\/span><\/p>\n

If this is something you can relate to, it\u2019s about time to stop. <\/span><\/p>\n

Other women are not guilty for what your boyfriend is doing because they didn\u2019t force him into sleeping with them and he is not a little boy who can be manipulated into doing something he doesn\u2019t want to.<\/span><\/p>\n

Inoltre, anche se queste ragazze sapessero della tua esistenza, non ti devono nulla. <\/span><\/p>\n

However, he does and it is his job to appreciate your emotions and everything you\u2019ve given him \u2013 not theirs. <\/span><\/p>\n

This is especially the case if you find yourself in a situation where this guy finds an actual girlfriend after dragging you along for months, trying to convince you that he doesn\u2019t want anything serious. <\/span><\/p>\n

If this happens, don\u2019t call this woman names and don\u2019t seek revenge on her: it is more than obvious that <\/span>he wasn\u2019t ready<\/span><\/a> per una relazione con voi, figuriamoci per una relazione qualsiasi. <\/span><\/p>\n

Bummer, I know. However, it is the only truth and you\u2019ll just have to find a way to deal with it the best way you can. <\/span><\/p>\n

6. It\u2019s better to be single than in a half-relationship<\/h2>\n

\"Donna<\/p>\n

If you\u2019re one of those girls who is scared of ending up all by herself, let me tell you that it is always better to be single than in a relationship that is everything but that. <\/span><\/p>\n

Don\u2019t accept crumbs of anyone\u2019s love and attention because you think you wouldn\u2019t make it on your own. <\/span><\/p>\n

No, rare moments of this guy\u2019s affection, cuddling, steamy sex, and good morning texts he sends you every now and then, together with the misleading sense of familiarity he gives you, are not worthy of all the problems this man brings along. <\/span><\/p>\n

Trust me, you don\u2019t need <\/span>problemi di relazione<\/span><\/a> with someone you\u2019re not in a relationship with. <\/span><\/p>\n

You shouldn\u2019t be wasting any more time being all faithful to a dude who is out there living the life of a bachelor. <\/span><\/p>\n

You shouldn\u2019t be next to someone who is making you unhappy.<\/span><\/p>\n

Invece, prendete la vita nelle vostre mani e fatene il meglio, perch\u00e9 essere single \u00e8 sempre meglio che avere una relazione a met\u00e0.<\/span><\/p>\n

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